Does any Despise the fact that you are really Responsible?

Question

Many times I wish I was as carefree as the people around me. I feel like me being so responsible is almost like a disability, I worry about this or that constantly. I don't know what our household and children would be like if I just took a day off. I'm sure everything would be fine and everyone would survive, but I would be so worried that this or that is not done. I wish I could just go with the flow ...Does anyone else feel this way?

Answer 1

Join the club. My husband and I both work and we have 2 daughters who are now going to elementary school but I feel like I still have to do everything from cleaning house to making sure the bills are paid on time and the girls are at school on time. My husband helps out a little and I do appreciate that but sometimes I feel like I'm running around like a chicken without a head and I don't even have time to think. But I always say to myself, "if you want it done right, do it yourself".

Answer 2

Yes, I have been there. I am a neat freak, or I was a neat freak. What made me change was the environment and my attitude. Us women work very hard raising the kids and keeping the house neat and etc, we deserve a break now and then. Just relax. Just worry about dinner and maybe getting the dishes done after. forget about the rest for awhile and enjoy being with your husband or children they will appreciatte it and so would you. The dirt and grime would be there way after we are all passed away. Enjoy the living ,[life is to short]. Believe me your body would appreciate it also, or and share the responsibilites do not be afraid t oask for help once in a while. If everyone helps out you guys canspend a few hrs together in a weeks time. good luck

Answer 3

There is a happy medium to everything. I would not say carefree is not the way to go but, not taking a day off is a little extreme. Manage your time better. There is time for work and play. Enjoy your children and family before it's to late as you can not turn back in time.

Being responsible is a great thing but learn balance.

Answer 4

Sure.
I'm tired of being the person who yells and watches everyone and teaches table manners and worries about homework and grades.
I do think if I didn't do it, everything would go to hell. Sure, it would all even out eventually - maybe with everyone safe and intact - but it would probably take months.
It would be great to be carefree. If you have a relative who can be 'mom' around your house for awhile (like grandma, for example), it would probably do you good to take a vacation alone and just have some quiet time without checking in all the time.

Answer 5

I used to feel that way. I ended up just taking one day out my week to just do exactly that and that was go with the flow and be carefree. regardless of how society portrays our lives as always having to be responsible. It is a great feeling to have no worry. We have to keep that bit of sanity. We all need our space and time to just kick back and breathe.. Im a better person cause of it. but still responsible at the same time..

Answer 6

you like the fact that the household needs you, thats a good thing, but if you want to be carefree, then just be...if something didnt get done Im quite sure you will handle it. life is too short -no one is promised 2morrow and if you dont start living and enjoying the time that we have left on this planet, you are going to wish you did. you worry about stuff cause you want to, start taking control of your life and stop letting the worries control you. you are in control of you. remember when you were a kid and nothing really matter except playing with your friends.....its ok to be a kid again have FUN!

Answer 7

I am a carefree & spontaneous woman like crazy. It's fun when you are young, but when you age, the temptation to be carefree and young has remained in my personality. See, I don't have children, and if I did...children change everything. I have learned to manage my temptations to be that what the heck girl, and be responsible since I am older. I married a man that sounds like your twin b/c I thought that a man that was settled, organized, had his priorities in order, a good job, a nice man, but we are divorced now. I found myself so bored with him b/c I had to initiate everything, he was very intimidated by my strong personality, and he just shut down. We were miserable. I am a Sagittarius and he is a Capricorn, and reading the romantic compatability for these signs was like reading our history together. We are friends, but our sex life was awkward b/c he was very shy, wouldn't try anything new, and I felt embarrassed when telling him what to do in bed. Anyways, you have to take a chill pill, relax, let your hair down and have fun! Your children, I bet will say quietely, " Alright, Dad's starting to have a good time, and he has a smile on his face.!"

Answer 8

Yep, I did. And then I had to go to the hospital for my oldest to have surgery. When I got home, the middle child was doing just fine in school, made all her practices and house was ok. My youngest one actually managed to find a little more responsibility on his own. Sometimes its good to let go and let someone else at least try to do something.......that's what you have taught your family....the right way to do it, so let them try. And if something doesn't happen the way you would like it to, weigh the consequences. Does it matter when the dust settles? Probably not. It takes practice, but I promise, the outcome is wonderful and your family members are better for it to. No one likes being dependent.

Answer 9

I am also highly motivated to keep everything in order..ect..
my advise is not to admire the people who are so carefree until you examine their lives.

Is their home clean enough to eat in? Do their kids get to school on time, with hair and teeth brushed? Will their Friends tell you they show up at a meeting place on time and are trustworthy?

I know some carefree people not worthy of envy. I suggest you work on having a "pamper me" day once in a while-get a pedicure or massage. Buy yourself flowers. Try not to fret. But - don't envy. The grass is always greener.

Answer 10

I hate to say this, but you put that on yourself. If you delegated some responsibility to others in your household, trust me, they might not attack it the way you would, but they would handle it never the less. By doing that, you free yourself from some of the responsibility and you teach them a valuable lesson that helps them survive in life - because we can't always count on one person for everything. I feel that way too, but I started letting go of some of the burdon and you know what, they handled it...because I didn't give them a choice. Now I have a little less stress and a little more time to shave my own legs!