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My best friend just came to me in tears and i dont know what to tell her...so im seeking advice from those that know...She got married a year ago..to a great man are so she thought...He had emotional affairs because is impotent...he never told my friend before she married him that he couldnt preform. which i feel he is wrong. once she found out she said ok how can u fix this...He stated surgery he never went..then he started having emotional affairs with other women for 8 months...Once she found out she was so hurt..She committed adultery non intentionally she didnt know she was that weak..she prayed and ask god for forgiveness..but now shes wants to leave so that he can go on with his life...because she cant live without being able to sleep with him and deal with his cheating ways and then deal with the fact she messed up. Will GOD punish her for this?
or should she stay .knowing that
2007-04-24 14:39:58 · 13 answers · asked by Help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God is a forgiving God and if she sincerely asked for forgiveness I'm sure he did just that. This is what I tell people all the time, SEX is a very important factor in a marriage and yes he did mislead her and he started cheating first, although he is not able to complete a sex act he is cheating on her and she is very unhappy and she should seek out a god lawyer to get a divorce and move on with her life. God has forgiven her now she just needs to forgive herself and make it right by leaving him and moving on with her life...good luck
2007-04-24 14:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by Pegi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is impotent and can not have sexual affairs with another women he is still cheating on her by having "relationships" with other women. As for whether or not God will punish her only he can answer that. If she has truly prayed and asked God for forgiveness than that Is all she can do. Now whatever her decision is she needs to continue to seek God and strengthen herself through him. He will give her the answers that she needs. Speak to a minister/pastor at a church. She can go to some churches and get christian counseling. Pray for your friend and be there for her.
God bless and best wishes!
2007-04-24 21:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by nimbus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first things first: ADULTERY IS ADULTERY whether it's emotional or physical. and it never happens purely by "accident". Your best friend's husband was too prideful to tell her the truth before and/or DURING the marriage, and is trying to get his needs met from other women. There are too many options available nowadays (surgery, Levitra, Viagra) for him to claim impotence as a major downfall. He sounds like a coward to me, not even wanting to trust his WIFE with his secret. and TWO WRONGS DON'T MAKE A RIGHT! Her sexual frustrations do NOT give her the right to sleep with anyone else besides her husband. They both have issues that they both need to clear up. I would suggest counseling or sex therapy of some sort. God is able to forgive any sin, but at this point, this isn't the issue. If either one of them cared what God thinks...they wouldn't be in this situation. As a best friend, help your best friend (even if it's just by listening) get through this tough time in her marriage.
2007-04-24 22:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Elle M. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since there's been no sex in the marriage and he was dishonest about their sexual compatibility, even more so that he's impotent, she should DEFINATELY MOVE ON & START A NEW LIFE. She deserves security, stability in a relationship, honesty, and LOTS OF GOOD SEX.
There's no such thing as a well-rounded healthy relationship if sex and intimacy are missing. You may as well be single w/out limitations of enjoying your life!! Otherwise you'll end up feeling as if your in a cage.
It will be hard for her at 1st. Maybe a year or so to get used to being on her own. But the later rewards, fulfillment, happiness and self-development, and learning from this whole life experience-ultimately ALL these rewards will greatly outweigh a little of the hardship she'll face soon--kinda surgically removing him from her life.
God won't punish her. I believe in a Universal Spirit anyways,......things will get a lot better for her.
2007-04-24 22:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by Shuggah Pie Sweets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Correction...no one cheats unintentionally. People make a decision to do it and then they do it.
Regardless, it sounds like the man misrepresented himself before marriage and then used it as an excuse to carry on with "emotional affairs". I have a hard time believing that he's not doing all these other women, but that's just my opinion.
She should leave this mess behind and start a new life.
2007-04-24 21:45:32 · answer #5 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She cheated because she CHOSE to. No one FORCED her to cheat. Will God punish her? More than likely yes. No Commiting Adultery is one of the 10 commandments. Marriage is a sacred vow that should be honored at ALL tiems. In marriage during the hard times the husband and wife should PRAY together. A family that stays together prays together.
2007-04-24 22:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
."She committed adultery non intentionally she didn't know she was that weak.."
Sorry but she knew what she was doing, if she is not happy in the marriage though then she should get out. Sex isn't everything and doesn't make a marriage but he should not be cheating in any ways when they are married.
I am sure she will be forgiven in gods eyes if she asked for the forgiveness
2007-04-24 21:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by workit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God will NOT punish her for thing.
This is a definat divorce situation. NO way should a woman feel quilty, she hasn't done a thing.
God will understand.
Karma will take care of the cheating man. Yes, men who can't get it up cheat with emotional affairs.
2007-04-24 21:46:46 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate tos ay it but she needs to come clean with him. I know from expereince that when you find out your spouse has been unfaithful it hurts beyond belief, especially when that person doe not have to balls to tell them their self. However what he has and is doing is completely wrong. How did or does he expect her to be faithful when he cannot and will not go get the sergery to correct the problem. That right there is depriving her from being spiritually, physically and emotionly connect to the man she loves and has commeted to. if he is talking to toher females like he is he needs to take a walk... i feel for her. I know how it feels... not in the sense of having the man you married not have sex with you but to have him be emotionaly cheating.... it sucks. she need and deserves happiness
2007-04-24 22:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by dk 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She made the CHOICE to cheat on her marriage when all she had to do was file for an annulment based upon the fact that her husband had never mentioned his "problem". I would say that "god" was already punishing her. She obviously didn't HAVE to cheat.
2007-04-25 07:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋