What do you do when you see your best friend is doing so well in life and your just depressed?

Answer 1

You get up off your lazy asss, write up a resume, fill out some job applications, and MAKE things happen. I honestly don't understand why those who drop out of school, make bad decisions, get involved with drugs, drink too much, play too many video games, and who aren't working always seem to blame the people who are actually earning a decent living. As if they got passed over or something. This is a no excuses world that we live in. So either get up off your asss and make it happen, or go back to laying on the couch. The choice is NOBODY ELSE'S but your own!

Answer 2

Find out what she is doing that is different and start making some changes in your own life.

You can always blame your problems and failures on someone or something else. But ultimately, there is someone out there that went through what you're going through and was successful despite that.

The definition of insanity is this: Doing something the same way over and over again and expecting the results to be different. If you don't CHANGE the way you are living your life, your life isn't going to change.

Stop looking at someone else's life and start looking at your own. What is it that you want? What is that you don't like? Take some steps to change it! If you don't know how, ASK someone who is successful. Don't ask people who are in the same boat as you.

If you are really a good friend, you will be happy for your best friend's success. But remember, things are not always what they appear to be. It may seem like she has it all together but sometimes what you see is not reality. Chances are, she has her own issues that she struggles with as well. Don't be too envious.

Answer 3

Sweetheart, I get it now, you are depressed. You need to talk with someone and if you are still in high school you can talk with your counselor or maybe someone from your church. Don't focus on your friend because it looks good from the outside but it may not be as good as you think. From your picture you are a beautiful young lady that has a lot to offer and I would love to see you get help so you can blossom into the beautiful young woman you are supposed to be. Just because things are going well for your friend now doesn't mean it will always be that you. This is why its important to make wise decisions in life so that you can flourish. I was always on the bottom and people seem to be doing so much better than me but as I look back, I have done so much better than others and I am not bragging but I am proud of myself. I am actually living the life I always dreamed of it took me a while to get here but I made it and you can too. I married the man of my dreams and I still have problems but my good times outweigh the bad and I am loving life right now. Pray and ask God to help you and you will be okay.....Things may not look so good right now but you have the ability to turn them around. I've been there and I have done it so keep your head up and you can do it, I know you can.

Answer 4

Wait....wait just a minute. How can a seventeen year old feel that a friend is doing so well in life and you aren't? You haven't even started to live life yet. Let alone have the glory and thrill of a mortagage, car payments, insurances and a good job.
Cool your heels kid. Concentrate on your studies and land a good paying job. Get a college education. Let me tell you this. once you achieve all of this, make it a point to attend your 20th high school reunion. You'll be surprised how many people you thought were doing "so much better' are working in a 7-11 slinging tastee-freeze to make ends meet.
Life is just beginning.

Answer 5

Be happy for your friend and try to do something positive for yourself. It seems, from your posts, that you are depressed. Think about seeing a counselor and be open to the idea of medication in need be.
Try to do one thing for yourself every day. Even if it's something as small as shaving your legs or tweezing you brows. When we get depressed we neglect ourselves. It's like we think we aren't worth the effort.
Once a week, do something bigger like go for a walk in a beautiful park or read a really good book.
Find someone to be accountable to,maybe your friend. Every week, tell her what you did for yourself.
I'm in the process of doing this now and it really helps!

Answer 6

I feel you make what you can of life and if you want something you will go and get it. She obviously was lucky to find happiness. You to can find happiness get out of the situation your in and better yourself. You dont have to be depressed life is hard at times and we all have downfalls but you can be living life to the fullest if you want life is to short to be sad. I hope you turn things around and live happily ever after good luck.

Answer 7

For starters, be happy for her! Next examine your own life, if you are envious of others than your own life will always seem inadequate. You control your life and those in it so make the choice to about what makes you happy and go for it. Set goals in your life!!!!
Do not let envy come between you and your best friend. My own best friend was killed in a car wreck less than two months ago and it would have been even more torture if I had let something so silly get between us!

Answer 8

Sometimes your perception of your friend doing well can be an illusion. I thought my friend was doing well and I spoke to her about this. She told me things that people don't see. She also said that she wished she had a life like mine. It's the old saying, The grass is greener on the other side of the street. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Stop comparing yourself to your friend and wishing you were her. You are your own unique self and have a lot to offer to others and the world. What do you enjoy doing most? Start doing that. Volunteer to help others - there are always others out there with worse situations than ours. Focus on what you like about yourself and your life and build from there. No one else can be you - you are one of a kind.

Answer 10

If you are envious of others and compare your life to others, then you will always be unhappy.

The secret to happiness is to be happy with what you have and to work hard to better yourself. Feeling sorry for your self and being bitter for what everyone else have is not gonna help you.

PS/ Quasimodo always says it best.

Good luck