what do you wish someone told you before you got married?

Answer 1

I actually was watching daytime tv and this divorce court show came on. The Judge was telling a young girl that before marriage you should do this. Sit down with a pen and a piece of paper and write down all the things that you find fault with your partner. When finished read through the list and see what all you could live with without going in with the notion you could change those things. If you could see through the faults and still want to marry them then you should have a lasting relationship.
Good thing I was friends with my hubby before we got married because there were no surprises.

Answer 2

I got married at 20 and was married for 37-1/2 years. I wish someone would have told me once he cheated he would always cheat and get out when I was young instead of wasting my whole life with a liar, a thief and a cheat.
It is easier on the kids when they are younger if you divorce. than when you are older. Women cover up so the kids don't get hurt . I wish someone had told me not to do that . That let the children know what is really happening.

Answer 3

I guess the most important thing would be what a struggle it is when you first start out. By this I mean we literally had nothing. I was in the Navy, and we met, and fell in love. We got married, and when I got out I had no job to go to.We moved in with my mother, until I got a job, and scraped up enough money to get an apartment. However, through all the down times, our love kept us strong. By the way this answer is from a 60 year old man. In my days you didn't live together before you got married. So to learn each others little quirks was another thing that we nothing about.

Answer 4

That it is to death do you part. You can never even say the "D" word. (Divorce) It is never an option. When you have problems you are a team and you work them out together. It is not you against him. You are on the same team and work as a team. As you work past the hard times in a marriage you marriage just gets stronger and better. You have to work at each and every day. It is a roller coaster ride with lots of up and downs, twists and turns, but well worth the ride.

Answer 5

I wish someone would of told me that he was a child molester. like his ex wife, she knew but didn't say anything, and his family knew but no one said anything, I had to find out the hard way. and that will ruin me if I do ever get to the point of marrying again.

Answer 6

i wished people wouldve told me what to do and how to apologize and communicate. Im not regretting getting married at all but i am regretting some stuff ive done in the past.

Answer 7

The more you both know of each other, the better it is. Don't expect everything to go your way all the time either. Marriage is a give and take. You have to give some to get some. Be willing to compromise and respect each others preferences.

Answer 8

I wish someone had explained all the changes each of you go through so that when it happens it wouldn't be a cold shot of water to the face.

Answer 9

Well I was married at 18 (and then divorced last year at 23) and everyone DID tell me not to get married and I sincerely wished that I would have listened...

Answer 10

That BEFORE you are married, the husband does the "courting". AFTER you are married, the "courting" is entirely the responsibility of the WIFE.