I want to aks this again. I am dealing with an awful ex-wife, who smokes around my 7 y/old son. We have 50/50 custody, she says it is not healthy for him, but I don't drink smoke or use drugs. I caught her loaded on meth 2 years ago, and she didn't see him for about 7 months. He one day my son asked "why don't my mommy want me". I answered she does just she is having trouble, I didn't want to hurt him. I should have taken her away, but I care about him. Now 2 years later, she is clean, and hollier than thow. My lawyer told me that if she has no grounds to take him away, that she will have to pay for my lawyer. I am wondering if anybody has dealt with this and had to pay for someones lawyer, or the other parent had to pay for the lawyer, because they had no grounds. I am just stressed, and not sure what to do. My son is my life. I just need some advise. Do you think it is unhealthy for a child to go trough 50/50 custody? Thanks allot.
2007-04-24 11:50:08 · 6 answers · asked by mykd4sound 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know she is clean because she has put on allot of weight. She met her new boyfriend at N.A., and he was her sponsor. He is on parole for felony drug charges. And must stay clean to stay out of prison. Thanks.
2007-04-24 11:50:28 · update #1
I see no reason why you should change the custody you already have......I don't believe in 50/50 custody myself, I think that is too hard on the kids, and just an easy way out for the parents.......I do believe both parents should have the opportunity to be in the child's life though, that's for sure!
With her past history and living with a convicted felon, I don't see how they would change it ......
2007-04-24 12:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have your child under full custody at this time? IF so, keep it that way...your ex has a convicted felon living with her...no court in its right mind would grant her custody. Stop the 50/50 if that is what is going on....she can visit when she wants, but should have zero custody rights...She could well kidnap that child at any minute and ...like so many other parents, you will never see the child again. don't be a fool. Get full custody, a restraining order, only supervised visitation allowed. ! IF you do not do this, you will suffer greatly. You are a good father and parent. From what you say, she will never be. Her choice in BF is an indication of this. Do not allow your child to be around this felon.
2007-04-24 12:00:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids are alot stronger than we give them credit for. You should make sure you leave custody at 50/50. Every child needs both parents so long as they are no in harms way. You do right by your child not by yourself or by your ex
2007-04-24 11:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. my child would not be there. Sound like a great family life... I would try for 100%. One of them will fall off of the wagon. Two addicts makes that a hi risk. I feel so sad for some of these children. And we wonder why there are so many troubled teens.
2007-04-24 12:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok... a woman who had a meth issue and now with someone that was a drug deal and is out of jail...I hope you see that is a situation that you might want to ask the court about..
2007-04-24 12:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1ST OF ALL IT IS SUGGESTED IN NA NOT TO HAVE A SPONSOR FROM A DIFFER SEX BUT IF SHE IS CLEAN DO YOU NOT THINK SHE SHOULD HAVE RIGHTS TO HIM MAYBE THATS WHAT SHE DID IT FOR LISTEN I WATCHED MY BROTHER AND WIFE GO THROUGH ALOT WITH DRUGS AND SO ON CUSTODY BATTLE AND SO ON NOW THE 4 YEAR OLD GIRLS DONT HAVE A MOMMY AT ALL TRY TO EXPLAIN THAT ONE LIKE WE HAVE TRIED TO DO BETTER THINK ALOT ABOUT THIS ONE
2007-04-24 12:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by lizsweni 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋