anyone have kids within 2 years of each other?

Question

I have a one month old right now, and my husband and I would like to get pregnant when she is a year and a half...

how hard is it to have a 2 year old when you have a newborn? how did you manage?

Answer 1

It is difficult to do the double diaper duty, you may want to be sure that the first is potty trained at least for the daytime before having another. Other than that the hardest thing of having 2 is find the energy to keep up with both of them when they are older.

Answer 2

My kids are 25 months apart, we did not plan it that way but I think it is the perfect age apart, they have a built in playmate by 1 year. Mine are both girls and are really good friends. It is hard at first but I believe it would be hard to adjust to a second baby no matter what age. By the time my youngest was 6 months we were all adjusted and doing great!!

I got pregnant when my oldest was 15 months (first try unprotected and I was on my period) but I am very happy with the age gap, they are 6 and 8. If we would have had more children I would have tried for the 2 yrs apart. And on the practical side if they are the same sex, it works great for clothes etc.

Answer 3

I have 5 children 4 females and 1 male.
My first child is a female born June 21, 1988, 2nd child is a female born April 3,1990, 3rd child is a female born March 21,1991 4th child is a male born July 23,1993 and my final female was born October 6,1994. It was hard sometimes, but I did it and you can too :)


Rachel ( 1988) and Jacqueline ( 1990) are 22 months apart
Jacqueline ( 1990) and Shannon (1991)are 11 months 3 weeks apart
Shannon (1991)and Corey (1993) are 28 months apart
Corey (1993) and Taylor (1994)are 14 months,1 week and 5 days apart.


I am hoping to have a couple more children with my new husband soon!! ( PS He is Noted for making Twins)

Answer 4

I got pregnant the week of my sons first birthday! (about a year sooner than planned) Going through the pregnancy alone chasing a toddler was completely exhausting! My toddler was 20 mos. old when baby arrived. And it has been the most draining, challenging thing I have ever done! I now know why I didn't plan it this way! Potty-training was in progress when baby came--That went out the window. My toddler was becoming more independent, and well-behaved--That went out the window! My toddler never threw tantrums before baby came--That went out the window! See where this is going? "They" say having a new baby around makes your older children likely to backslide, and "They" are right! Going to the grocery store is like packing for a vacation, and is usually chaotic. We have 2 carseats to drag around wherever we go, and 2 babies. (Toddlers have to be carried, unless you feel like running a marathon with a baby on your hip, trying to keep them out of things, or from running away in a parking lot). It is really, really hectic! I'm sure when my boys are older there will be many advantages of the closeness in age that far outweigh all this chaos. But my advice is don't have them this close unless you have "tons" of support and help from family and friends. (like babysitting)

Answer 5

Please don't, it is just not a good idea you will wear yourself out. You know the terrible two's well they don't usually come till about 2 and a half and then you are stuck with a new baby and a two year old who acts like a teenager without knowing how to talk.

When you have children that close they just don't get things done as fast as they normally would. Like walking, potty training.

The most important reason is that when they are teenagers they are the devils. My mom had my brother and sister 1 year and 5 months apart let's say she knows it was not one of her brighter moments to say the least. As well they will both be going to school at the same time that means $$$$$$$.

Answer 6

It is exhausting. But, for us, anyway, the rewards were great. My son & daughter, who are 21 months apart, are the best of friends, now. We're glad we gave them that friendship to carry them through their lives.

I don't know if it's any more work having them close, though, than it is having them further apart. Kids under five (and even older) have all kinds of demanding needs, anyway, just different ones at different ages/stages in their lives. So, you're going to always have double the energy drain, anyway, when you double the children.

And, it's kind of nice piggybacking the stages & lessons on each other. Potty training one after the other, for example. You've already got all the stuff you need, might as well just start again :D

Answer 7

you just do what has to be done.i have 5 children the 2 youngest are 11 months apart.the most time between kids is 2 years and i miscarried a set of twins between them when my son was 1 year old.i lost my first child so i would have had 8 children.i always wanted a large family i love my children very much.good luck to you and your family.i did not go to work outside the home till my youngest was in kindegarten.dont have a bunch of kids if they are going to be raised by a babysitter theres no point.

Answer 8

My kids are 17 months apart, I first felt robbed of my daughter's babyhood, then I wanted her pottytrained before the baby came, that didn't work out. Having two in diapers was the worst because I had a husband who didn't help out because he was the breadwinner. But actually it worked out well, my kids were close to each other, and got along well even though I had one of each. They shared a room until they were in 2nd and 3rd grade. Even though we didn't plan it, it worked out well for us, got the nasty stuff like diapers and potty training over with right away.

Answer 9

It's hard. I had mine at 1 yr 20 days apart. Almost like having twins.

Remember that 2 is a difficult age.

Answer 10

I was pregnant with my second child when my first was six months old......it was very difficult! I had a newborn baby when my son was just starting to walk...It was really expensive, I had to buy another crib nad high chair!! Not to mention I had two c sections!!