All. I have fallen in lobe with a wonderful woman. She is a single mother of a great 2 1/2 year old daughter. She was married to he childs father but he treated her badly. We have been seeing each other for approximately 6 months. Lately we have beomce more serious. She tells me that she loves me. 2 days ago she texted me "I love you so much". She also tells me that due to the bad experience with her ex that she doesnt think she will ever want to marry again. Looking longterm I would like marriage and kids. Should i quit this relationship now if it has no future or should i stick it out. Confused. Appreciate advice.
2007-04-24 13:29:46 · 15 answers · asked by Pa J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you want to get married, and she doesn't ever want to get married again, then you have answered your own question.
Life's too short to play silly games. Women who say confusing things turn me off in a hurry.
2007-04-24 13:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once bitten, twice shy. Since her ex hurt her so badly, she is hesitant to jump into another long term relationship so soon.
You and she have only been together for 6 months, that's not very long. As more time passes, her love for you will continue to grow, she'll see that you love and treat her and her daughter well, and she'll be able to consider a future with you. Just be patient and loving with her.
2007-04-27 23:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Key word here; think she doesnt. Doesnt mean never but I seriously think shes is going to be a whole lot more chosier with whom when and if she does decide to get remarried. No way to tell what will happen on down the road and if youre the one so only you can figure out how much more time youre willing to give to this relationship before deciding youre not the one and move on. Goodluck
2007-04-24 20:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitely stick it out. If you're as dedicated and committed as you seem to be, she'll eventually see that not every man is going to abuse her. Give her some more time though because six months really isn't that long. If as time goes by, you think her mind isn't changing it wouldn't hurt to talk about it and see where the relationship is headed.
Good luck!
2007-04-25 04:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with her about your dreams for the future and listen to hers. You really don't know that this relationship has no future; she's just expressing how she feels now, and right now she has been hurt. You've only been together for six months; you barely know each other.
The best marriages seem to be those in which friendship and caring is as important as the "I love you" statements. Be her best friend, love her and her daughter, and be the best person you know how to be - and then see what happens.
Just keep your heart open and make room for them in your life. Be honest, kind, thoughtful, and loving - and chances are that she'll continue to welcome you into her life.
2007-04-24 20:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by MomBear 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no no....don't give up when a person has been through a bad experience they always say i dont think i'll ever again.....but for the right guy it would be worth it ;) and women don't just say i love you so much for nothing so if you care about her enough you should stick with it! does that mean it will be easy heck no it will prolly be difficult very very difficult process for all three involved but because of her experience her commitment to you would be that much greater and so worth it
2007-04-24 20:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by arlene 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not like you guys going to get married tomorrow, so??? why worry?
Take it easy, let things take its own turn, go out, make out, get to know each other, as long as neither of you is asking for any commitment.
At this time, she might not want or have any intentions to marry again, but you may never know, things might change after a period of time.
So why jump into conclusion? or panic?
Just go with time flow.
2007-04-24 20:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by Naaz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would wait and see what happens, understand any type of physical or mental abuse a person endures is never easy to forget, and i think with time and understanding she will come around... but if your not the type of person to deal with someone that will have her ups and downs then you probably should move on....
2007-04-24 21:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't no women to well do you,think what she said to you,
I love you so much, I don't think I will ever marry again, now does that make any sense to you,.It has always been my experience when you love someone so much you want to marry them. She is testing you, by her saying she doesn't think she will ever marry again you will want to marry her that much more.It's all in the chase, I love you so much but if you want me you will have to show me just how much, do you understand now.
2007-04-24 20:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She may just need time to heal. If you feel the same way about her give her time. In time when she truly trust you maybe things will change. She sounds sincere when she says she loves you and if you feel the same give her time.
God bless and best wishes!
2007-04-24 21:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by nimbus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋