one of my friends (who is black) is extremely cocky. He thinks every girl he sees likes him and he thinks he is very tough when he really isnt. He also thinks hes smart when he is actually pretty stupid. He didnt use to be this way, i was wondering if this was normal. will he ever grow out of it, cuz if he doesnt soon i may not be able to take responsibility for what i do. my other friends are getting tired of him as well. is there anyway to get it to stop or will he grow out of it?
2007-04-24 08:47:57 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There's not much you can do. It sounds like he's fairly insecure, and he's compensating by acting tough and the other things you mentioned. Just let him go about his ways and eventually he'll realize that people think he's an idiot with this new found attitude of his, and hopefully he'll humble up a bit. I'm sure it won't last too long. Hang in there.
2007-04-24 08:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by fonzarelli_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cocky behavoir is ALWAYS a mask for people with little confidence. If you watch, you will pick up on signs. EVERYBODY I have ever known that had a reputation as being cocky, was really insecure, and when put to the test to exude real confidence, they woud FAIL. Here are some signs, i know the type of people.
1. TheY are very evasive when talking to you, never look you direct in the eyes, always wandering. Speech pattern is very choppy, have no conviction in their tone.
2. They always point out other peoples weaknesses to make themselves feel better. Fail to acknowledge if some gives somebody else a compliment, they become a wet blanket.
3. Nervous when talking in front of lots of people.
4. Make those stupid poseur hand gestures when taking photos.
5. When they are in a relationship, ALWAYS questioning who the girl was hanging out with, where she was, asking about previous boyfriends.
I am VERY observant of people and learn by watch others. This has enabled be not to be a victim of peoples actions. Also, I have had many friends who were girls who always told me that if they had a boyfriend who was cocky, he was ALWAYS truly insecure and had no confidence. Sadly, some people are naive to human nature and fall for this, but others dont.
2007-04-25 06:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's one way to deal with this, particularly if he was a good friend and you'd like him to remain so...Tell him.
Tell him you don't care for his behavior lately and tell him why - that it makes him look foolish and stupid and its embarassing. He may not be able to handle this, but it is, the truth, you are, trying to salvage what's left of a friendship before it completely goes down the tubes. Tell him he can be better than this! -That you know him TO BE BETTER than this, because he use to be...See if that doesn't make him think twice.
If he doesn't take this from a friend, and continues on this path - you may have to cease being friends - period. Clearly, your other friends don't like what they are seeing, and neither do you. You would be remiss AS A FRIEND, if you didn't offer up your feelings on the subject and let it go...Real friends bring out the best, not worst in each other.
Grace
2007-04-24 08:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully he will grow out of it, though it may take a year or so. Try arm wrestling him( only if you know you can beat him of course.), and/or try making him realize that he is not God's gift to women and the world without being to mean. If you are truly his friend, help him get through it, rather than being angry with him. I know how you feel and I do hope that he gets through it. But dude why did you mention the fact that he is black, I hope that your not racist or something.
2007-04-24 08:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by Taddster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him about it and tell him how you really feel. Be like "hey stop acting cocky all the time" but do it in a joking way. But why did you have to mention he was black?
2007-04-24 08:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Dimples 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter that he is black? People of all races are cocky. He's probably insecure and he's trying out this personality. If he's in his teens it's especially likely that he is just putting on a show to compensate for his fears and insecurities. I know someone like this.
2007-04-24 08:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by Year of the Monkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah he likely will grow out of it. He is going through a stage. But I have found that people do not grow out of being a racist, which is what you are.
You sound like a friend in name only. An undercover racist, he would be better without. Put yourself out of your misery and save him from finding out what a snake you are, stop lying to yourself that you are any kind of friend...I mean he is black after all.
2007-04-24 09:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmkay been there carried out that. Coming FROM a stylish who i imagine im solid searching..yet there's a distinction between having solid seems and flaunting it, and having solid seems and flaunting your personality. Your pal is lame and may want to easily be attracting lame women who like adult adult males who're finished of themselves. If i referred to him and he grow to be hitting on me cuz he thinks hes "the guy at the same time with his proud seems"..i might want to turn him down in a heartbeat to an common searching guy with a chilled personality. If he quite acts this way he in all likelihood couldnt get a gf if he had to..and if he did, it wouldnt very last. do not even problem about it, in basic terms be a chilled-loving, pleasant guy and also you may locate genuine happiness. I genuinely have cocky acquaintances who imagine they are so warm..yet adult adult males are in touch in them because..."shh"...their uncomplicated. in basic terms be your own man or woman, and practice rolling your eyes everytime your bud thinks he's a stud-muffin...
2016-10-18 03:34:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok hun, I don't really see the need for you to name that he is "(black)" plain out he is MALE lol.
But I'd give it some time, he either has a lot of insecurities and acts that way, or he really is a rude loser. Give it time then make your decision, but if you do decide to stop hanging out, sit him down and tell him exactly why. He may have a change of heart.
2007-04-24 08:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by 4Real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people cover insecurity with a false show of bravado and a cocky attitude. When you two are alone and he starts his stuff, just say to him "hey dud that's not cool anymore, chill". And see what happens. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-04-24 08:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋