would you marry....?

Question

a guy you have been with with 3 months, he's leaving for iraq in november and you feel like this is it! No one else has ever made you feel this way, and you want to marry him before he goes, in case he doesnt come back, then you could say i married the man i loved more than anything?

Answer 1

I would do it. My husband and i knew that we wanted to get married 1 month after getting together... and now we've been together for 4 years in Dec, married for 6 months, and have a 1 month old baby girl... do it before its too late! Good luck and God bless!!!

Answer 2

I can see why it would seem that this is the one. The whirlwind romance, the upcoming departure, the worry that he may not come home...a lot of people might rush into marriage.
There are a lot of pressures on you right now to jump into this really fast. Unfortunately, it takes time to really get to know if this is the man for you and time is something you don't have.
Just remember, being a military wife is hard...really hard. You will be apart from the man you love, always concerned about his welfare, the pay is lousy and very few people really appreciate just how difficult it is.
If you do marry him, remember, you chose a fighting man. No complaining to him when the going gets tough. You'll have to suck it up because you're marrying the military too.

Answer 3

I know people that have only known each other for 2 weeks and gotten married and have been married for over 20 years so I don't believe in a time line but what scares me is that you say just in case he doesn't come back. Marry him because you love him, not with any stipulations, don't focus on anything or anyone. If you love this man for who he is and what he means to you then marry him for that and that alone. Don't do it for a large payday. Good luck and I wish you well.

Answer 4

Personnal I wouldnt. Due to the fact that alot of males that go down range (Iraq) only marry before they go cause they think they wont come back. Thats why my friend married the "Girl of his dreams" Its only been 3 months you should at least see where your relationship takes you with these few months to come to see if your making an ok choice or not.

Answer 5

wow. have you only known him for 3 months or have you known him longer and just have been dating for 3 months?
thats really a hard decision. it can be hard to tell what a guy is like for only 3 months.
if he really does mean all that you say he does to you, i think you should marry him. a little bit of time with the love of your life is better than none.
but no one on here can tell you what to do. if he treats you well, and you really think he is "the one" than go for it!
i hope things work out for you both & he'll be safe in iraq.

Answer 6

I would say no, only because I have been through 2 marriages that did not last. I loved them both so much, but it is hard enough to make a marriage work when you know each other and have "covered all the bases." If you guys are that much in love you can withstand a separation and it will just be that much sweeter. Divorce is hell. I wouldn't wish it on anyone- even a faceless person on the internet.

Answer 7

Personally I wouldn't because there is no way you can know someone in that short amount of time. I lived through the Vietnam war so I know what I'm talking about. I waited for my man to come home then we married.

Answer 8

No I wouldn't, its too soon and leaving for Iraq isn't as good of an excuse to get married as it sounds. Let the relationship grow while he's gone with letters and so on but don't make hasty decisions about something so serious as marriage.

Answer 9

How much do you really know about a guy in 3 months? give it sometime and WHEN he returns you can look at marriage..

Answer 10

Date for at least four seasons then get hitched. 3 months is okay for engagement, but not for the big knot.