It's been 7 years. No kids. Life with him is kinda non eventful. I feel like its time. Sometimes i feel like i just wanna keep it the way it is. I am little skeptical, but I feel like I don't wanna go out there again and play the field again. Am I the only one?
2007-04-24 08:24:03 · 12 answers · asked by asianbeauty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's been 7 years and you don't know yet...I'd say don't do it. Marriage is hard and it's not fair going in like that, that's asking for failure. Seems like your not keen on just the marriage aspect. EVeyrone around you is getting married, you feel liek you should but you really don't want to. I have so many friends who do not want to get married. They love the way the relationship is. And still keep money, cars, etc., separate but share assets. They are the happiest people. If you don't want to get married, you don't have to. Make sure you're with your boyfriend because you love him. Sometimes being together for 7 years, you can get into a rut. Try to spice things up. Be fair to your boyfriend, if you're with him because you're scared to play the field again, you have cut him loose. He can't the person you're with until someone else comes along. You are still young. Before you break up, try some new stuff first. But if you feel it's really in the ditch, rather have it 7 years passed than 70 years.
2007-04-24 08:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Amy L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you settle for the mundane life just because you are afraid of the unknown? And why would he marry you when things are fine the way they are after 7 years? What would make you think marriage would change that? If you are not happy, dive into the real world and have some fun. You may find the man of your dreams out there!
2007-04-24 08:37:28 · answer #2 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he propose? That's when you should really think about it. In some states 7 years is common law marriage so you may already be married:) Just remember marriage is FOREVER and not to be taken lightly. You obviously have some reservations & is hesitant about the situation. If you guys decide to have kids it might be better to get married first. Plus thats the right thing to do in Gods eyes. Good Luck
2007-04-24 08:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by babygirl28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with him for 7 years and don't know the answer, then NO. Life is an adventure to be lived. You only get one. Don't settle.
2007-04-24 08:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by Nunya 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you would just be settling, for what you have. If you are not happy, leave.
You can be happy and live a productive life without a man in it at all times.
2007-04-24 08:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by hi_stk_n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the information you've given, I'd say no. It doesn't sound like you are too excited about it, and that your prime motivation is that you don't want to "play the field". Shouldn't you love him? I don't know, I don't think you are ready really.
2007-04-24 08:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by btpage0630 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if he's proposed yet? You sound like you are bored with life in general and with him especially. You are staying in this relationship because you don't feel like starting over? I can relate but let me tell you something.........don't let that scare you into staying in this obviously stale and boring relationship. There are SO MANY people in this world that aren't boring and you deserve one.
2007-04-24 08:29:18 · answer #7 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What the H are you talking about ?Do you even talk to your boyfriend? Get out there and find someone that you that will love you . Go find that new adventure dont waste another minute .
2007-04-24 08:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is nothing you don;t feel like your married the realation ship is the same all you have is his last name and a ring on your finger thats it .,its like you can;t tell if your married to him you just call him ure husband so i am married and feel how you are but its like your still boyfriend and girlfriend so think of it like that but give the marriage a try and it will be fine
2007-04-24 08:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by geenie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're bored. Marriage will not sove bordom.
2007-04-24 08:37:26 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋