Help with a girl at my school!!!!?

Question

There's a girl at my school who follows my friend and me around. She can't take a hint that we don't like her, but I'm not one to be mean, so I don't want to tell her I don't like her. She's a total wannabee, and she makes fun of my friend. I don't think she has any friends, but I'm not sure. How can I get her to stop following us without hurting her feelings?

This is 7th grade, by the way. I'm 13.

I can't include her because she insults my friend behind their back! Also, she's really annoying, mean, and tries so hard to be "cool" that it even wears ME out!

Answer 1

YOU CANT.

Answer 2

WITHOUT being mean or rude or 'smartie' or critical, go ALONE and say to her that you and your friend have a "closed circuit" and like to hang out together without a third person. Thank her for understanding and walk away and leave it at that. Do NOT let her see you going straight to the other girl and it be obvious you gave her the brush off FOR someone else.
IF her feelings are hurt, that isn't your problem since you didn't say anything against her, about her and it is ONLY about you and the friend you are hangning with. See?
If she continues to follow, say to her: "Look, I have made my wishes known and what is it you want from me?" Listen to whatever she says and don't even answer it or comment back; and walk away again.
Whenever you two (hang-togethers) see her, DON'T be obvious you see her and are ignoring her..., let her be invisible without rolling your eyes, giggling, or any other gestures and IF this is really what you want it will happen. If you have no intent to hurt her feelings, then DON'T DO RUDE THINGS. It isn't rude to have preferences.

Answer 3

Ohh, she is just lonely. Explain to her that you want to be alone right now because you are not having a good day, or say you need to have some alone time with your best friend. If she doesnt get the picture then tell her you rather hang out with your best friend... you "might" have to be a little mean, but just enough aggression will give her a hint

Answer 4

There is probably no way to disengage yourself from this 3rd person trailing you and your friend, except to try and meet away from the usual places you two go to. That said, it is always a sad thing not to want a "3rd wheel" or another, not to follow you around. I had something similiar occur in 8th grade...I felt awful when the moment came this 3rd person realized we just plain didn't want her with us. That said, if she had approached the situation differently and not been so "in your face" we probably might have liked her...I dunno. Hard to tell. -But I do remember it drove me crazy...Yes, we often DO wonder why some people do not "get" social hints...they do not understand, BOUNDARIES.

Goodluck...this situation has several "edges" that could be very hurtful, so consider feelings before you act.

Grace

Answer 5

im 15 and i know what you mean. Just tell her look, im really not looking for a friend right now. Or you can make her some friends and then slowly leave her there. Or maybe invite her to a party(not at your house)and just sorta leave her there shell get the hint.Sometimes you have to bean to get the point across

Answer 6

Well u can start by dissing yourself for being so shallow why not take the girl and teach her how to fit in with others she may prove to be a better friend than anybody else i had a similar situation so i know the outcomes just try it you will be surprised

Answer 7

*Alright well it sounds like you need to whip this washed up geeky wannabe into shape...time for you to be mean.*

*Yeah yeah I know it's not an easy thing to do, but if your friend is getting dissed by this dumbass girl...you should standing up for her, and telling this girl to back off...and tell her WHO SHE IS and you find her presence really annoying and intoxicating. Or just flat out tell her YOU ARE A LOSER AND WE DO NOT WANT TO HANG OUT WITH YOU, QUIT FOLLOWING US!!

**I'm sorry but I am just a very up front and outspoken person, so that is what I would do.
.And if that girl was talking **** about one of my friends...well I would go ***** her out.

~So you need to learn to be a little mean, and stern. You are basically letting this nerd wannabe walk all over you and your friend especially.

....so SPEAK UP...and be HONEST.
IT does wonders.....

Answer 8

dont approach her with your friend(s) and tell her how you feel, rather go up to her alone and let her know that she's bugging you, and WHY. be sensitive to the fact that she will be defensive when you do this. wouldn't you be?....perhaps she will see what she's doing- even if she doesnt admit it at the time. she may not be aware of how needy she is- and she may feel left out. the worst thing you can do is alienate her and not tell her why- or ignore her along with your friends. let her know whats up...and if she seeks your help to change- or for anything- try to help her out.

Answer 9

well first of all you should maybe try to talk to her and tell her that you don't want to be friends with her anymore and maybe its best if she find her own kind. if this don't work try not to let her down because she should get the hint if you started to say less to her each day and if you don't talk to her anymore she will get the picture and leave you guys alone.

Answer 10

First off, I'm not a girl, and I'm not 13, but I do recognize your situation. Just tell her how you feel, tell her she should be herself, and then give her a chance, you may find a loyal friend in an unexpected place.

Answer 11

Sounds like she has no friends of her own and that she really does like you two and wants to get to know you both. Why don't you like her? Does she smell? Dress differently? You can never judge a book by its cover. Once you start talking to her and get to know her, you may actually like her. Just give her a chance. Your twosome might just end up a fab threesome!