Me & the father were dating for a lil over a year. All the while he was married ( I know...that as my job to stay way from him)...he left home, came to live in the city near me and we continued to date (supposedly exclusively). Turns out he was playing both me and his wife. The whole time he would bring his 2 youngest kids ( he has 4 + my baby) to my house and he would screw with their minds about how he loved me & their mother. Anyway, he was also very abusive -mentally & physically- so I got an order of protection against him. However, he wants to claim paternity and have visitation. I do not think he should have this right (for now) because my daughter doesn't need to see him with his other family..she is too young. When she is older it will be up to her. He's still abusing drugs and alcohol & I don't feel he should be around her. He wasn't around for half of the pregnancy. So if his lawyers serve me to establish paternity...do I have to..or as her mother can I say NO?
2007-04-24 12:11:16 · 5 answers · asked by Veryunsure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
U can take go to court and take it up with the judge.
2007-04-24 12:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by roastbeefonrye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are served y a judge, yes you have to appear or be in contempt. A warrant will be placed for your arrest. But just because paternity is established doesn't mean that he gets to see her, it means that he gets to pay support. If you can prove his abuse, mental/physical/drug, then it will be had for him to get any visitation, even supervised visitation.
Get a lawyer.
2007-04-24 12:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can definately say NO!!! Petition the courts so that he cannot be involved in your child's life. Let the courts know he is an abuser, physically, mentally and drug use also. Talk with an attorney as laws vary from state to state. My prayers are with you.
2007-04-24 12:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by Bobbie Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would keep my child away from this guy too if it were me but it's certainly up to the courts to decide this, not up to you im afraid. you need to prove that he is unfit to be a father.
what i suggest you do is document or keep a diary of any sort of conversation you have with this guy. get a good lawyer so you can figure out your options, because your little girl shouldn't be around an unstable person like him.
legally he has to pay you maintanence whether he likes it or not. and whether he gets any rights to her or not.
2007-04-24 12:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Dylangirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO go to court
he will likely want to see the baby, and you MUST prove him unfit
2007-04-24 12:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋