High school....?

Question

I'm a freshman and I really like this junior and I know for sure he's gay, and I am good friends with his best friend, but I have said about 4 words to him. How can I open up more around him so he'll know I'm interested?

I'm still kind of closeted, only about 5 people know I'm bi

Answer 1

Try talking to him! Since you are friends with his best friend, get him to introduce you to him and help start a convo. But, Warning, don't just say "Hey I like you" right off the back, start by talking about school stuff them gradually (I'd say every week or so) get a little bit more "inquisitive" and personal with your conversation. Trust me, eventually you'll gain his trust and he'll open up to you.

Then, summer time is coming up, and that's a great way to hang out with friends and potential boyfriends. you never know but a little summer romance might be just what you need to spark a great relationship. So like I said, start off slowly to gain his trust, then little by little reveal your innermost thoughts.

Answer 2

The two year age spread may be keeping him from being interested in you as a friend (the older you get, the less important it is, but in high school, it can be a big difference). It isn't enough that you're both gay (or bi). I know it sounds like a match made in heaven, but it doesn't always work that way, even just to be friends.

You could tell your mutual friend to mention your crush on him and then let him make the next move if he wants to know you better. Other than that, just be yourself and make as many friends your own age as you can and try to get through high school in one piece (no easy task these days).

Answer 3

You could ask if you could go over to is house, in his setting he might be a little more open and honest then at school. I once had this major crush on this guy and I knew that he was Bi. I asked him out at school "in the bathroom, but lets not go there." He said some other time. I was devastated, but I asked him a week later if I could come over to his house and talk and he said sure. All I can say is that was the longest 3 hours of "asking a person out".

Answer 4

Listen.

Listen to any conversations your friend and this guy have with each other whenever you can. Find out what you two have in common - same class, same teacher, same shirt, same issue with parents, whatever. You might even find out that he's in a class you're going to need to take later on and you'd like some info on what to expect. Granted it's a few years away, but it's kewl to find out the info on the teachers.

Find a common interest and mention it, or laugh when he says something in a knowing way - like you know what he's saying because it's happened to you, too. You'll be talking with him in no time. Eventually, you can work out with him. If you want, that's a good starting point, too. Do a little reading on working out, learn the names of muscle groups that you like on him and that you'd like to pump up on you. Then walk up to him, remind him where you know him from if necessary, and let him know you've taken up weights and would like to know if he's interested in working out and spotting you. If he says no, make sure you let him know that if he ever wants to get together, you're up for it. Use the words "get together" and "up for it." If he is gay and he is interested, he'll get your meaning.

Answer 5

know for sure? be careful about that. high school can be a scary place for gays (in college everyone busts out of the closet, its great!) and if he isn't he might be offended. But by sure as in you know someone who has had sexual encounters or something with him... well yeah.

i think just trying to become his friend and then try to do things alone with him. Be flirty and see how he reacts. If he is interested, plus he is older and may have more experience he might be the one to make the first move.

Answer 6

The world belongs to the bold, those with confidence...get a jump start on life by becoming bold. Have confidence enough to put it on the table...the worst that can happen is you will get a "no." NO ONE has ever died from that tiny word. If you ask enough people, you will get some yeses along the way, but if you don't ask, you will live a life of ALONE, which to me, is far scarier than "No."

Answer 7

Removing ones self from the proverbial closet is sometimes hard, yet not impossible. One needs to simply open the door and step out. No fan-fare needed. Just do it.

Answer 8

Tell the friend how you feel and see if s/he can help you out. Not ask him out for you or anything cheesy like that, but give you some advice on how to reach him and whether it's a good idea.

Answer 9

Just let him know your interested. It seems like you don't have a friendship on the line, so what is there to loose?

Answer 10

If he is a junior, he will probley not want anything to do with you, not because you aren't a cool guy,but just because you are younger, but who knows...