I have recently got in touch with my ex-husband after 20 years. We both just ended long term marriages and we have been seeing each other for a few months and I am falling head over heels in love with him. My parents do not like him a whole lot; I might have let that influence the break-up in the beginning. I have a child from my 2nd marriage (he has none) and there are so many other obstacles but I can't seem to stop myself. I feel like I have been led back to him. Like it is fate. It never really felt "over." We just did not have what it took to make marriage work back then. We both have changed in so many ways- we seemed to both work on problems that destroyed things in the beginning and it just feels right. We have so much in common and sometimes we talk and it feels like we have one mind. No one knows that I am seeing him again; I'm ready to tell even though it is going to cause a huge uproar. I'm beyond caring- I just want to be with him. Is this so unbelievably selfish of me?
2007-04-24 10:06:19 · 8 answers · asked by Life is Crazy, so am I 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's very normal. He already knows your faults and you know his. Plus you get a chance to go back and try to do it right this time with 20 years of maturity and experience under your belt.
I don't think it could hurt to test the waters and see how things go. I wouldn't run out and elope or anything but go for it!
Your family will just have to deal. You are an adult with a lot of life experience, you have to make your own decisions.
Be happy!
2007-04-24 10:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by nailgal2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting. Just don't get too carried away.
If he seems like Mr. Perfect it's because he really wants to be with you. Whether he's changed or not you will only really be able to tell after the second honeymoon is over.
Life is no fairy tale. It certainly helps having someone you love by your side, especially if you're raising a child, but make sure you pick the right person...Of course, he will do everything in his power to make you think that he is or at least validate in his mind that he has changed, and you will do everything you can to allow him to sweep you off your feet, but nobody is perfect...you're the one who divorced him, so be wise.
2007-04-24 17:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by I.M.BORED@LDN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it just make sure you proceed with caution. The marriage ended for a reason and make sure you work out those problems before making a new commitment to each other.
2007-04-24 17:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it i think that you two have grown up alot and the problems that you or have may of had back then might not be what they are now and you guys know each other in and out and its safe you love him and he loves you. i know from expirence that when you have a child it is hard to find some one that will have a realationship with you and your child/ern. and it sounds to me that he loves you no madder what. i would go back to where it all started in his arms!
2007-04-24 17:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by boo_1313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its great myself . Just don't listen to the parents this time . Your all grown up now . Don't be stupid be happy.
2007-04-24 17:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do grow as we live life, you may have gotten enough living in to make this work. Good luck....
2007-04-24 17:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do your parent's have to you with you and your happiness..I would suggest pre-marital counseling just to see if it might work
2007-04-24 18:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by swindlebobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you don't have to marry him just have fun
2007-04-24 17:13:26 · answer #8 · answered by manfromblueriver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋