I have no idea!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-24 12:09:16 · 5 answers · asked by Alex 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get some help from a financial adviser.
Have the kids pitch in and help out around the house.
Make time for your spouse.
Make time for yourself, even if that means the commute to and from work.
There has to be a happy medium. You and the spouse need to sit down and agree no arguing. Just talk to each other. Don't look at each other as the enemy.
If you can't come to a compromise, then know that your debt will be split between the both of you. Can either of you afford that? If not, then become a team and work your debt down. If you still feel the need to split up, then it may be the best choice all around.
2007-04-24 13:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel like you have to be a man to the point that you have to deal with everything as a man would and take the consequences. There is help in many forms and all you have to do is ask. It does take some research to stay away from those that are making your situation a prey for money. First things first, make a list of the problems that you face daily. List should be Monday thru Sunday. When the list is complete look for like items on each day. Same problem, same people same time etc. When you find similarities, write it down. Start with one and two and so on until you have isolated the mon thru sun. The list you made will show the recurrence of problems for all days to one day a week and shows the frequency by number. Number one has the most recurrences and the last number has the least. This list is what you use to assign a priority to. If the daily occurances or problems are say, from work and are going to be there and is for you alone to deal with it probably should go behind family priorities. If the family problems are a priority make them first to take care of or find solutions to. Marriage counseling, helping wife with schedule and kids or whatever, take care of the family things first. Next are the problems with wife. take care of the next as she is your partner and valuable to your fixing the marriage and others. She will appreciate being high on the list and will or should reciprocate to you. This will help. If you need outside or third party help ask for it. The importance of your families survival does not hinge on you being a man but your ability to fix the things that plague its existance. The real man just fixes the things that need fixing and his partner will take care of his manhood later. Your things can be prioritized anywhere you like and can be higher on the list if they affect family, but be fair. Don't take your problems and put them in front of the family. That is not fair and will breed contempt within the family. If you are there for them, they will be there for you. If not then you have not wasted anything but exhibit the example of an intelligent and able leader. Hopefully they will see that and with everyone working on problems you will get a break. Just come off of the man tower and ask for help. It is not a judgement call that you are in over your head and there are people that will help and most that do have been there and have some creative solutions. Open your mind and open your heart. Your family will like what they see and the world will respect you for what you are doing. Good luck and God bless.
2007-04-24 19:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by g_menagerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help from friends/family. Cut back financially on a lot of stuff. Don't buy anything u can't pay upfront. Continue to be the best mom/dad, it's the only thing that's free. Find another job. Garage sales. Get government assitance for housing, money.
2007-04-24 19:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by roastbeefonrye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work it all out
2007-04-24 19:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoa........you can get some help, that's what you can do.
2007-04-24 19:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋