What was the dumbest thing someone said to you when you were pregnant?

Question

Come on ladies, what were/are some of the crazy things people said to you when you were pregnant? I had a barista yell across a coffee shop that she hoped I was getting a decaffinated drink (like it was any of her business...) I also got lots of "YOU ARE STILL PREGNANT?" Um... yeah. Come on. Bring it on.

OK - I also got "When's the baby due?" when my son was 6 months old! And I'm not a fat person!

Answer 1

From a co-worker: "I bet you miss your tiny little body. I mean, you're just so big now. You just waddle." It was the first thing she ever said to me.

From my now ex-husband: "When are you going to stop being fat?" My response: "I'm not fat, I'm pregnant and my stomach is smaller than yours"

Answer 2

A month after I had my fourth baby: "You still ain't had that baby yet?" When I said I had, the woman said to me, "My belly went right back to normal the day after I came home with my baby." Um, she only ever had ONE baby. I have FOUR.

While I was going to business college and pregnant with my fourth child, these two women, one a skinny minnie, another rather large, both had fun picking at me for 1. having more than one child at my age; 2. having such a large belly. I'm a very petite person and was weighing in the 160s when they started this up. The baby belly stuck out verrrrrrrry far. If I wore maternity clothes of certain colors, I'd be sure to hear how fat it made me look. Well, I'm thinking most people...could look and see...I was quite PREGNANT! :) If I had a thermos, I'd be sure to hear about whether it was coffee or not, coz "In the old days, women drank whatever they wanted and smoked if they felt like it...." Oh, and if I was buying or getting out FOOD in the break room during class break, I'd have to hear about 1. (if I brought lunch) how I must be trying to cut costs now that I've got 30,000 kids; 2. (if I bought something small from the machine) how I must be "too modern" to eat candy OR how I must be forgetting how fat I am if I'm about to eat a chocolate bar. GRR!

And don't get me started on what I heard and dealt with during my FIRST pregnancy. :)

I was very small, like in the 120s, till about seven months with my first baby. A friend of my husband's mother often would talk about how thin her daughter had been and how she had been all belly, not like me. Hello, I have CURVES when I am thin.... Not too many people where I live have curves (and are thin too.)

Sometimes people would come up to us in the store and ask my husband, "Are you the father?" and "How old are you, honey?" I'd tell them I was 20 and they'd say they thought I was 14. If I didn't have my ring on, people would actually sometimes PREACH to me about how God "doesn't like that." I was feeling a little bit nasty one time that happened and said back, "Well, would he like me to be gay and childless instead?" *ouch* that was bad.

Sooooo many times I got mixed messages from different inlaws and family members. One would be like, "You shouldn't be lifting that" and another would be like (at a different occasion) "I did all the work around the yard and everywhere else when I was pregnant...." As if I was LAZY for letting my unemployed husband get me a drink of water while I sat for once. (I worked.)

Well...there's a lot more.... Ask me if you want!

Answer 3

"Wow! Your butt's getting big, too. You better be careful." I told her that while I hoped no child ever had to deal with her as a mom, if she did get pregnant, I hoped the baby was at least 11 lbs. (I wasn't very nice when I was pregnant.) I also got "You're not carrying a boy, you're carrying a man!" Then there was the 5 days post-partum "Your face looks a lot better. In the hospital, you were all swollen." Oh! I almost forgot. With my first pregnancy, when I decided I did want the epidural, my nurse's response was "So, you're throwing in the towel?" Nice. Very nice. Just think about some of those makes me want to cry. People suck.

Answer 4

Niether of these things were said when I was pregnant, but I thought they should be brought up here. When my friend was 5 months pregnant with her 2nd child, my grandmother said to her "there's just one in there?" Not exactly flattering, but what can you say to an old lady who's just asking an honest question??

After my daughter was born, I insisted on dressing her in all pink, all the time. It's amazing how many people ask "is it a girl or a boy?" Are you kidding me? Would you dress a boy in pink? (I guess the point is, the silly comments don't go away after the baby comes...)

Answer 5

During my first pregnancy, my (now ex) husband's grandmother said I was going to have an unhealthy child 'cause I craved pickle juice 2 days in a row. I ate real healthy during all of my pregnancies(3.) She was(is) very healthy, active, and currently on the Honor Roll - A's & B's every year!
( I was commented on having a "handsome boy" while she was in a pink dress with LOTS of lace and ruffles, pink blanket, lace ruffled socks & shoes. Very observant!)

Near the end of my second, being a week and a half past my due date- a friend suggested I jump rope on a trampoline to "get him out." I didn't. Also, many moms said he'd be a girl cause of how I was carrying him.

For my third, I was working at an ice cream shop and my boss- knowing I was pregnant- asked me to "just stand on this and get a sleeve of cones." "this" being a milk crate standing long ways. Before I knew I was expecting, I had done so. Even standing with the crate long ways, I still had to tip toe to reach those sleeves of cones and cups. I refused and said "that's a law suit waiting to happen." and swept outside instead.... some people! I was fired about 2 wks after that.
While looking for a job after being fired, I applied at a small clothing shop. I spoke with the manager and I told her (on the phone) that I was about 6 ms. preggers. She said she would still hire me. I went to the shop for my interview. The young miss who would be doing it said that I should probably look elsewhere for work since what they do would be TOO much for me. I told her that her boss still wanted me to work there. She said that since they have to push heavy boxes that I couldn't do it. I said I still carry my 40lb. son around, I can handle it. She said- & here's the kicker- We also have to vaccuum here. I don't think you could do that in your condition. Maybe come back after you've had the baby.

OMG!! Like I wasn't vaccuuming my apartment? I have 2 kids under 5yrs!!! I'm vaccuuming twice a day!!!!!

Answer 6

Well several things come to mind, but I can remember one instance that particularly upset me. When I was Pregnant, I worked for a company with a large number of employees, so many people felt they were party to my pregnancy. Just about daily a particular woman would ask if she could touch my stomach. I am a very private and modest person, and this was uncomfortable for me. However, this lady was elderly, and generally pretty nice, so I let it slide. When I was about eight months along the same lady, asked me to lift my top and show her my pregnant belly. I refused, because this was definitely crossing my comfort zone. She then insisted several times, that I show her because she needed to see my belly button. She even went so far as to grab my maternity blouse and try to lift it up. After that It got pretty ugly, and I told her to back off. Lets just say I never thought of her as a nice old lady again.

Answer 7

Two things:

"I can't believe your doctor is letting you get that fat, my doctor would have never let me gain that much weight, I never gained more than 10 pounds."

This came from my now very EX Mother in Law

and like some others, when my son was about 6 months old, I was at a garage sale and the lady asked me when i was due, I didnt even know what to say I just started laughing and said November of last year.(she felt stupid!) I happened to be wearing one of my old mat. shirts, that was the last time I did that.

Answer 8

I have so many. Where do I start? First off let me tell you that my husband and I have 7 children. My mother-in-law told me that I looked like a "big fat blob". My sister told me (sarcastically) when I got pregnant with my 4th child, "Geez, maybe with all these kids you can qualify for welfare." A lady in a gas station told me "DO NOT tell me these are ALL your kids??" I said, "Yes they are, and they are all very well taken care of." I cannot believe how RUDE people are. They need to mind their own business if they have nothing nice to say. My grandfather went on vacation to Las Vegas, and brought all his granddaughters jewelry boxes, except for me, because I was unmarried when I was pregnant. I have a little grudge I guess... :)

Answer 9

Well when I was 7mths my boss came from down stairs saw me and told me "Wow, you've put on some weight!", my daughter's father who i hadn't seen since I kicked him out when I was 5 wks pregnant came over when I was 8 mths pregnant and was like "You're fat!! Okay I will be 9mths pregnant on Monday and have only put on 35lbs, that's nothing compared to the 85 and 65 I put on with my boys!! What also gets me is when people come to visit or call they start with "Hey, prego" like they have to remind me I'm pregnant, like I can't tell everytime I look in the mirror!! I also love the "oh you shouldn't being cleaning this or doing that while you're pregnant" so everytime I hear that I tell them okay since I shouldn't be doing it because now that I'm pregnant I'm disabled,why don't you bring your *ss over here and do it?? Guess what,after that they keep there mouths shut!! LOL

Answer 10

Said to me in the gym,

"Omigod, I've never seen a pregnant person work out!" and "I didn't know pregnant women worked out, I thought they got too lazy." I thought to myself, "I was gettin plenty busy.....thats how I got pregnant in the first place."

Said to me at church,

"Dont you think four is just too much?" (referring to my children) BTW this woman was a mother of two girls. Hmmm guess she never heard the phrase, "Judge not..."

by a friend,

wow, you're still pregnant! Is this the same one or are you working on a new one?

and yes, while I'm holding my 6 month in my arms.....I get asked if I'm pregnant! There's still a little leftover tummy, but come on peeps, use that little nut between your ears

Then everyone ALWAYS tells you their own or other birth horror stories. Just what I wanted to hear.

Answer 11

I was at a party with a large group of my husband's old college friends. Most of the guests were complete strangers to me or else I had only met them once or twice.

In a room of about 20 people during a conversation lull, one of the wives who was holding her six month old frowned at me and commented really loud, "UGH! I remember when I looked like her [referring to me]. Just so big and fat! I hated being pregnant. I don't want to ever be pregnant again. I am so glad that I am nice and thin, not like fat like she is."

The whole room stopped and looked at me. I smiled benignly at her and said nothing as everyone in the room seemed to give a silent sigh of relief. Immediately the whole room started talking again almost as though to drown out anything else she might say.