If a man has an affiar, what is going through his mind when he gets home? Does he think of the other woman while making love to his wife? Or does only crave the touch of his mistress? Serious answers only..! Thanks
2007-04-24 12:22:42 · 15 answers · asked by sweet_truth 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I got a news flash for you, many men think of other women when having sex with their wife even if they are not cheating
and the only thing going through the man's mind when he gets home is keeping his story straight
and men don't put as much thought into sex as you seem to think, "does he only crave the touch of his mistress" we're guys we're easy, we crave the touch of any woman we can get
2007-04-24 13:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he makes love to his wife, then I doubt whether he would be thinking about the other woman. If a man has an affair it is usually because of something lacking in the relationship and he is getting those needs met elsewhere. Sometimes men do crave and think about he other woman and the act of having sex with the wife is seen as a "duty" to him. Everything depends on why the affair happened in the first place...how long it lasted and what his feelings were for the other woman. If it was a short affair that "just happened"....and it does....we are all human and are all capable of making mistakes, then I wouldnt be worrying whether he is thinking about the other woman because in his mind the other woman was a "mistake". If it was a long standing affair, then there were obvious feelings involved and I certainly would be wondering if he is thinking about the other woman. The only sensible answer to this question is to go and see a good qualified marriage counsellor. Whether it was a short or long affair it destroys trust...it makes you lose your self esteem....it makes you feel less desirable, it cuts you to the quick. That kind of damage cannot be fixed by putting it to the back of your mind and hoping these feelings will go away.....they wont and when you harbour these feelings for any length of time, they will only get worse. Too many marriages fail when a spouse takes the other one back without getting counselling. A counsellor has the expertise to put everything into perspective. Thats what you need right now....you need to put everything into perspective...you have to understand the reasons your husband did what he did....Only then will you find peace....only then will you be able to stop thinking the way you are thinking right now.
Take care
You know what really shites me? I have expereinced the hurt and pain of an unfaithful husband...I went through hell, I even got to the point of not wanting to live anymore..so how come I can go through so much pain, but still come out thinking that there are reasons why a person does what they do. How come I dont believe that once a cheater always a cheater? I will tell you why? Because everything is very individual....everyone does something because of their own reasons....I dont need to understand those reasons, simply because we are all individuals. All I can do is behave the best way i know how. i have to live with myself on a daily basis and it is in my best interests to understand that I am not responsible for the actions of someone else. All I can do is try to understand why a person does what they do, but I will never be in their mind....I have never been raised the way he/'she has, so all I can ever do in this life is to accept that people dont always see my point of view...people are a product of their environment and that is something I will never have control over.
2007-04-24 12:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
How a man thinks of his mistress when intimate with his wife probably varies with every man who has at least one mistress. Why a man is intimate with both may explain the existance of a mistress. How it was that the husband left his marriage to take a mistress.
But one should not conclude that every man with a mistress has vile contempt for his wife or projects his wife to be his mistress.
2007-04-24 12:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have not done this; therefore I can't answer it. I could not live after an affair and look my wife in the eye, nor could I live comfortably with myself and look my children in the eye. If a man has an affair and feels no shame, then he loves himself before the mistress AND his wife.
2007-04-24 12:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who ever told you that was trying to feel justified. Who would promote an affair? Maybe someone having one or someone who had one. Or maybe they are basing this off the fact that most women cheat out of emotional desperation and the men they are with are dirt bags, so they are happy the woman is getting on with her life. but either way, cheating sucks.
2016-05-17 23:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, just the opposite..he is probably thinking what a heel he is, filled with dread that you will find out, that his actions will hurt you to the core. Then, as soon as he calms down, he will be missing her...when he is with her, within an hour, he will be missing you....nope, not a bright idea on his part. AS for sex, I am not sure men think of anything when they have sex except for fantasy, and fantasy has nothing to do with reality.
If he only craved the touch of his mistress, he wouldn' t come home.
2007-04-24 12:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
He is wrecking his brain out to cover his tracks while driving home reminiscing the satisfaction and excitement. He'll go to sleep thinking nothing about what you are asking.
2007-04-24 13:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow if your man is crewing another woman I'd be asking my self why he's not screwing me??? maybe your not the woman he wants to be screwing... don't you want to be the one he screws??? the problem in most cases isn't so much who he is doing but why he is doing someone other then his wife. I'll bet your not giving him a reason to want to do you. but if your the best wife you can be then maybe he is just a jerk in which case leave his pink aassssss behind and find a good man.
2007-04-24 13:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
a man that would do this in a relationship is the type that lives for the moment and does not think about anyone but himself and his own satisfaction
2007-04-24 12:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by frank b 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
he is thinking what a scum he is for having a mistress and wondering how he is going to hide the bills from his loving wife from all the trash he has to buy to make his mistress believe that he REALLY loves her.... when he doesn't. He is basically paying a hooker for sex
2007-04-24 12:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by The Voice Of Reason 4 · 2⤊ 5⤋