I have been a pretty quiet person through out my entire life, and noticed that, through my school career, myself and people like me have been treated differently in the aftermath of school shootings.
By being treated differently, I mean anything between people making comments like "It's always the quiet ones" to being physically harassed.. for instence.. shortly after Columbine, a kid actually spit on my backpack (I was a shy/quiet girl, had the whole "goth" look going on)
I just want to see what other people's experiences have been like, have you noticed people treating you differently after events like Columbine and VA-Tech.
I know I can't possibly be the only one.
2007-04-24 13:25:19 · 9 answers · asked by Fluffington Cuddlebutts 6 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I'll be more specific.. I've been through counseling for "Social Anxiety Disorder", and have actually made a lot of progress by myself, without medications.
I'm 22 and no longer in school, but i wanted to bring this problem to light for any of the people who, like me, have been harassed just because the shooters in these cases were also described as "quiet" and "shy".
2007-04-24 14:04:42 · update #1
This kind of harassment though, is probably more commonly happening to males, as the shooters are pretty much always male.
2007-04-24 14:05:50 · update #2
I used to be really quiet too (social anxiety disorder as well), and I even went through a goth phase. I never gotten any potential school terrorism accusations, though. However, since then I've learned how to be confident and speak up (I cheated- i use meds), and I've noticed a huge difference in how people respect me and take me seriously. I have to be assertive at my job alot, and people would get annoyed with me if I was still as quiet as I used to be.
2007-04-24 14:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by tritonetelephone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two types of quiet people. The abnormal ones and the naturally shy ones. The abnormal never socialize. Never laugh at a joke or even raise thier hand during class.
A shy person is just not inclined to talking. But they sure as hell are inclined to doing anything else. Even if your goth or EMO there is no reason to be called a shooter. Those people who say "its always the quiet" are just frustrated and dont really care to learn more about it.
They are always looking for someone or some type of people to blame becasue they don't want to think about it. They are what I call abnormal. Not like a shooter but like an ignorant naive loser who cant think because it "hurts too much." Little babies. LOL. What douches...
2007-04-24 20:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by neilio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that that is happenning to you. That is so abusive. The person that spit on you is the sociopath, not you. Besides, the Goth look isn't always a lifestyle, it's just a look sometimes. I tried it. It didn't look good on me and I went back to my prissy ditsy blonde look. I wasn't satanic during my Goth phase. It was just a look. Read the book Sielent Power, and Life Wasn't Meant To Be A Struggle. Also get on line and look up buddhism.kalachakranet.org. After you read this, your thoughts about these morrons will just dissapaite into thin air and you can move forward. The hurt will be unlearned and released. I promise!
2007-04-24 21:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by Indigo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a quiet dude I'm not goth though. Just because you don't feel the need to talk to everybody doesn't make you a wacko. That guy was more angry that no body liked him, Im the type who can have more friends but i really don't care and i do have friends I just don't feel the need to talk to everybody. There is a difference between the two Its a choice for me, for the shooter he had problems with this.
2007-04-24 20:36:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who actually get to know me find out I'm not quiet! but those who do not really get to know me see me only as a quiet, reserved person. One of the first jokes they'll make when I first open up a bit around them is "It's always the quiet ones..." or "You've gotta watch the quiet ones. They're wild!"
I've also had people wrongly (in the past) assume I'm a snob, don't like them, or don't have anything to say. It's VERY annoying but it's not embarrassing or anything to me coz I'm pretty confident in myself not being a kook who's about to do something crazy.
2007-04-24 20:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference in being quiet and being anti-social. If someone tries to be friendly and speak with you or smile at you and you ignore them that is insulting to the other person. It turns the whole quiet and shy thing into something negative and self absorbed.
2007-04-30 21:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone is a "social butterfly". Not everyone likes to speak or be the life of the party.
We are all different individuals, just because you are quiet doesn't mean you are harmful. It may just mean that you listen more and learn more than the ones who blab all the time.
2007-04-29 02:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't alone, society always blames the stereotype.
It's kind of like the Muslims after 9/11.
Just because we're quiet doesn't mean we're secretly plotting mass murder in our heads.
2007-04-24 21:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mystic 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to go and get some counseling..To help pull yourself out of your protective shell..it will really do you some good
2007-04-24 20:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋