Ok I've meet this young woman through an on-line dating site thing and we've been talking since March. She asked me... Why are you being guarded with me? I'm not entirely sure what she means by this so I'd like to know what other people see this question as.
2007-04-24 09:43:54 · 11 answers · asked by Jackel 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Oh, I think it would be best to ask HER what she meant by this. However, she may see the question as further guardedness. Bottom line, "guardedness" is just psych lingo and not always clearly defined or understood. True communication can occur if you explore together what she really means or is asking and explore your behavior and feelings in response to that.
2007-05-01 19:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Goldberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be acting/sounding guarded because you don't want to reveal too much about yourself. She is probably trying to get to know you better.
There are many factors to communication words, tone of voice and body language. What words you actual use are the smallest part of communication, tone of voice in the next biggest part and body language makes up 75% of communication, the way you sit, the positing of your arms, even facial expressions could all be leading her to believe that you're being protective of your inner self.
If you're not sure of how your acting ask her or pretend you are having a conversation with her while looking in a mirror. Pay close attention to how you say things and the placement of your arms. It is general perceived if your arms are crossed or folded across you chest you are being protective or angry. If you have your arms at you side and you chest opens up to the person it shows trust and openness.
Well, I hope that helps.
2007-05-01 04:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by eener_712 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone asks if you are guarding yourself, they mean that you are being selective about the information that you are giving them.
You may very well have a good reason, like a past hurt or also, it may be from not being very comfortable meeting someone from an online site.
I would try to explore any reason why you would not feel comfortable with this person, and go from there.
2007-04-24 17:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by frenchie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she probably feels that you are evading alot of her questions. Not being very sincere with her. I would think this is normal. Everybody is entitled to his or her own secrets and furthermore, you are only friends "on air". Why should you tell her so much. On the other hand, there are people who demands to know everything about others. She is maybe that kind of person. If you dont feel comfortable to tell her everything, tell her so rather than giving evasive answers. She should also respect your privacy.
2007-05-02 03:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Vico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think it means why are you guarding yourself and not exposing what it is she wants to hear/know...As if you are putting up a wall in order to protect yourself (metaphorically of course...)
Im sure though you would get a better understanding of what it is she meant if you ask her...
2007-04-24 16:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by kat...grrr... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That phrase generally means that one is not letting any part of him/herself out in the open. To some, it feels as though a person is purposely omiting facts about him/herself.
2007-04-24 16:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she feels that you are being careful and emotionally distant. I don't blame you though. It's better to take it slow than to jump in too fast. Good luck.
2007-04-24 17:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it means ..your not being open and up front with her...she wants to know more about you...but I think your being smart to be guarded ....you don't really know her ...it's on line dating....take your time....
2007-05-01 18:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could mean that she senses that you are holding back being yourself with her.
2007-04-24 16:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by gogirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she thinks you're putting up a wall, not showing emotions with her.
2007-05-02 03:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by radames 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋