My husband and I have been married for almost two years and we live far away from our hometown due to the military. In fact we live in a quite larger place and he has to travel far distances to get to work every day. I do not have a car yet. We only have his car which gives us problems so much. He really wants to sell the one he has to get a car that doesn't run and bye a motor for it. He wants to start racing. It seems to be a dream he has and by all means I do not want to affect that but I've been telling that maybe he should get a dependable car while we are here. We have 3 more years. I want to know should I back off , since he is the bread winner at the moment?
2007-04-24 14:55:14 · 12 answers · asked by ~Nicole~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tell him he can get the car if you get a scooter. You need transportation no matter who's the breadwinner.
2007-04-24 15:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by doovinator 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, it has nothing to do with who is the bread winner here. Both of you become one, which means that you can talk to him. Tell him a nice way possible that it is making you unhappy. You do not back off from problem. He drives the car to work, which mean that you are home alone and can't go anywhere. Is there a money problem as to why one car is enough for both of you? I was going to say also that you can take him to work so you can have the car when he is at work to do whatever you want to do, grocery etc, but then I saw that you said he works so far away. Talk to him, be generous, and listen exactly what he has to say, and then you reason with him. Good luck! That would drive me insane. Also, didn't you have a car before you married him?
2007-04-24 22:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by heavenlyours2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet heart, it shouldn't matter that he is the breadwinner or brings home the bacon or whatever else. You are a family unit and he can't do what he feels like without thought to the both of you. To answer your question- No, you should not back off.
It is great that he has a dream but it seems more pressing that you guys have a reliable mode of transportation. If he has a racing dream, you should create some type of saving plan that will contribute to that goal. It is not as if you are saying never. Unfortunately, now is not the time.
Make a plan to start saving and then go from there.
2007-04-24 22:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Parlez Entertainment 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, because this is the only means of transportation you have and he should get a dependable car to get back and forth to work and instead of racing he needs to get you a car so that you can get around and maybe help out by getting a job. I think he is being selfish and although he is the bread winner he is not being responsible right now. You guys are a team and you have to work together and he is neglecting his responsibilities for a dream he has and that's not fair to you. Talk with him and let him know your concerns and maybe when you all get the second car and things are better he can start back working on his dream but for right now he needs to deal with what's going on currently and let him dreams go for right now....good luck
2007-04-24 22:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Pegi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back off and when you get a job, get you a dependable car. I wouldn't let this cause strife in the union, but I would state my opinion for the last and final time. Ask him like this... Honey, do you think that getting a race car is the best idea, seeing that we don't have a car?How are you gonna get to and from work if you buy a car that doesn't run in order to get a car that is only good for you? Then after he answer, tell him (softly, while looking puzzled) I just needed to know.
2007-04-28 21:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 heads are better than one and if you think putting a good engine in a car that doesnt run will be good(if it has low mileage and is graunteed) then go for it, youll pay less doing that than buying another used one if all thats wrong with the non running one is the engine.Yet he should also see about getting another car for a spare in case.Sometimes you can find a good cheap used one.You just have to look.THEN after you do this see about racing a car.Itd be bad if he had all his money tied up in the race car and the only car you had went bad.
2007-04-24 22:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are right you both need a dependable car do get around. When you get more established then he should be able to live his dream. If you both decided for him to live his dream you might resent him if you do not have a dependable car. You need that in case of an emergency was to happen.
2007-04-24 22:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you try to find a job close to home? Anywhere, gas station, grocery store, something to bring in a little extra cash for a second vehicle. I would not let up. It is important to have dependable transportation...not a race car.
2007-04-24 22:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be careful but don't back off. This is not the time to think about racing. I think he needs to talk to people that do race. It takes a lot of money to just race and a lot more to think about winning. I think he should sell his car and buy both of you a car. You are his wife and need to be a priority.
Thanks and good luck
2007-04-24 22:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by Krazee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what is stopping YOU from getting out and getting a job and purchasing a dependable vehicle?
2007-04-24 22:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋