2007-04-24 12:12:56 · 29 answers · asked by amanda f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how can i get my boyfriend to get a divorce from his wife?we have been living together for 3 years.he has gave me a ring but i do not fill that he is 100% in love with me like i am with him,he has a child with her that we have all the time.i love her like my on child.how can i get him to divorce her.
2007-04-25 13:33:18 · update #1
his current wife u mean......ok so heres the deal, I was in your exact situation 3 yrs ago, and i was with him for 4 yrs and til this day he hasnt divorced his wife. Your boyfriend probably doesnt live with her, and he might not even talk 2 her anymore like my ex was but hes still married and your relationship in on a stand still until he does. If he gets hurt or dies your still the mistress you have no rights, If you share a checking account she has rights to that money because shes his wife. so if you are thinking about having a future with this guy give him an ultimatum either he gets it done or you move on to someone who will marry you. Your honestly wasting your time w/him because when someone wants to move on from that chapter in their life he would have gotten divorced allready. Hes lagging for a reason he probably still has feelings for her and if shes not wanting a divorce yet either its obvious something is still going on there.
2007-04-24 12:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Naomi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is with you while still married it is because he thinks things at home aren't where he would like them to be. For example: she's pregnant and moody and he can't deal with it himself. This will go away with time as he acclimates to the situation.
Food for thought: If she's the ex already, then the divorce was final on the day he was served the divorce decree.
Soup for thought: If it was a bad marriage, he probably won't be thinking of another one for a long time. You are the rebound, the "other woman", the shoulder to cry on, the female "bartender". Many men don't marry them. They are a stepping stone out of the marriage, not the answer to a better one.
Salad for thought: Once he's free from her and the hurt,your next. He's going to let you know he's not ready for anything real. Oh and how can you help? You've done so much already, just remember don't let the door hit you in the head on the way out.
This is the last serving.
Bread for thought: Okay Now you've added that there is a child involved. Well that's just not right in the first place. Don't use the child to get what you want. You may love her, that's fine, but you can never believe you are replacing her real mother. Don't manipulate her father that way.
2007-04-24 13:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a big thing. Do they have kids together? Was it just a big mistake of a marriage? There is more to a divorce than just saying someone needs to get one. It is not that easy, but if he is not getting a divorce purposely then you need to find out the real situation. If they have kids legally it would take a while before the courts would allow him to divorce her, but if there are no kind it is a very simple process. You need to just ak him what the hell is going on. Is he still seeing the wife as well?
2007-04-24 12:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you would have told him that you refuse to get involved with him--a married man--until after his divorce, he would have gotten it so much sooner. But since you and he have set up a home together, he gets sex from you, and you love and take care of his child, what incentive does he have to get a divorce ? He already has everything he would have if he got divorced and married you. The ring was just a ploy to pacify you, and delay his divorce from his ex-wife, and marriage to you.
You've been together with him long enough, have shown him how much you love him and his daughter, and have given him a clear picture of how life with you would be. At this point, he needs to take things to the next step. If he isn't willing, you need to walk. Don't let him waste any more of your life than he already has.
2007-04-27 16:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 09:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's how it goes. Let us say that he does divorce her and marries you, with me so far? Good. He's going to cheat on you too. Why do I say that because those type of men usually follow a pattern. Most likely all the love in the world won't change him either. Think twice and if need be think thrice about this one. In truth you're much better off ditching him.
2007-04-24 12:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you can't get anyone to to anything they do not want to do. If he is not divorced his wife is not his ex-wife and that makes him NOT your anything.
Your question seems to say you are young and uneducated or just uneducated . This being the case he is using you and you need to take some classes and join the real world.
Most cheating lying men have no intention of leaving their wife and especially not for someone they can so easily manipulate.
2007-04-24 12:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's not his ex wife if he hasn't divorced her. She is his WIFE. You're just his WHORE.
Very few men divorce their wives for their Whores. IF and when he does get a divorce you will more likely be kicked to the curb as used goods. No self respecting man is going to want to maintain a relationship with a whore when he is free to date single respectable women
2007-04-24 15:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you mean "divorce". If he's not divorced, then she's NOT his EX-wife. She IS his wife.
The best way to resolve this is to stop dating/living with/ having sex with a married man. Honestly, if he's someone elses' husband he isn't a boyfriend, he's a cheat..and you are "the other woman".
2007-04-24 12:19:45 · answer #9 · answered by Kaia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im seperated from my husband buts its only been 5 weeks but it could be money issues it cost alot of money to get a divorce unless its a no fault i know im not filing for a divorce cause of the money issues if he wants one he can file maybe thats the problem but then again who knows unless u ask him why hes not divorced but if he still is living with his wife then forget hes not leaving been there and done that sounds to me u need to find someone new gl jewels
2007-04-24 12:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋