My boyfriend and I agreed that we will take a break, spend time away from each other. I asked him if he could give us a couple of months. I wanted to save the relationship this way because I became too needy of him as he was trying to focus on himself, trying to find a new job. He wanted to leave but I suggested to him to spend a couple of months apart, where during this period I'll not contact him so he can focus on what he needs to do and I can focus on myself. He agreed and said ok, let's do this and let's talk later to see how we feel. However, I am missing him so much, I really want to contact him. I am afraid that he will forget about me, I am afraid he does not think of me? I love him very much and I am not interested in anyone else. We have been togehter for 3 years. Should I contact him or should I stick to our agreement? It's been 24 days since we made this agreeement and we are both silent?
2007-04-24 10:34:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stick to the plan. If you cave, you'll just prove that nothing has changed and you're just as needy as ever.
2007-04-24 11:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you're hurting, but you really need to stick to your word and not have any contact with him.
he's not going to forget you! you two are just taking a break, and people do that all the time.
this break will give him the time that he needs to focus on trying to find a new job, and it will give you the time that you need to figure out what's making you feel so needy and insecure.
I'm sorry that you're missing him so much, but this will give you the chance to see for yourself that you can live without him being there with you all the time. that will help boost your self-esteem. and it sounds like you need that.
call up some girl friends and make plans to have a girls night out. you all could go out to dinner and a movie together and have a good time! and talk to your girl friends about how you're feeling. I sure they'll tell you the same thing I'm telling you!
so don't call your boyfriend. stick to your promise, keep your word, and let him miss you for a little while! he will respect you for not calling, and he will also see that you can make it without him. and that will in turn show him and you that you're not a needy young lady!
I sincerely wish you the very best.
2007-04-24 18:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two agreed that you needed time apart and it was because you were "too needy" then calling him before a couple of months goes by would be proving you are "too needy" and also that you can't keep your word. I would suggest sending a very generic card that says "thinking of you" and put a short note on it stating you were looking forward to talking to him at the end of May. If he loves you, things will work out. If he doesn't, then you've already had some time alone without him and you continue on.
2007-04-24 17:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you,it's very important for you to stick to your agreement.I no it's hard I have been through it myself so I'm not just talking to hear myself talk. Believe me it was one of the hardest things I had to do,every night I would pick up the phone to see if it was working.I would say to myself, why ain't he calling me, he didn't love me like I thought he did and who is he with,this was all in my head.Because when he did call me,he said he couldn't get me out of his head.This is what your boyfriend is going through,guys won't let us see that part of them because in their minds if we knew that much about them,that would be giving us power over them,I no it's crazy but that is the way guys are.We mustn't see that weak part of them .That is what they call it,to them it's being weak this is where the stubbornness comes in and they can be stubborn.
Hang in there and you'll see, your boyfriend will come back to you, absents makes the heart grow founder.
2007-04-24 17:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your agreement. He'll respect you more for sticking to your word and so will you. Think of it as a test of your love for him. If you can give him the space to get himself together despite missing him like crazy, you can do anything.
2007-04-24 17:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by zbak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honor the agreement and it will work out..Maybe just a text message saying "thinking of you" let him take the next step
2007-04-24 18:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by swindlebobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to the plan
2007-04-24 18:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him, u need to contact him, before he finds someone new to love. u can't save the relationship by being apart.
2007-04-24 17:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait 10 days. ;)
2007-04-24 17:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by I.M.BORED@LDN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and ask him if it has been two months yet.
2007-04-24 17:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by larry m♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋