This guy that I love is a sales insurance agent and on Valentine's day I went to where he works and gave him a card, candy, and gift for Valentine's in a bag. I tried to give to him outside while he was drinking his mug of coffee, smoking, and talking to another agent. He said no that he will no accept it because it is inappropiate to give at an office and that he is in a relationship with someone else. The secretary put it in his mailbox for me. He took it out and put it on the floor by her desk. That hurt me so much. I am hoping that his relationship does not work out because all of my friends say that you are the one for him and that he will realize that the two of you are meant to be together. Do you think that I should apologize to him or that he should apologize to me.? He could have asked me do you mind if I give the candy to my co-workers.
2007-04-24 13:02:19 · 18 answers · asked by Heidi T 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hey he said no not interested. Is there a part of that statement you are having trouble with? Move on with grace, don't hang on in desperation. You have the potential to become obsessed by what you have written and that means bunny boiler. Get your head together and move on ...
2007-04-24 13:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by zappafan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So what would you do if you already had this person and some other woman was thinking the exact same thing you are thinking now. Why would you want to break someones relationship up and if you were able to do that. Why would you believe he wouldn't do it to you.
It's best to leave this person alone and if he should happen to break it off with his girlfriend, then you could suggest going out or something. Don't be the reason he broke up with her. What goes around comes around! It's a good saying.
2007-05-01 22:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by safetyusa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the short version I would have to say absolutely no. In the long version Id have to say, He is very inconsiderate and callous to act the way he did when he should have been flattered by the thoughtful gesture on your part. I also feel that your love might be more of lust since you and he havent been a couple its hard to say love without knowing him on a personal level. Lust sometimes feels a lot like love and it is driven by physical appearance. Dont mix them and what ever you do try not to seem desperate for it has no attractive qualities to it. In fact It seems pretty obvious that your not what he wants or he has had a great opportunity to show it and has failed miserably. Best advise although it might not be what you want is to move on and in fact that would make him want you like never before. Ignore him, act too good for him yet still keep yourself looking the best. Hold your head up high and you be better off. Best of luck to you.
2007-04-24 18:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by stephenmwells 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Both. You couldn't know that he doesn't like presents at the office or he already has a relationship. He also could have said ty for the gift. It would be nice to apologize and make you feel good.
2007-05-02 10:30:12 · answer #4 · answered by swfan24 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok #1 your first clue that he was not interested was his denial of the present. #2 he stated that he had a girlfriend.
Why even push the issue with him?? He does not owe you an apology since YOU decided to push the candy and present on him.
You need to move on! He may not ever like you in that manner! Find a guy who is single and interested!
2007-05-01 10:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by hey_there_heathe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to think before you act! You not only didn't listen when he was up front with you....you also embarrassed him while he was talking to someone at work...and then you had his secretary continue to pass it on to him. You are worried about hurt you are? What about how you embarrassed him?
I think you should just forget you ever did anything this foolish....you are pretty dense about considering whether this action was appropriate. Valentine candy and cards are for people who have some kind of relationship going....you do not...and he was clear he isn't interested...has another girl.
He was up front and honest. Listen to him...and leave him alone!
2007-04-30 19:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by samantha 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He should be the one apologizing to you. That was a really jerk of a thing to do. I suggest that you stay away from a relationship with him, he very unromantic. My experience with relationships have taught me to NEVER wait for somone who is in a current relationship, you only get your heart broken again and again and again.
2007-04-24 13:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Neo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you knew he was in a relationship, your actions were inappropriate. If you want an even more awkward situation, then apologize. If you want things to blow over, do nothing and learn to take other's feelings into consideration before you act.
2007-05-02 05:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by Emily D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should leave him alone, once and for all.
It's quite obvious from the NUMEROUS times you've posted this same question that he is happy in his relationship and wants nothing to do with you. Why won't you just leave him alone???
You should seek counseling. You really need it.
Heidi,
I see you give thumbs down to anybody who tells you to leave this poor guy alone! Man I feel sorry for him!
2007-04-27 15:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by markwedloe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no you shouldn't you like him and your giving him a thoughtful gift it wasn't right for him to give your candy away or refuse it. he might think if his girlfriend would be jelous of you giving that to him and dump him and then he would never like you but i guess you could just wait intil his relationship is over. i mean it wasn't your fault it's not like you were doing something mean.
2007-04-24 13:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋