why are guys so easy to read, yet so confusing at the same time ?

Question

Is it j ust me? they are so confusing sometimes yet you can see right through them! 3 mnhs ago my bf of over 2 years broke up with me... few days after tells me "not liek I want to getback together with you now the way that your acting" then next thing "we're never gettign back together" last month he says "its liek this for now" next text message "its liek thos forever" week later "we arent gettign back together anytime soone, maybe never" I accuse him of being confused. yet he says he knows what he wants! LOL! obviously not. yes i do still love him alot. and he tells me "I wouldnt wait for me If i were you, i dont want any kind of relationship" that was the only time we talked (last month) we agrred to keep in touch. I have been doing great but things havent been going well for for him.

but how can i REALLY move on. part of me want to. and theres another part of me who wants to wait still. cause of all those things hes said to me..

things did not end badly between us at all

just mainly to focus on school... and basically he just didnt want to be in a relationship anymore... so I konw there will always be a chance..... he also has alot of stress and atuff goign on in his life.(pretty hard time for him now)

he tries to talk to me through aim sometimes too... but i always just say bye and sign off.

how can i REALLY MOVE ON. we hardly talk last month was the only time



doesnt he sound confused?

I dont want to be his friend... we were eachothers first bf/gf and first everythign. you cant just be friends! he wants to be my friend but it would b to hard. cause id always be hold ing to that last glimmer of hope "oh since im his friend maybe he'll take me back tomoorrw or maybe next month" hello no! im not putting myself through that. I think he sounds confused. everyone else i talk to thinks he is too. he is always honest with me. yes he knew what he wants but doesn tknow if he wants it to ber pemanent or not.. cause a few days befor we agreed to "take a break" and he told em there wanst a difference between breaking up and taking a break.



sorry for my spelling.

when he said "its like this for now" he means we are seperated for now.


cause I gave time to think over his decsion and after that time was up and then some i asked if this is what he really wanted and he said "it sliek this for now"

Answer 1

Ok so comming from a guy, i would have to agree. We are confusing but thats becuase we dont even know what we want or are looking for. We may say we love you becuase we feel pressured by you or anygirl. Are minds have one track and thats how to get a girl. About your boy friend it seems kind of confusing but he might have realized he really likes you but doesnt know about to tell you, or to move on from such a great relationship with you.

He may say we know everything and we know what we want just to show confidence and strengh but a real guy will never admit he is wrong or even that he doesnt know. and if he honestly doesnt want a realationship it may be hard but it might be time to move on. and if your honestly fine but still care for him in a friendship way, you might want to confront him of his own feelings. Dont force them at him but just tell him what you think.

Really moving on is difficult, your thoughts are consummed by his face and sweetness and your heart aces with every though. The best thing to do is get yourself involved with extra curricular activites and hang out more with your friends keep active and try and look at the good times if anything you had togeather.

Finally ask for a friendship with him, you can still hang out with out making out and holding hands. Go to a movie with a bunch of people and have fun.

Live in the moment and dont dwell on the past

Answer 2

well i have a friend just like that we been friends for years i can tell he likes me but to keep it as friends is the best ideal he has a norther girlfriend every time i turn around but the truth of the matter is i really love this man and if he was with me he would not have to worry about the next one but if we were together because of the kind of person he is our friend ship that is great would be messed up he knows this so he wont make a move and i know this so i wont The best thing we have is our friendship and that's worth more then a relationship that will go bad in a couple of months maby u should think about it and consider what are friends worth to u and if the relationship goes wrong u know your friendship will never be the same

Answer 3

from what you quoted him as saying, he doesn't sound too confused, more like he's trying to be nice if he feels like he could otherwise be hurting you. makes sense since you say you still care for him; but almost everything he's telling you says you're broken up for good, or at the very least for long enough that if you give yourself and any other interesting guy a chance, you can have moved on from this one.

you move on by making sure you're keeping yourself busy with things you enjoy, and spending time with all the other people who matter to you. make new friends (both guys and girls) and when you meet another guy who seems nice, cute, funny, etc, and he asks you out, go for it; it might not turn into a relationship, but it's another chance to be out there "moving right along"...

Answer 4

First of all men are very confusing cause that same thing happened to me about 2 months ago but when we broke up he was dating someone else and still called me and to this day we talk but not everyday and we are still friends and he still tells me he loves me and i say don't say that unless u mean it and he says he does but who says that we can trust u guys again right.

Answer 5

No you are wrong, he does know what he wants. It's you that are confused, not him. He is telling you the truth, but you refuse to see it.

Move on, he has.

Answer 6

I'd move on... he doesn't sound confused at all.. :HUGS:

Answer 7

omg. move on

Answer 8

too long