He was such a special and loving man. I am going to visit my children and my husbands grave the end of this month. It will of been year ago the 28th of April. What can I do with my adult children and grandchildren to keep his remembreance alive.
2007-04-24 09:47:36 · 11 answers · asked by stormey_84074 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It has been very difficult for my children to accept it. I have to travel 4 hours to decorate his grave so I want this time to really be special. Any suggestions will be great.
2007-04-24 09:53:01 · update #1
Give each person who attends a balloon. They can either say out loud what they loved most about him, or keep it private, and then release it into the sky.
Also, it sounds cliche, but I think it's beautiful - plant a tree in his memory.
2007-04-24 09:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by jnt308 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When we visit the grave of my grandfather we always bring sugar cookies (My grandfthers favorite) and a cd player so we can listen to a tape he made for us of him playing the Harmonica and calling square dancing.. .. We sit near the grave enjoying a few cookies playing the cd in the background while talking and remembering him through funny stories (The time he shot 2 holes (Yes 2 not 1) in the ceiling and roof proving his gun was not loaded, the time patched the roof (yes from the gun shots) and put his foot through the skylight), we remember more sober stories... The weeks leading up to his death and the last day when his memory seemed so clear after years of advanced alzheimers...
Sometimes we get up right there in the cemetary and square dance to his calls until we are all tangled up laughing on the ground.. You can almost here his say "That wasn't a doce do.. that was a doce don't." just as he did when we were all kids... Often one of us will say the first part and be answered by a chorus of voices saying the second...
We save one cookie each and just before leaving we crumble them up and sprinkle them over his grave to attract bird (another of his passions)..
Through us remembering him and telling his storys a small part of him lives on in us.. What better memorial than the 5 generations of survivors who all know, remember and retell his stories..
Remember your husband for the man he was, listen to and share the funny and memorable stories of his life he will live on in the generations that are here and the generations yet to come who will hear, remember and recount his life...
5 generations
My mother and her 2 sisters
13 grandchildren
24+ great grandchildren
6+ great-great grandchildren
1+great-great-great granddaughter
+ indicates the generation is still expanding as more children are being born...
Just recently we have begun recording the stories and placing them on cd's so none are forgotten.. You can get a head start by recording right away...
2007-04-24 10:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about taking along some photo albums. The older pictures quite often start the young people laughing about the clothes etc. and that could keep the day light.
It sounds like your children don't live in the same city as you, so I imagine you have had a tough year alone. I think the get together should be a celebration.
2007-04-24 09:55:40 · answer #3 · answered by alice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Celebrate his life, rather than mourn his passing.
Recount and renew all that was good about him and what he brought into the world. Share pictures of the happiest of times he spent with all of his loved ones, tell stories about him that start with the words "remember the time...?" and laugh together at the wonderful memories you all share.
As for those of you who are still here to share the memory of this unique and special man... let his memory inspire you all to love each other better in this life, and to show your love while you can.
2007-04-24 09:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by The Oracle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go do something your husband loved to do. Or go spend the day someplace he enjoyed. If you can manage it (have your own house with a yard and have space), plant a tree in his memory. Take a few minutes together as a family to say a prayer and remember that he will always be in your hearts.
My condolences.
2007-04-24 09:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After visiting the cemetery, invite them over for lunch and play some old home videos or show them your wedding pictures. This is sure to make the day about him and spark some fun stories for everyone to share.
2007-04-24 09:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by Georgie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard admitting that a year has passed when a loved one has died. you should spen the day remebering not nessacarly celebrating. go to the grave say a pray. tell him of what has happened while he was gone. have a nice dinner.
2007-04-24 09:54:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know that this should be a day of joyful remembrance, not a sad and mournful day.....the joy of celebrating life WITH him. Ask them each to tell their favorite memory of him.
2007-04-24 09:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could all do something that your husband enjoyed doing while he was alive. like for example if he liked to go fishing take your family fishing and talk about the times you spent with him :)
2007-04-24 09:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by me 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell each of the children, privately, something about them that reminds you of your husband/their father - something of him that lives on in them.
2007-04-24 10:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋