im seperated from my husband for 5 weeks now and it still hurts?

Question

our relationship was getting pretty rocky and we both agreed to the seperation i have not spoken to him at all in the past 5 weeks but its still there with me i think of him every single day there wasnt much attention or communication and i got tired of it i also heard hes depressed too from a friend of ours but heres the thing i have a pfa on him he has a hott temper and he cant call me but i feel him thinking of me all the time what should i do please help ty so much jewels

Answer 1

you can't feel him thinking of you thats just your imagination. what you need is rebound sex, this may take several different encounters before you meet a nice guy

Answer 2

You and your husband can go to marriage counselling and still live apart until issues that broke you both up are worked out first.; If he too is depressed about the separation, is a good sign, but he needs to make an effort to get into some kind of anger management program before you can even consider taking him back. If he has not made an effort it only shows he is in denial of the problems his temper has created. You might have to make the first move and suggest this to him. See what he says. Otherwise I would not suggest you to take him back until this is resolved first. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

If you want to save your marriage, you are not going to be able to do it by yourself, you need counseling. You first have to decide if you want to save it, if you don't, then there's really no point in dragging out a separation, go ahead and file for divorce so you can move on with your life.

If it's only been 5 weeks, you're still grieving. I'm sure a separation is close in stress level to losing a loved one through death, not quite, but close. 5 weeks isn't nearly enough time to get over something like that.

You can't "feel" him thinking about you, no one can, unless you're a mind reader. But if you were a mind reader, you probably wouldn't be separated, because you'd know what he was thinking, so you wouldn't have a rocky marriage, and everything would be fine. You just WANT him to be thinking about you, that's different than him actually doing it.

Best of luck to you, I hope you can get your life back together, or be able to move on with your life.

Answer 4

If you have a PFA on him then you are in an abusive relationsip. The last thing you want to do is contact him or go back to him. Put as much mileage between you and him as you possibly can. Men don't hurt people they love. You do not deserve to be abused, no one ever has the right to hurt you physically, mentally or emotionally. You need to stay away from him, don't call him, don't see him, don't go near him in any way. You need to get professional help to overcome your dependence on him and to discover why you think it is ok to be abused and why you confuse his abuse with love. Please stay away from him and get counseling. Go to the police and get the name of a battered women's shelter.

Answer 5

When a child is born, parents raise them, and are with them till he/she grows up, that is sense of security for kids, when we marry or live with a partner, that is emotionally we become comfortable and feel safe, does not mean that we were made for each other? when the kids are grown up, they disagree with parents, and cannot stand them, same goes with husband and wife.
Whatever the case, though we fight and make up, or even don't get along, yet we have the need for each other, we don't want to come to empty house, and we get so used to fights and abuse that we drag on to life, till something drastic happens.
We are humans, we need breaks, sometimes its not healthy to live in this kind of environment, and you are better off divorced or separated.
Its absolutely okay for you to feel the way you are feeling, we all do, at least I did, I was grieving for over a year, today when I look back, I feel I made the right choice, today I have become much stronger person, with confidence, I think positive, control my own life, more outgoing and I am so proud of myself that I made it.
Trust me, we all feel the same way, and its absolutely normal, but you will be fine, time heals all wounds, and life goes on, best exercises for you is to work out, go for jogging, pamper yourself, buy gifts, salon, restaurants, movies, spend time with family and friends, fight it out.

Answer 6

If you were used to being away from your husband and your marriage after only 5 weeks I would question your commitment.

Go see a therapist to help you get some clarity about your life and your marriage.

Answer 7

Of course it hurts, you don't just get over someone instantly. If you know in your heart that it is over eventually you will come to grips with your decision. Maybe you guys need to live apart and them try counseling. Who know maybe someday you might even reconcile. Good luck

Answer 8

I'm sorry....but the hurt will be there for awhile, but to help get out of the house. Go meet new friends...when you have something new in your mind you don't think of the old.

Answer 9

Ohh, I'm sorry! I hope that sooner or later you guys get back together and conquer your differences. I really hope that you at least live the rest of your life happy.


Good Luck!!!

Answer 10

You need some serious counseling girl. Why do you want to be with someone who is capable of really hurting you?