After 15 yrs of marriage, i'm now alone with my 13 and 16 yr old. How do i keep from going off the deep end? I know i have to be there for them, but sometimes if don't know what to do?
2007-04-24 10:30:29 · 13 answers · asked by \\//^^%%^^\\// 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not has hard as you think, if I can do it so can you.
First start by realizing how many things in your life you don't really need. It's all down hill from there.
If you need someone to talk to, just message me.
2007-04-24 10:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, well it kinda makes you wish that you had given that much thought to the marriage before the cost, huh. When will women learn that it is not the man's fault. You guys have the ability to keep and make wonderful families but incessantly take for granted the marriage and now it is virtually worth nothing. The female gender does not even respect the territory of their own gender. What a shame. I abhore the stones and jabs of women claiming the infidelity of men when their territory is encroached by another woman and they capitalize on it by providing the missing element that would make your marriage a team effort. It sure would be alot easier if there were two and hindsight is 20/20. Men at one time tried to make the family a safe haven for women and their children. Women wanted something different and now the destroy men and still complain because they cannot have it all. Well, wake up and see life, no one has it all and when you get a little you complain that it isn't enough. I am getting to be like all men, I give up.
2007-04-24 12:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by g_menagerie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a stronger person than you realize and you have 2 kids who need you to show them that life is not over just because you are raising them alone.
My best advise is schedules!! Get a big calendar and mark everything down. Make a chart of house chores and divide them between everyone. They will have to pitch in more and that's ok, they are old enough.
It's ok and even healthy to be sad about this, but do not let it control you. Surround yourself with good friends and family and try not to dwell. Good luck!
2007-04-24 10:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had been married 13 years when my husband was killed in an auto accident - I had a 5 & 10 yr old, you have to take one day at a time!! call your family, plans things for yourself & your kids. enjoy your life - it's not over!!
i tell you this as my kids are 19 & 24 now!!
2007-04-24 10:48:07 · answer #4 · answered by ms_debbieg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single mother of 2boys 4yrs and 10 months. It is very hard being a single mom and trust me I have days where I think I am gonna lose it. It is very hard doing it alone. I will tell you that it will get easier. I have been taking my kids on day trips with my family and it makes things a little easier having my family there to support me.
2007-04-24 11:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by ltlmomma22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that as painful as today seems that without you your children would be lost. Everytime you think there isnt anything more you can deal with look at a picture of one of your children and think about what it would be like for one of them to have no mother. Be strong, seek counseling, do whatever you have to do in order to get emotionally healthy.
2007-04-24 11:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no guarantees in life, when he get left, it does hurt, but we have to go on, and be strong, or at least act as if we are strong. we can take alot more than we think we can, but it takes time to get over someone who was a big part of our lives for so long. prayer helps, a good trusted friend whom u can talk too helps with the grief your now experiencing.
2007-04-24 10:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to call up relatives for some family bonding.
Go on a vacation. Spend time with your kids. Spend time with your relatives. Find the little joys in life.
And you can do that for as long as it takes for you to be ready to find yourself a new man...and you might find you don't even need one.
2007-04-24 10:35:23 · answer #8 · answered by I.M.BORED@LDN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get help through counseling just to give you the tools you need to be able to do this alone and do it well. Good luck.
2007-04-24 10:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it must be hard but you have to stay focus on the importance of your children... You should utilize this time to find yourself and to develop a closer relationship with your children who need you more than ever......Remember you are all yous have together....
Best of luck..........
2007-04-24 10:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋