What is the right age to get married?

Question

me and my bf have been together in a stable relationship for 2 yrs now
i am 21.5 , he is 23
we are still going to college together
we see each other all the time, spend most of time together
never had serious fight or argument
our lifestlye is similar and super simple, no drama, no party

what will be a right age to get married?

Answer 1

it's less about age and more about maturity. You both will still go through a lot of individual changes over the next 5 years. If you are both mature enough to understand that and are willing to allow each other to change (make mistakes) and grow, then you're probably ready to get married.

If this phrase applies to either of you "I like things just the way they are and I don't want my spouse to change", then you are not ready to get married....maybe not ever! :)

It's also the willingness to commit to each other. Marriage is HARD work and sometimes...well, it can suck, quite honestly. You have to be willing to work through the sucky times, bite your tounge and swallow your pride too.

It's a committment. It's NOT about "well, let's give it a try and when we don't feel like it anymore, we can always get divorced". An attitude like that will set you up for a divorce for sure.

You have to be a team, committted to what is best, not what is best for YOU or what is best for HIM but what is best for the MARRIAGE. That often means sacrifice and not getting your own way.

I got married at 25. We've been married for 15 years. It's been a great thing and I'm looking forward to many more years. But there have been hard times and a lot of learning and growing during that time. But through it all, we were determined to make this marriage work no matter what. My husband is my best friend, makes me laugh (very important!) and treats me honorably. If you can say that about each other...you're ready.

But do yourself a favor, finish school and get jobs first. Money isn't everything but not having it can really put a lot of stress on a marriage.

And remember this: Most marriages break up between the beginning of year two and the end of year three. That time is the hardest. So if you get married and things get tough during that time, don't give up. What you're going through is normal. Take a deep breath and try and remember what it was that made you fall in love in the first place!

Good Luck! :)

Answer 2

A good time to get married is when you're finished with school, you can both afford to live on your own without asking your parents for handouts, and plan a responsible future together. If you think that you can do all of that at age 21, then be my guest. But personally I would wait until you're at least 25 years old. A LOT can change in 3-4 years!

Answer 3

Definitely in your early 30s. If I would have married the man I was with 10 yrs ago (I'm 31 yrs old now), I guarantee we would have been divorced. Matter of fact, I know it. We are so different. I can't imagine being w/him now. The man I am with right now is perfect for me. We are very much in love, are very much on the same page, and both just had our first child together. We plan to marry soon. I am so glad I waited to A: have children and B: get married.

I was a party animal back then and I got it all out of my system. Wait. Even if you think he is the "one". You just never know until you have "lived" out your 20s like another person said on here. Good advice!

Answer 4

you somewhat need to get married on the age of 13? merely on the grounds which you hit puberty would not propose you're mature sufficient to get married. in step with possibility back interior the day, puberty replaced right into a distinctive sign or actually meant some thing. Get with the cases.

Answer 5

Honey, wait another 2 or 3 years to get married.
You need to make sure he's worth marrying. Unless you don't mind being divorced...and possibly becoming a single mother.
No fighting, no partying, still in college, spending most of your time together? Starting a marriage like that you would get bored before the honeymoon is over.

Answer 6

For a woman 28, for a man 32

You still have a lot of growing to do. Yes you have done a lot in college, but you should also be smart enough to know that college is a controlled environment. Neither of you have lived in the real world yet. This is where you will grow the most, you both need to establish yourselves before you take the next step.

Answer 7

Statistically speaking, people who marry when they are older than 25 tend to have longer lasting relationships. However, that doesn't mean you can't have a wonderful marriage at your age...just that some of the challenges that face younger married couples are already resolved individually if they marry later.

Answer 8

Nothing will ever prepare you for marriage. Not your age, or how much experience you have in relationships, or how secure you are financially. Marriage is about hard work, just like anything else. My advice is to think of things this way: at what point in your life do you want to commit to experiencing everything in life with just one person?

Answer 9

everybody is very very different and I dont think this can be answered! some would say that you may be too young but I know 5 of my friends are getting married and they are youre age . . . I think that only you can decide when you are ready for this and at what age is right for you. For some people no age is right! its not about maturity . . it is about finding the person who you are commited to for the rest of your life! as you are going to change alot and mature in differnt areas . .

Answer 10

I say wait til you finish school since you're already committed. Then go for it, it'll be easier to focus on your marriage once you don't have to worry about school and paying the bills since you'll have stable jobs.