I had the best friend i would have ever asked for the whole 5years of secondary school. But when she got with her bf we didnt see each other as much. I understood because i knew how much she liked him so i left it alone. However, when i got with my bf of now 15months, she didnt like the fact i spend time with him, even though she was always with hers.
A year later i found out that her bf had been cheating on her for a few months and even though we had already started falling apart as friends, i felt the best thing to do was tell her because it wasnt fair on her to keep it going on.
She basically blamed me for it and didnt want my sympathy and cuddles. When i text her she thouht i was just tryin o get the gossip! How can she even think i could be like that after our close friendship?
Then a few months later she wondered why i said i would feel uncomfortable when she invited me to her birthday.
Why has she changed so much?
2007-04-24 09:06:14 · 11 answers · asked by Melly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i know that i have had simular things happen to me, but no-one ever knows why they change. You should just ask her why. And if you are scarred to do that, just move on. Why worry about her, when she doesn't care about you?
2007-04-24 10:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by crazybitch_troy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what you thought was right by your friend - by telling her her boyfriend was cheating on her.
It sounds like she was very hurt by the fact that he cheated on her, and could also have felt that you were saying 'I told you so.' at the same time.(I'm sure you didn't.) Which could be why she refused all attempts of sympathy and cuddles. Or maybe she hurt so badly that she was just pushing anyone close to her away?
Sometimes people out-grow their friends. You can go through so much with friends by your side, but can also grow apart afterwards too. It's a side effect of life. Perhaps after a while she will realise that this was a silly missunderstanding and you can go back to normal. If not then you will both move on and find new friends.
2007-04-24 09:40:10 · answer #2 · answered by beausbreeches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its part of life. People change...that's what we are supposed to do. We may change for the worst or the best. If you guys were good friends back in the day then just accept that. And accept the fact that you aren't now. We all have to grow up some time
2007-04-24 09:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like shes just trying to blame someone for what happened to her and her boyfriend and as life goes on people change theres nothing that can stop that just try talking to her again and see if u guys still have a good connection and things will smooth out if not then im sure ull both be ok
2007-04-24 09:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by mickeynminnie143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do change and grow in different directions. If you still want to pursue this relationship, explain how you feel and things may get better. At least you will know you tried.
2007-04-24 09:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thiink it happens to the best and the worst of us maybe she was feelin guilty for leaving you alone while she was with her bf and then didnt like it when you did the same so she put her guilt into anger against you if that makes any help
2007-04-24 09:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's part of life that people do change and sometimes even the closest of friends drift apart.
2007-04-24 09:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as we grow up we change its just part of life sometimes change is good other times it sucks...as u get older ur going to finmd out who your real friends are
2007-04-24 09:11:36 · answer #8 · answered by lovepixiek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does anybody know the way womens minds work?
2007-04-24 09:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by jimbob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all part of growing up...people change, sad but true
2007-04-24 09:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋