Why is it that when a man has an affair, the wife blames the other woman? I have seen so many of these "talk shows" when the wife really has a go at the other woman, but surely, her aggression should be directed towards her husband, he was the one that made the promise to be with her etc. Yes, the other woman could say No, but at the end of the day, the man should take responsibility for his own actions.....what do you thing?.....
2007-04-24 09:44:34 · 41 answers · asked by MrandMrs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Totally agree ..... Think it is to easy for people to think of the woman as a bit of a loose woman yet the man is just said to have taken what is offered on a plate .... would he eat sprouts from a plate if he didnt want to ???
2007-04-24 09:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she should also take a good long look in the mirror. Many men stray for ego reasons, true. But I think that just as many men stray because their home life has petered out and they don't have the excitement and love they crave from their wives.
The women on those shows usually lash out (though I've never watched them honestly) I would guess because they can't see what they themselves might have done wrong.
Also, a lot of times the "other woman" is dressed like a common street whore, I'm sure, so naturally the wife might feel intimidated or threatened by the younger prettier version...especially if that woman looks like the wife used to a few years previously.
2007-04-24 10:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sadly deep in many peoples psychi that somehow theman is led astray by the woman......when really often the man is the predator....by nature. There is always choice and he made his choice when having the affair.......too often the wife feels to blame in some way that she has let her husband dow driven him into the arms of another woman. The truth is the man is often the one who could have made an attempt to talk to his wife and repair anything lacking in thier relationship bu instead acts like some helpless and hapless creature. Same works in reverse if it is the woman having the affiar.
2007-04-24 20:36:55 · answer #3 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The husband blames the other guy to its just not guys who cheat you know. But why even have aggression when you know that they are cheaters and not worth the the bullet to blow them to hell . My first ex cheated when i found out i just put my close in the car and went on my way .I was 28 and met 2 19 year old twins and had a great time . My 2nd cheated after 20 years i didn't fight with her either when she went to the store i changed the lock on the door and put a note on it that said "Rick " wants you to meet him at the bar that was her boyfriend . What could she say .
There's so many others out there looking for a good person why bother with all the drama
2007-04-24 10:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the wife blames the other woman because the thought of the man she loves totally betraying her like that is too much to bear, at first...
But she can only bury her head in the sand for so long...etc
Denial is a great thing....
2007-04-24 09:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very true. I think that if the woman knows that the guy is with someone already and went ahead regardless then she should be gone for because she is acting like a 'man-thief'. If obviously the woman is kept in the dark then its unfair. But it happens alllll the time and I doubt its ever going to change.
2007-04-24 10:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by buff1ne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the shoe is on the other foot here, my wife has cheated and I was angry at her as much as I was angry at the guy. I blame my wife for this mostly because she should have said no. I also think she was the one that instigated it. As much as I would like to do some foot to a*s to the guy, the blame goes squarely on my wife's shoulders, and I'm not about to go to jail for beating some dirt bag down, because she felt the need to give it up to someone else.
2007-04-24 09:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree also ... but I have a possible reason why, if she starts pointing fingers at her husband, she runs the risk of him saying "because I cant get it from you", and then she has to take a look at herself ... much easier to just blame the other woman
because, at the end of the day, then she doesn't have to take responsibility for her part
... and, like it or not, we all play a part, not just the cheater
2007-04-24 09:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are totaly right the Man is to blame, he is the 1 in control , he can always say no if being chased, but if he is the 1 who started the affair then what else is there to say
2007-04-24 09:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by MISSY G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it is the man that the women should be mad at, but however if the other woman knows the man is married and she continues to have the affair, she is just as much to blame.
2007-04-24 09:50:14 · answer #10 · answered by sparkles 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think it is the woman's inability to deal with her husbands betrayal. it can be easier to deal with the intrusion of the other woman instead of the deep pain the husband has caused. the women on the talk shows seem to be in denial. as though by blaming the other woman they do not have to face the truth of the relationship. they guard their man while he runs around playing catch me if you can- sad situations for people. i wonder though if these other women chased after the men. maybe they feel their h wouldn't have strayed unless he was actively persued.
2007-04-24 10:03:59 · answer #11 · answered by adelaide 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋