because she met a guy on the inter-net,went to pick him up at the airport,and I am staying with one of her friends,well she comes over to pick me up because I went to spend time with the kids,well the guy was there with her, this is not the first time I have had to see him,and it gets me so tired of seeing him, I would only consider staying with her if she will respect me and keep the guy away. she said he is going back home,but I don't if that is true or not. what do you all think?
2007-04-24 11:21:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we were living with her parents,in different bedrooms, they kicked us out after what she did,I need to get his last name to do a criminal background check and no I do not plan to have sex with her, she is damaged goods and there are alot of honest,caring,faithful,mature young ladies out there. she has the mentality of a teenager. I am the stupid one for putting up with all her childish games, of drinking,smoking,texting,spending most of my money, getting $200 dollar pills for nails and weight lose. my only concerning is for the well being of my sons, I want to be there for them as much as possible. after the divorce is final I will glad go back to the state I grew up in if my ex and my sons move to texas, I'm not in the position to fight for custody,possible later. I would fight for custody if she chooses to attempt to move to that dudes home state of maryland. she needs to grow up and stop playing childish games, be on her own with the kids, she has a aunt in texas to stay with.
2007-04-24 15:25:34 · update #1
Since your not divorced how come your out of the house? Its your house just as much as hers you should have stayed even in separate bedrooms. Also this person your soon to be ex is dating should not come near the house until the divorce.
Time to show your wife your not going to be run over move back in and let her know if her boyfriend shows back up you will change the locks and lock her out let your kids know what your ex is doing is wrong and you need there help. Also let your wife know that since your not divorced yet she's committing adultery talk to your attorney.......
2007-04-24 11:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's hard to answer when I don't no the reason for the divorce was it your fought was it her fought did you cheat on her did she cheat on you.To comment on this question the facts would help tremendously. But what I have read I would say to
you,don't move in with your ex because the more the other guy starts coming around the more resentment you will feel towards your soon to be ex, your kids will pick up on this,It's hard enough on the kids as it is don't add to it. I'm sure it's not easy seeing mommy with someone new in her life.Your kids are going to need all the reassurance that they can get from the both of you.
2007-04-24 12:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys aren't "together" so if she wants to bring a guy home with her she has that right although I think it's kind of rude. I'm guessing she's keeping the house and you are in-between homes?? It's up to you, whatever you are comfortable with. I would say get an apartment ASAP or ask her to get one for her and her guy so you can be with the kids without him lurking around.
On a serious... SERIOUS note if you have young kids. What is she doing bringing guys she meets off of the internet into her home WITH YOUR KIDS!?? 3 words: criminal background check. How well do you or she know this guy anyway? I would be more concerned about that.
Honestly I think living with her would be awkward and maybe confusing for the kids. Like I said, it's whatever you are comfortable with. It would be good to talk openly with her about it if you can.
2007-04-24 11:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by mrs. lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find your own place to live. She's making you her pawn. She's playing a game in attempt to make you jealous.
If she gave a darn about you she wouldn't be hooking up with a creep off the Internet. This behavior between the both of you is not healthy. Don't expose the kids to this crap. She needs to grow up and you need to get a life. You can see the kids away from this situation. Don't touch this woman again until she gets a STD check. What other games is she playing. It's all about the kids. YES, they do pay attention.
2007-04-24 11:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by WilljClinton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Son, apprehensive is not the adjective I would use as I would be scared. There is something up and you should prepare. Regardless of what you are told, take what you see and react to it. It is the truest of any information that a lying spouse will afford you and you need to react on it. If you do and it turns out to be nothing, you are prepared, if not and it turns out sour, you have it controlled. Trust is not to be given to a lying, cheating controlling, or abusive spouse. It doesn't make sense, it is unwise, it will lead to adversity and if you trust the woman that is meeting her internet partner at the airport, you are going to get exactly what you asked for. Be prepared, Remember, prepare for the worst!, Hope for the best, be ready to deal with what comes!!!
2007-04-24 12:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by g_menagerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stay. It's hard seeing your ex wife start dating again. It's even going to be more hard seeing it in your home. U can be friends but that's a little too close too soon. If u stay, you can't expect her not to date, after all you guys ended the romatic part of ur relationship. Move out, less complications.
2007-04-24 11:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by roastbeefonrye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there. You are about to be divorced. This means the relationship did not work. Work on yourself. Maybe some day you will attract a healthy woman again. You don't need to be looking at this other guy on a regular basis. This is rubbing salt in your wounds.
Good luck.
2007-04-24 11:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jack P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not live with your soon to be ex. No matter what the complications or convenience, it is not a good idea for your mental health and hers. You have taken a step in physically/ emotionally separating your lives, do not go backwards. It would also be very very confusing for the kids.
2007-04-24 11:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by lori s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stay their until i knew he was long gone.....I understand wanting to spend time with your kids (even if it means spending time with your soon to be ex).
Cant you take your kids somewhere else? like your parents house or a friends house instead?
2007-04-24 11:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out on your own, you need that space now. My ex offered for me to stay too when I was divorced. She was with this guy even before I was out. I couldn't handle being around her anymore.
2007-04-24 11:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋