I'm tired of overthinking everything... and I'm almost having an anxiety attack right now.?

Question

why must i always over-analyze?! why don't other people do this, and how can i stop?

one thing that's very difficult too, is when it's during a conversation with a guy. guys always want to move on and forget about things, but i need to talk them out until i feel better. i can't just drop it and move on! but the guy gets frustrated if i need to discuss what they say is "the same thing over and over again."

and right now i'm obsessing over a situation with this particular guy (he seems to be pulling away from me, and i think part of it is due to my anxiety?). the more i think about it i'm getting all hot and flushed and sweaty and i keep swallowing...

Answer 1

Lot of people do this (I do this too). But I would say the ratio of overanalyzing people to others is less. I can think of few reasons:

1. You have fewer things (or people or relationships) of concern in life - makes you spend a lot of time than what is needed - like imagine, if you had only two friends and a lot of time in hand, you would be thinking a lot about your friends than your friends who have tons. If this is the problem, expand your lifestyle to include more activities, more contact with people.

2. Some people (if not most), if not physically active, tend to increase the amount of thinking - usually resulting in psychological issues like depression, anxiety. If you don't have any, get a couple of hobbies that are very physical - go play tennis or take up hiking or jogging. that too try to get new friends and/or many friends - don't limit yourself to few people in life.

3. start thinking about your insecurities and sensitivities. list them down, come to a good understanding. Often you analyze things that are the surface ones. but the real ones you are worried about subconsiously are the deeper issues - like you might have a concern that you don't have a boyfriend or not highly secure with the current boyfriend. Think about that problem and come to an understanding. If not, you often tend to analyze little things like he did this or said this and what does it mean, etc. They don't lead to clear answers to your real questions and just take you in circles.

4. Learn more about your tendency to overthinking or overanalyzing - positing in yahoo answers is a good start but, try to find more articles/books to read. A good psychological book will give you tons of insight. You can even schedule a session with a psychologist - a second person always can analyze you better than you doing it yourself.

Of course I can keep going on further but i have to stop somewhere. So, here I stop.

And try to get a book "The Power Of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. It is about too much thinking in general but not run of a mill book - it is even higher understranding or philosophy about "the thinking you" isn't the real you, something like that.

Answer 2

There are Panic and Anxiety drugs which will help you, but as well, there is yoga and meditation. Taking deep breaths in and out. Breathing into a paper back. Taking a walk outside when you are obsessing so much that
your imagination takes over from reality.
Go to have a cup of tea or lunch or visit a good friend who has a calming influence upon you.
But get away from the situation that only increases, exacerbates your panic and anxiety.
And if you think it is for you, find a good counselor. As much as I do not like to confide my deepest issues with strangers, even those professional, if a situation is too painful, too far beyond your control, and you feel this, I'd go consult such a professional who might help me!
Good Luck,
Grace.

Answer 3

Join the club. And it's not just a girl thing.
Analytical people have a gift, really. We can see things other people don't see, and are able to discern things in situations that others miss. This helps when listening to others, when we are able to see into people's hearts. But the problem comes when we allow two things to happen: one...when we give our intuitions or suspicions more credibility then they deserve. Our thoughts and feelings are just that...not a 'voice' from beyond that we must obey.
The second is worse...when we feel compelled to burden everyone with our analytical insights. I have a tendency to have premonitions about events, and some of them come true. But most of them don't. That tells me the better part of wisdom is keeping my mouth shut. When I do that, half my problems are solved.
Try to see your 'problem' as the gift that it is...don't try to "stop"... but look for ways use it for the good of others. The negative stuff...it's ok to ponder it in your heart, but keep it to yourself.
'Discernment', by the way, is one of the gifts of the Spirit, as described in the Bible, if you're into that sort of thing. I am, but you don't have to be to have it.

Answer 4

Now this is a tough question to answer, since any valid answers would eventually come from within. I understand how over-analyzing can become a burden, specially when it is hard for you to stop. Other people do that of course, at their own individual pace and complexity level, though. One possibility that comes to mind is action. Thinking can not be stopped I think. As a way of distraction, do something with your body; handcraft, draw, paint and similar ones. However successful, I have a hunch you would be back at analyzing things up and down, again and again. There goes a lark: could you direct your analysis so that although they bounce back they do not go in circles?

Answer 5

You need more of a low stress lifestyle. Get out more especially for aerobic exercise, walking, swimming, dancing, bike riding at least 4 times a week. Eat a low stress diet-whole grain, veggie and fruit and get lots of direct sunshine, sun block is fine, so are clothing to cover you so you don't burn.

Travel a bit, even just day trips. join a new group or start a new hobby. Gardening is very theraputic.

Answer 6

First of all, being an analytical person isn't a bad thing.. just means you've got alot going on upstairs

I used to do this alot... to the point it ruined a relationship. If your ruining a relationship you need to realize that the reason why you are "overanalyzing" is becuase you are insecure. I think ultimately for me, it was recognition of the problem, then dating someone I could trust.

Answer 7

I am so happy, it was only a 35 minute drive ( 70 minutes total) but absolutely no sign of anxiety or panic i shopped till I dropped - brilliant! I will now go for the next stage DUAL CARRIAGE way, probably at the weekend, with my husband accompanying me first then the solo drive, if successful the final stage of driving on motorway

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Answer 8

At least you know the problem, it's called obsessing and a lot of women seem to do it, and I'll tell you a lot of guys get real tired of it real fast if you do it to much. When you find yourself beating a subject to death you need to change your focus and drop whatever you're obsessing about.

Answer 9

Dont feel bad, I always do that too. I give myself anxiety over alot of things. It doesn't make me as nervous as it seems to make you. Did ya ever think of taking something to see if it makes you feel better, like a zanyx or something. Try them and see what happens. They are for anxiety.

Answer 10

This is because you aren't allowing what is already the case to be just as it is. In other words....

Your anxiety & thoughts come from resisting the here and now. By allowing what is, this will become less and less a problem.