How can I divorce my husband for another man yet still collect everything that's due to me?

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Let me just start by saying that my husband is very wealthy, making about $2,000,000 per annum. I have found someone at my tennis club who is also very wealthy who I want to go for. What's the best way to divorce my husband and partner with this gentleman while still being eligible for alimony payments. Is there any way to remarry and still collect the alimony payments? I just really don't want to be at a loss here if things don't work out.

I live in Newport Beach, California if that makes any difference with the divorce laws.

To answer some of your questions, nothings really wrong with my husband but I like this guy better. My husband is about 10 years older than I am and this other guy is closer to how old I am.

Also, I have 2 twin boys, 9 years old. How can I make sure I can get full custody?

Answer 1

why don't you just have him well...bumped off , that way you get ALL the money and then you can do it again if your new thing doesn't work out . ther's always some dumbss willing to be raked over the coals. maybe you should call me I think we could make a good team :)

Answer 2

Depending on how long you have been married, if it is under ten years, you are entitled to half that amount of time in alimony. For example, you were married six years- you are entitled to 3 years alimony. After ten years of marriage you are entitled to alimony until death or you remarry. CA is a no fault state- meaning alimony is decided on your own earning potential, how long you have been our of work , who is the main provider, and such.
Be careful about leaving your husband for another man. It will undoubtedly come back to haunt you. I had an affair, almost left my husband for another man and at the last minute, the other man showed his true colors and the relationship was over. At that point, it gave me the opportunity to reevaluate my marriage and I realized that it wasn't worth throwing away, but definitely worth working on. I also had a friend who did leave and divorce for another man and she regrets it even though she has 40% of his retirement and boatloads of alimony coming in every month. She wants her husband and life back.
Statistically, your affair only has about 2% chance of being a successful relationship. Are those odds you can live with? It wasn't enough for me and I am so glad I saw that before it was too late.
You are married, and you married for some reason that probably had more to do with feelings than money. You owe it to your marriage to make sure that you in fact want out and why and make sure it has nothing to do with money. Assume you won't make a dime from either one of these men- now what would you do?

Answer 3

It all depends on how long you have been married.
Also the rate of success is very low when leaving someone for someone else. If you want to be single then be single, but don't be single for any guy. You don't have a quarentee.Plus if this guy is cheating with you......he will most likely cheat on you.

In California there is no fault divorces. And there is a year span once you file. Alot can happen in a year.

I would say, work on your relationship with your husband.

Geesh it sounds like you are a gold digger.

Answer 4

well, jane, it is finally nice to get to answer one of your types questions. It is the last of the question that I am in hopes of. We are working very hard to see that all gold digging lazy, commonly good for 1 or 2 things actually will start getting what is due them. Too long it has been that women like have added such pride to your gender and now all of your gender associates are paying the price for your non chelant' manner in which you think that for a consent to marry you are automatically entitled to something. Yes, not right away but in the very near future the long past due is coming and I sure do hope that you can wait.

Answer 5

Only God knows what you've been through. I will not judge you, but may I say ; If you do this .......You will have great regrets. I would suggest that you get counciling from a good church. It is true the saying " The grass is never greener on the other side. For a while everything will be Peaches and roses, but then the Gentleman you spoke of will change and you will see faults of his because everyone has them. you go from heart break to heart break.. but you can avoid many many pit falls by just calling upon the lord for his help. just pray, ask himfor direction. Thou shalt not commit adultry.
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Answer 6

If you remarry your current husband's alimony payments to you will cease period. You are not entitled to alimony from one man when you are married to another. I suggest you be less of a gold digger and more of a mother to your children if you want sole custody.

Alimony in California is authorized in limited situations and is not the broad remedy that it is in other states. Alimony in California is "rehabilitative" and is intended to be a short-term measure which enables a spouse to get back on his or her feet. Alimony is awarded to enable the other spouse to go back to school or to acquire needed skills that would enable the spouse to be competitive in the job market. Usually a spouse who has chosen the role of becoming a homemaker and raising children has not been able to develop the skills necessary for productive and gainful employment. Upon divorce, alimony can be used to compensate for this inequity.


1. Exclusive custody ("legal" and "physical") to one parent: An exclusive custody order gives one parent primary physical control of the child, with the right to make decisions regarding the child's residence, health, education and welfare. The noncustodial parent has secondary visitation rights as ordered by the court [Ca Fam §§ 3006 & 3007]

2. Sole Physical Custody: A parent may be granted exclusive physical custody without exclusive legal custody. This means the child resides with and is supervised by one parent, subject to the other parent's visitation rights; but the custodial parent does not have sole decision-making power regarding other matters affecting the child. [Ca Fam § 3007]

3. Sole Legal Custody: Conversely, a parent may be awarded the exclusive right and responsibility to make decisions relating to the child's health, education and welfare; but unless exclusive physical custody is also granted, that parent does not have sole control over the child's residence and supervision. [Ca Fam § 3006]

Answer 7

Well, after you answered my question with the most ridiculous answer ever, I decided to check out what kind of questions you were asking so I could give an equally as lame answer. And as it turns out...you are a lonely girl who wants to brag about how much money you have. You know sweetheart, you can have all the money in the world, but it's obvious that money can't buy you love. But I'm sure you already know that. Enjoy your worthless life with nobody to love and maybe you can buy a cute hand bag to make all of those troubles of yours go away.

Anyone who brags about money as much as you, probably doesn't have anything to show for it anyway.

Thanks for listening!!! :)))))

Answer 8

You are awful, you are the reason marriages are such a joke. "Collect everything that is due to me" "Still collect alimony", you have to be kidding. Why don't you stand on your own two feet. Men shouldn't be your paycheck. I hope your question is a joke to get a rise out of people, I pray you are not for real.

Answer 9

Get a good lawyer.
But also keep in mind, the second you remarry you'll lose all alimony from your first husband.

Answer 10

Get a job, work for a living instead of living of someone else like a leech! You want to leave, then leave but you do not deserve anything! Wish his lawyer could see your question!

You do not deserve any money , I will tell you what you do deserve, to have your children taken away from you, especially if your last question about your kids is true.

Answer 11

wow you're a *****! take money that your husband makes hard and marry someone else cause you like some tennis dude! Wow you give girls a bad name, F U! I hope you don't get any money and have to live on the streets!!

This dumb person is trying to get a rise out of people! Look at her account, and is she is telling the truth I think you should be arrested and takin to jail!! get a freakin life!