My soon-to-be ex husband,in the navy,claims he is getting out on a med discharge. He lies a lot, need help!!?

Question

Ok, so I am currently married to a guy in the navy. We have a son, and a separation aggreement. He gives me an aggreed upon amount each month but still lives in the barracks receiving full bah.can he do that?! No one at his chain of command will talk to me! including navy legal, he went to them before he left my state and they said it is biased to talk to me. Now he claims he is getting out on a med discharge, (i've heard this for the past year) but can't/won't tell me when this is supposed to happen. Like I said, we have a son,I need to know if he will still have insurance! No one will tell me, plus, I don't even know if he is really going to be medically discharged. Everytime I call to talk to someone, I.E. Master chief,I ask them to keep it confidential and within a matter of a few hours,I receive a call from my ex, chewing me out for trying to check up on him. I don't know what to do!He says he is getting out, going back home to his parents to be a student, &won't pay support Help!

Answer 1

Get a lawyer and take him to court for child support. he can SAY that he won't pay, but it's the law. Here is a site for child support laws state by state: http://www.child-support-laws-state-by-state.com/military-child-support.html

go here for some answers: http://www.child-support-collections.com/military-child-support.html#1


You can tell him if he doesn't produce his DD214 (that's the the discharge paper from the military) proving that he's out, you will take him to court . (I'd go to court anyway)

As far as insurance goes, if he is discharged from active duty, he has the ability to buy into the military medical insurance program (they have family plans). It's one of their benefits. Again, you need to get a lawyer and get that stipulated in your divorce agreement. He can do whatever he wants but you need to make sure you are protected.

Here is another site that might help: http://www.divorcenet.com/military

And finally, you can contact your local military Family Assistance Center (FAC). You should be able to find out where the closest one is by doing an online search.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

His command doesn't want to talk to you probably because you have called so much that they see you as a jealous soon to be ex wife and they really don't care what he does in his personal life as long as it doesn't draw major attention,since the two of you have a seperation agreement yes he can live in the barracks and still recieve full bah because he is seperated NOT DIVORCED yet.

Now with all of this being said even if he is getting out on a medical yes his child will still have coverage he will have the same coverage his father does it's called transitional care through tri-care and when his dad starts his Va benefits yes the child will still be covered because he is a dependent child,however you will NOT if your divorce is final you will not even be covered by transitional tri-care.

How can you expect his command to keep the conversations you have with them confidential I mean if you are calling to complain or if you are calling to try to get information they are going to speak with him about it sooner or later even if they say nothing but your wife called if they say it that nicely hope this helps.Legally the service member is obligated to support his dependents including you until you are divorced.

Answer 3

well u didn't get this info from me but 1.He's not suppose 2receive BAH if he's living in the barracks they'll doc his pay if and when he finds out. 2. If you guys were married more then 20 years then you will receive money from him regardless its a law in the UCMJ. 3. If you weren't married that long then I say the best thing to do would file child support cause at least that way the navy will make sure you automatically get your money. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

The only help you need is from a qualified attorney. The next time you speak to your husband very calmly say I have retained an attorney since you and your superiors are not answering my questions. There is no need to fight, get a lawyer. Let you non navy lawyer communicate with him and the navy. He will not get away without paying support, any income he has can and will be garnished if he chooses not to pay.

Answer 5

Well by law he actaully has to pay you child support, I don't know anything else about the workings of military minds though sorry.

Answer 6

Get a lawyer and make him pay monthly child support. He has no choice.

Answer 7

Get a lawyer.