the new guy im with says he wil support me either way i even told my ex that i would not ask him for any support if he doesnt want to be a man about the situation. he keeps telling me that i cant force him to do something he doesn't want to do but i told him that i dont need him. i want to have him give up paternal rights. what should i do
2007-04-24 10:38:26 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you didnt force him to have sex with you. you didnt force him not to use protection. unless he's completely retarded he knew that it was possiblity of u getting pregnant. When he laid in the bed with you it was the same as saying yes to a baby. He cant force you to have an abortion. If he denies paternal rights, and you deny paternal rights no one will dispute. When you give birth they will ask YOU who the father is, how u answer is up to you. (however, I wouldnt reccommend saying someone is the father if he isn't or you're not sure.)
2007-04-24 10:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie7938 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, congratulations on the baby first off.
second, im sorry that your in such a sticky situation. The sad thing is that although your ex is buy all right a complete *** he is the father of your child and if you have the baby he will be a constant presents in your life weather you want him to be or not. you have two choices, you can either have an abortion (which i know you don't want to do) and then hopefully have a child later on with your new boyfriend. or you can have this beautiful baby and hope that you and the father can come to some sort of agreement. but as much as your ex is being a jerk, some day you'll look back on what a gift this baby is. and hopefully hell get his head out of his *** long enough to realize that to... no baby is ever a mistake, there an unexpected gift. that you should cherish.
2007-04-24 10:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep the baby, don't get an abortion! This is your choice. Your ex gave up his rights when he refused to support you. Seems like you have a great guy now who is willing to take care of you and your baby. Try to find out how you can get your new man to legally adopt your child and/or cut any legal ties with your selfish ex. If you can't afford an attorney, I'm sure your State Government has alot of different programs or agencies that can assist.
Congratulations on your baby and good luck to you.
2007-04-24 11:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by jordynluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do not want to do it then don't you will regret it now and forever.
If you make him give up all paternal rights then you will be asking him to give up everything. He cannot make you but you have all the legal rights to make him support this child, whether he wants a relationship or not with it. If this new guy is the one for you then it is ok, but assume something happens then the child will be without either father!
Just think about the decision...maybe by the time your due he will have changed his mind and want to be in the childs life.
2007-04-24 10:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by ChelYox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have the abortion. Get full custody (not difficult in your situation). Sue the ex for child support and live a long happy life with your new guy.
By the way, the state will not let a parent give up their rights unless you marry and your boyfriend adopts the baby.
2007-04-24 10:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait at least until the baby is born to decide whether you want him to give up his rights or not. I believe you have to wait until the baby is born anyways, but it sounds like you have a lot going on right now. He could change his mind throughout your pregnancy and this relationship with your current boyfriend could not work out so just give it some time. Don't rush to any major decisions because once he signs over his rights you can't change your mind later (like when you're single and need child support) and neither can he.
2007-04-24 10:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by ntemp01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Hun....Listen have the baby and just don't pressure or even call your ex. Evetually feeling of being forced to have this child will whimper down...he is high stressed and selfishly thinkin about his life. My EX who is amazing guy at first when thought i was pregnant freaked out and once even said that I was trying to get back with him by having the babay..i wasn't now that we are still waiting on results and with some time he called apologized has treated me like gold and says that he was so nervous, but that if we are going to be parents he realized that we should be good and civil ones and even friends through it because we will need each other. I hope your ex comes to see it like this...but some men are so immature...God bless you and I hope everything goes welll...don't feel forced!
2007-04-24 14:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by Questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you keep the baby and then you get him to pay child support. He helped make this baby, he can help pay for the child too if he doesn't wanna step up and be a MAN! Even if you have a new guy that will support you I would still make ur ex do child support. That baby is just as much his responsibility as it is yours. Whether he wants to be in the child's life or not.
Good Luck and congrats.
2007-04-24 10:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by Mandi B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am just one of those people who is not politically correct. i cannot stand selfish women who either want to keep the kid against the mans wishes and suck him for child support for 18 years, or they want an abortion against the wishes of the man who wants the child and wants to care for it. how old are you? are you married? maybe if girls these days would wait until they get married, they wouln't get themselves into these situations, i know these days girls don't wait, so how about birth control. now you have another guy who says he will support you, but for how long? and the truth is, you can force your ex to do something he doesn't want, most girls do in these situations. grow up and do the right thing. oh, that is just my opinion, which i am sure most will disagree with.
2007-04-24 10:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your baby if you want, but remember it will be you and your baby together forever, and new guy can opt out at any time. He says he'll support you now, but it is not his child and he is not your husband.
Just make sure you can give your child the life you want him or her to have on your own, or with the support of people who will always be there like your family. Don't rely on someone you're dating to be the answer for the next 18 years.
Best of luck.
2007-04-24 10:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Karla 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋