He's in his late 20's, met a woman three weeks ago, they've seen each other every day since and now she's moving in. What can I say to him to convince him this is a bad idea?
He's had his heart broken so many times already! I have a feeling she's only moving in because she had nowhere else to go.
2007-04-24 08:30:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seems desperate on both parts. Just you your best to support your friend and be there for him when he needs you.
2007-04-24 08:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you would like to help your friend, you can't. He has to make his own decisions and learn from his mistakes. I do think that moving in with someone after only three weeks of knowing someone, is like suicide for a relationship. Even if this guy has been spending time with this woman alot, he still doesn't know everything about her. Even when people first get married, and they have known each other for a while, once they live together they learn each other's flaws. I hope that your friend doesn't get hurt again, but this isn't looking too good.
2007-04-24 15:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Brittanee G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it from my friend that did the same thing....he doesn't have a clue what true love is because all he has had is bad relationships....so he moved his (2 week) girlfriend in because he wanted to see her every day anyway, she was young and he knew she would leave him eventually, and he got guaranteed sex and company. The solution fit "right now".
He doesn't want to do it anymore because it ended so badly, but at the time it was perfect to meet his needs and he had the attitude of "why the hell not".
2007-04-24 15:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a thing you can say or do about it.You know this is a bad idea but he has to find out for himself.
Just be there for him when he crashes and gets hurt again. Wish him luck and that's all you can do.
Some people are gluttens for punishment and always have to learn the hard way.
2007-04-24 15:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But out of his life. He is free to make his own mistakes. You can maybe just let him know that it is early in the relationship, however if he has his mind made up there is very little you can do or say to change it.
The best thing you can do is be a friend, if things don't work. Be there for him, and if they do wonderful.
2007-04-24 15:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by smedrik 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a grown man....trying to convince him otherwise will put a rift in your relationship. Let him wear the big boy pants and realize that all mistakes have consequences from which we must live and learn.
2007-04-24 15:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't goto him, goto HER! You make your point very clear to her that if she in any way hurts this friend of your's, you'll put nair in her shampoo! Then be plesant and cordial and respectful unless waranted otherwise! If your friend is truly your friend, he'll ask you what the hell you were thinking and you tell him - you were covering his vulnerable side and that your giving them a chance, just wanted to let the new girl know that there are friends!
2007-04-24 15:43:10 · answer #7 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would stay out of it. You are just going to make yourself crazy trying to stop him. He obviously is immature if he thinks this way. Sometimes people have to continue hitting their head against a brick wall until they figure out it hurts. If you don't approve, just keep your distance. He will grow up eventually and start making better decisions. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink.
2007-04-24 15:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by Millionaire in training 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Live and let live
He would not believe you and it would only strain your friendship. Part of being afriend it to be there for them when they have failed, not to say I told you so.
Besides, they may be perfect for each other!
2007-04-24 15:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by hi_stk_n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately honey he has to make his own mistakes. You can only voice to him how you feel, but he most likely will not listen. Sorry.
2007-04-24 15:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by daisydots33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋