My husband tells me he loves me, and he's happy with me BUT lately when we hold hands he figdets with my wedding ring with his fingers, when he's sleeping or when we go to bed he will just put his arm on my side he does hold me close or anything, and he use to tell me how sexy i'd look in something if we went to Victoira Secret, but he does not do that anymore. I asked him why he does not say anything anymore and he replied "no reason." What are these the signs of?
2007-04-24 11:32:37 · 15 answers · asked by ilih2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I forgot to add...when making love last night because he thought i was going to slow and not moving on to other things, he decided he was no longer in the mood and left me in the bedroom, while he went to get on his laptop.
2007-04-24 11:34:28 · update #1
a sign that the honeymoon stage is over and now humdrum is setting in. Not to worry about it, he's still sleeping with you isn't he?
2007-04-24 12:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like red flags all over the place. But, and you'll not be happy to hear this, the red flags are coming mostly from you and not from him. Things change in a relationship and they won't always be exactly the same as when you were dating. It seems like you are bit obsessive and clingy, demanding the guy show love exactly the way you want him to show love and not the way he wants to show love. Slow down and back off.
By the way, sex isn't magic. For a guy to do it well it requires a lot of work. A woman can have sex doing absolutely nothing, but a guy actually has to do something. Not every moment is perfect for a guy to put forth the energy and the creativity a woman wants and demands. Perhaps it is time to see what is going on in the bedroom, how much time and energy you are putting in, and how much you are demanding him to perform. Guys have a tough time performing on demand. It's a different experience for them.
2007-04-24 18:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he is stressed out over something. For that matter Iit could be a million things. The only way to find out is to talk to him. If he is willing, the two of you might try counseling. If money for counseling is an issue most churches offer counseling and even if they do not you can speak with the pastor of the church and he can help tremendously. What ever you do don't give up. There are always ups and downs in every marriage. You are only going to get out of the marriage what you put into it. Pray can help you through tough situations. God answers every prayer, but it may not be the answer that you are looking for. Make sure that your prayers come from the heart and not out of ill-faith.
God bless and best wishes!
2007-04-24 18:50:47 · answer #3 · answered by nimbus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are not sure what "signs" mean , it is time to take a real stock of the relationship. People who are content do not read into or try to find meaning in signs.
Take time with him to acknowledge that that some things in the relationship could use some "sprucing up". Plan an activity together that you both enjoy, or a trip. Make an effort to let your spouse know that you care in a non- verbal ( back-rub after work, or other) way as well as verbal. Break up - your routines, monotony, can be a killer of relationships.
2007-04-24 18:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by lori s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's bored. His life has become humdrum. Does he work and sleep and work and sleep? Have you all gone out on a "just you" date.
If his has no particular external stimulation he'll lose desire.
I've been through this. After awhile in a relationship the spark fizzles out. The stress of daily life becomes depressing. "Go to work, pay bills, work some more, pay bill,".
Take a day for the both of you and go play in a park. Buy ice cream and just bond. And then go home or along a quiet rode and ravage each other.
I have other ideas for spice but Yahoo will censor it .... :P
2007-04-24 18:44:11 · answer #5 · answered by WilljClinton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it means a right lot really, I'd just leave him be, sounds like he's acting a bit spoilt, you stop worrying about your relationship then he might make more effort not to disrespect you, deal with him like you would a child If there is any thing seriously wrong it will come out ,try not to worry find another interest for now.
2007-04-24 18:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to talk. Try a counsellor. I have and it helped no end.
It also sounds like you are definately unhappy and that both of you have a communication problem. He may not be aware that he has changed his behaviour, or there may be something more to it. I read things into my husbands behaviour that simply weren't there, and that misunderstanding led to arguments and distance between us.
Whatever the cause, you both need to talk soon before it is too late! Get some help too. It can work.
2007-04-24 18:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by wonderfulworld 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
these right just the same thing my boyfriend did before i found out he was cheating on me.so ya,ur husband might be trying to hook up with another female.right now u don't have proofs that he is cheating,so if feel like he's neglecting u and show no interests in u, them maybe u should seek marriage counseling.in my case i had proofs,and he actually just took of with her,and so i let him go.so pay close attention to he's where abouts.
2007-04-24 19:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by leen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you but your right on the money , he has been with some one a whole lot more freakier then you might be and the thing with the ring is he now regrets its there no man that hasn't been getting any would stop in his tracks for that lame reason .your not her baby girl and that's what he wants /dint get me wrong I'm not saying this to hurt you but its true . so i say call his *** out on the **** and if you dint get the truth you know what you have to do TAKE HALF OF EVERY THING AND TRY TO LEAVE HIM WITH NOTHING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-24 19:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that everything has been monotonous...and all exactly the same. maybe instead of having sex, or "making love" you two could go out for dinner, and maybe a walk... go somewhere besides your house. you have to keep him interested, he is bored right now. i dont think that if he loves uhe will go out and cheat, but he might look at pornography or some way of "turning him on"...just to spice it up for himself. try new moves, or getting really hot for him...but if all he wants is good sex, than he probaby doesntreally love you. i would talk to a councelor about this, even if he wont go with you, she/he will be able to help more than me. good luck!
2007-04-24 18:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, he left a live woman in bed to go to get on his computer. All the other crap you mentioned just happens when you are married but him doing that, that is an issue.
Get some counseling. If he wont go, go alone.
2007-04-24 18:45:12 · answer #11 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋