my boyfriend moved out a week ago..?

Question

i guess ia sked him to leave out of anger because i found out he was talking to another girl he claims is just friend but i told him to leave like three days later I asked him to come back home he said no that he was tired of the drama..i found out that he is already looking for an apartment...am confused as to what i should do let him go and get over him or keep tring to get him to come home... we have been together for four years and we have two kids am really confused please help

Answer 1

WHY ARE YOU SO JEALOUS? THE JEALOUSY THING REALLY DOESN'T WORK BECAUSE HE WILL LEAVE AND NOT COME BACK.
IF YOU HAVE BEEN WITH HIM FOR SO LONG WHY DON'T YOU TRUST HIM?
SOUNDS LIKE THE DRAMA IS YOU OVER REACTING. TAKE THIS TIME APART TO FIGURE OUT WHAT YOU WANT AND WHO YOU ARE. BECAUSE YOU MAY OF LOST SIGHT OF THAT. AND TAKE THIS TIME TO REALLY COMMUNICATE WHAT IS GOING BETWEEN YOU TWO. HE HAS SOME ISSUES WITH THINGS AND HE OBVIOUSLY ISN'T TELLING YOU OR NOT WILLING TO LISTEN, EITHER WAY THINGS NEED TO GET RESOLVED BETWEEN YOU TWO BEFORE THE RELATIONSHIP CAN GO ON AND BE HEALTHY. WORK OUT WHAT EVER PROBLEMS YOU HAVE.

Answer 2

Nothing against you, but I have to say that the unnecessary drama that you girls cause has ended EVERY relationship I've ever had. Each time I was in the same position as your boyfriend, which was:

1) I was doing something completely legitimate
2) She blew it up into a ridiculous issue because of jealousy or insecurities or personal issues or maybe just boredom
3) I eventually said, "F*** this, I could be hanging out with my friends right now watching Family Guy and drinking"
4) I left, and realized that choosing to just "not deal with the drama" was actually very easy and made me a much happier and less-stressed individual.

Living alone is God's greatest gift to men.

Answer 3

Hi! Here's my advice:
First, let him know you're sorry you got angry and asked him to leave. Make it clear to him that you wish he would come back home. Tell him that you want to work out what happened between the 2 of you. Just be careful not to make him feel pressured. We tend to make irrational decisions and say crazy things when we feel we're being cornered. Give him time if he says he needs it. Just let him know that you do still love him and that he still has his place at home. Hopefully, the 4 years you've shared and your 2 kids would help remind him that your relationship is something worth keeping. Sometimes all we need is time away from home to realize that it's exactly where we belong.
Lastly, and most importantly...pray on it. Everything works out for the best when it's in God's hands. I'll send a prayer out for you too. God bless! =)

Answer 4

Almost the exact same thing happened with my fiance about two months ago. We had a fight. I asked him to leave. He met someone at his sisters house that night. He claimed to have feelings for her and moved in with her in only a couple days. Fact is, these are selfish people who do not see their part in the destruction of a relationship. Don't blame yourself as I did. I asked him to come back after she dumped him in only a week or so. He came back and now claims to be so sorry and love me so much but I don't believe one word of it. We are in counseling and if he does not start being honest with me and his self, I will not be around much longer. Be patient dear. This is his fault and he knows it. He was attempting to cheat. Period. End of story. Let him go see if the grass is greener because he will find out it isn't. (PS...my fiance was looking for an apartment too) You have two kids with this guy. Make sure you get child support and don't make it easy and comfortable for him to get a new place and do his own thing.

Answer 5

Sounds like this is not the first time you have called him on his alleged cheating. If you have no trust for this guy, it's time to ask yourself why. Has he a history of cheating or have you a history of mistrusting? If the guy never strayed, then you need some serious help from a counselor. If he has cheated, you have to decide whether to let go of the cheating incident, and if it was more than once, then just move on and understand that the next guy just may be different and treat him like a new start. I would really need more history from you about your four years with this guy before saying anymore.

Answer 6

What you are confused about is that you have a say in the matter. It doesn't matter what you want, only what he wants...you decided it was that way when you kicked him out.

How do you know it wasn't just a friend. Men and women can be just friends. You sound like you are a lot of drama, he will be happier without you. There is probably nothing you can do to bring him back, and nothing for sure to keep him.

Answer 7

It seems obvious that you want him back, so be a little persistent. He has no reason to come back if there is no chance that things between you won't be different. Don't just ask him to come back to the same old issues. Ask what you can do to solve said issues. Talk about what he can do.

Even if he isn't willing to give things more time, you will at least know that you did what you could to fix things so you won't have to live with regretting not doing enough.

Answer 8

Honey, I am in the same spot with you right now. I know that it is hard....Something that I have come to learn is that you are a master of your words until they come out of your mouth, and then you are a slave to them. We say a lot of things that we dont mean when we are angry. Give him some time and some space. Then try and talk with him, explain to him that you were angry, and that you did not mean the harsh words that you spoke. If he truly loves you, then he will give you a chance. However if he is looking for another place on his own, maybe he was just looking for a way out, and he knew by you finding out he was "talking" to another woman you would flip out. I hope this helps. Take Care & Be Stong.

Answer 9

men will make up any excuse to move on with someone else. u had a right to be angry, he was cheating on u, and u called him on it. he won't come back till he is done with her, just get your child support, and accept it, he may not be coming back, not until he finds some fault with her, after the honeymoon stage is over. u really don't have much of a choice here, the more u beg and plead the less respect he will have for u. just distance yourself from him, he has made his choice, and won't come back till he is ready.

Answer 10

It's an unfortunate thing that we act out on anger alot of the times instead of calming down and thinking about the situation. In this case it's too late, he has already moved out . Give him and urself sometime.