Baby won't stop screaming.?

Question

I have a 3 month old son. He screams all day long, he is not hungry or wet. If you rock him to sleep and put him in his crib he'll sleep for 15 minutes and then wake up screaming. He sleeps all night in his carseat and just wakes up to be fed or changed. Please help I have tried everything. I think it may be a bad habit of trying to get me to hold him all the time. But isn't he to young still for that?

He's been to the doctor and everthing is fine, no ear infections etc. I als o have a very active 2 and a half year old so i can't spen all day holding the baby and let my other son run a muck.

Answer 1

Does he have colic? You may need to see a doctor to get a medical opinion on this one honey.
Or, he is teething?

Was he born quickly after a short labour? My aunt and my sister both had high demand babies after very short labours, so that might be the reason, which there isn't much you can about, sorry!

If it gives you peace to cuddle him, please, hold him to make him feel more settled- you won't spoil him by holding him at the moment. He's only going to be this little once- do what you can to make it enjoyable:)

Good luck!

Answer 2

Does he spit up a lot? Chances are since you mentioned he will sleep so well in his carseat that it is reflux. Try feeding him smaller meals more frequently, and holding him so he is sitting up more than lying flat on his back for a half hour after the feeding so he doesn't spit up. There's also a medication the dr. can prescribe if the reflux is bad, but usally they have you try other things before prescribing it. Let him sleep in his carseat for now, or try proping up one end of the crib mattress by putting a pillow under it. Reflux doesn't last forever, eventually the muscle that holds the food down will strengthen and he will outgrow it.

BTW: You can't spoil a newborn. At 3 or 4 months they start to self-sooth, and then you will want to slowly start weaning them from being held. Try putting him in a bouncy seat at your side so he can watch what you're doing. That's what I did with my daughter.

Answer 3

It may be colic. If they sell OVAL DROPS where you live (in the baby section) you can try that.
Constant crying usually means something. If babe has fallen asleep and sleeps for a bit in the crib, then wakes minutes later crying again, something is bothering him.
How long does the crying go on for? Does he bring up his legs when he does? Does he go blue at all when he cries (look around the mouth for that). Or is he a little greenish around the mouth?
Time for a doctors appointment for sure. Rule out colic, allergies, etc. A swing with some soft music may help you in the meantime.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Probably because the carseat is not comfortable to sleep in all the time. He is not old enough to manipulate you yet.
My baby is asleep in my lap right now because I put him in the crib and he woke up.
Have you tried wearing him? Look into a carrier, sling or moby wrap. I hold my son (2 months) alot and he sleeps in his crib at night about 5 hours then 2 or 3 after he wakes up to eat.
Is he getting enough to eat? My baby has days like that but he is just hungry. I breastfeed so when he eats too much I don't produce enough for him so he is a little hungry. It all evens out the next day but for that one day he is upset and eating all the time. Some babies just want to be held. I think babies are meant to be held though. I only put mine down when I have to or when he wants to be put down.

Answer 5

A three month old baby is not able to manipulate you yet, don't worry. When a baby cries, it means that it has a real need--they don't just do it for sport. The need sometimes is food or a clean diaper, true. Or he might need you to hold him because he is scared, or chilly, or just wants to smell you. He might have the common and overwhelming baby need to suck on something.He might have a tiny little hair wrapped around his toe that you don't even notice or the tag on his onesie is scratching his neck.

Does he like to be swaddled? That helps many babies sleep and keeps them from waking themselves up with movement. If he didn't like it before, you can always try again. Make sure its tight enough to keep him from moving without being too tight.

He might have gas and need to be in a different position to release it. You will often find that a baby on his belly with firm pressure near the stomach pass gas much easier. It might take a while, but it will pass!

Remember, just three short months ago, you were holding him 24 hours a day. If you held him for even 18 hours a day, he is still is getting a reduction in his mind--and who's arms could hold out under that pressure? Baby wearing is an option if your son stops screaming when you pick him up--he might just need to be close to you, but your arms need a rest too. Consider a sling or bjorn.

Some babies don't like to sleep flat on their backs. Have you considered a baby Amby? Its a sleeping hammock which allows a baby to sleep safely in a more upright position--no cases of SIDS have ever been reported from babies sleeping in them. Its very good for babies that just won't sleep in a crib.

Have you tried swinging him, but staying in his line of sight? Some babies need to see you, and have occasional eye contact and thats enough to keep them calm for a while.

Every single baby is different, and responding to his cries helps him to trust you. You are building the foundation of his reality by being there for him when he needs you. Just remember baby needs might not be what we consider "needs" but from his perspective, there isn't anything else more important at that moment. Just take care of him--and yourself when you need a break. Remember, a well rested and calm mommy is the best kind!

Answer 6

You can't spoil babies that young that way. Both of mine were*colicy* until they are about 4 months old, and I am not kidding, with cody, he litterally just stopped one day. His twin, same thing, at about 4.5 months old, I waited and waited for the horrible screaming to start, and it never did(THANK GOD)
Ask your doctor to see if he has GERD(reflux) Its miserable for the little ones. My daughter has it. If you formula feed, try switching it to enfimil AR(if he is on a milk based formula) It has rice and helps calm their little tummies. If he is on a soy, ask your doctor, as I am not sure switching him to a pregestimil formula would be a good thing(a formula with NO milk protiens)
Here are a few things to try, to calm him.
-gas drops!
-swaddling. search it online if you dont know how to do this, but it really works wonders.
-lay him across your knees face down with your arms under his body, and do a steady bounce. Not hard, but a little hard.
-a baby swing, or a bouncy seat with the vibrator
-*pet* him with one finger between the eyes from the widows peak on his forhead, to just below the top of his nise bridge, softly. This can be quite calming for them.
-he could be teething already. put your finger in there and check for tell tale bumps.
With the sleeping in the carseat, I say if he is this colicy and really does cry all day, peace at any price! BUT at some point you will want to break that habit, and trust me its harder to do at 9 months or a year than at four months.
If you have to do something, with your other child, or even just need to get away from the crying, put that baby in his crib, and walk away. Crying doesn't hurt them, as long as your not doing that all the time or for long long periods of time. We were always told let them cry it out. but when they cry all day, for four months? Hmmm.....
Good luck mom!

Answer 7

I can not tell you the right way to do things because I let my daughter sleep in bed with me untill about 2 1/2 weeks ago. She is almost 10 months now. However if you are stressed or frustrated, dont be ashamed to hand him off untill you calm down. He may notice you are upset and that makes him more upset. you just need to be loving even though you are dead tired and just want to break something because of all the screaming...trust me, it will get better!!!

Answer 8

Oh my goodness. I have a 9 week old girl who does the SAME thing! I have no idea what to do. She cries all the time, and her doctor says she is not collicky or sick. When we're holding her she's happy and dosnt cry, but as soon as we lay her down she's screaming. We cant take her anywhere ( shopping, visiting ect ) If you find something that works please let me know.

Answer 9

I used "gripe water" from whole foods. Sometimes they have immature stomachs and they get severe gas. So that helps, and then really pat his back so that you hear a few burps, or he goes #2. Another thing is to buy or make a sling and just carry him around for a few days until he feels more secure.

Answer 10

-check to see if he is too hot or cold
-if he scrunches up his legs he is probably gassy, maybe try some gripe water
-try getting him out of the habit of sleeping in his car seat
-try swaddling him, he may just want to be comforted
-try taking him for a walk outside in the stroller
-change of scenery

I would check with your doctor as soon as you can

I don't know what to tell you. It is so hard to listen to, but it won'te last forever.
Good luck and take care :)