This is an email my hubby wrote to a girl that he was friends with when he was little . he also carried her pic arround til just this year . i read it and got at him ... am i over reactin?
Hey, how's it going? Great I hope! Were doing great! I am now working 60-70 hours/week because Jenn can't work... so it's going to be rough... It's hard to believe we both have kids now... and you have 3 and soon I will have 2..!! Seems just like yesterday we were on your back deck and just sitting around talking... or when I liked you when we were little and I wrote you a love letter and gave you a piece of gum w/ it and your parents saying your diabetic so you couldn't accept it...lol!! Things have changed so much! Or how about the time... me, you & Jimmy walked to Wilco for something for a church... or midnight bowling... I miss those times! You never really think about it while its happening.... but later on you wish you could just re-live some of your childhood memories... Well, I gtg...tt
2007-04-24 08:14:58 · 29 answers · asked by MADDYSMOMMY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There really wasn't anything bad in the letter just a mention of a long ago love letter which was probally like the ones you find your 9 yo writing about on her book covers. There is alot of room for jealousy when there is a woman friend that was at one time..a girl friend so its hard not to be jealous. You should talk to your husband and tell him your feeling really insecure about this woman and can he please tone it down a bit with her. The fact that your pregnant may also have your hormones on edge so you may be reacting a little more strongly than you normally would but you have the right to feel secure in your relationship so don't be afraid to tell him whats bothering you and ask him to please respect your feelings and work with you on this.
2007-04-24 08:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by lookingwesttexas 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
this is perfectly normal that when people have new things happening in their lives(like a new baby). It's great to be able to reminese with somebody who has the same childhood memories as you. I didnt get that chance, we moved so often that i never really had any childhood friends. When I grew older I hooked up with some people that remembered me form elementary school. It was the greatest feeling knowing that they knew my DAD before he got killed and brought me back some good memories. At least he Named you in the note. And everything he said was honest. Sounds like a great guy!! P.S. I have a foto of a boy i lived by when were 6, we are now 41-42! LOL
2007-04-24 08:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by lunacrab 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that he needs closure when was the last time he saw this girl? I don't think it's anything to worry about. But it's typical to be jealous when our guys are chatting it up with another woman. He probably does resent you for not working. Are you guys struggling financially? Because it would answer why he is thinking about his past. Because then it was easier than being an adult. I know I look back a lot and wish I would of done things differently in life. What I suggest is find sometime with your husband and connect again. And perhaps you should get to know this girl yourself. Because what your husband is probably looking for is a mental get away and what a more perfect place then your childhood. Does he have guy friends. Have him hang out with them. Get him off the computer. Because you don't want it to escalate to other things either. Tell him to go and hang out with his friends on a Friday or Saturday night. Good luck my dear and don't give up.
2007-04-24 08:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by christina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
overreacting is an understatement. You gotta be kidding me. What are you doing reading his mail? This guy's so happy to be a "family" man and you're picking on him! He ain't working that many hours for anyone but you and you're beatin' him up.
You better start giving him some "new" memories like making him happy in the sack. Or I guess you'd rather push him out of the bed. And oh, you could start by telling him (and showing him!) how sorry you are about what you just did!
2007-04-24 08:31:29 · answer #4 · answered by Movinonup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might have over reacted. That really wasn't that bad of an e-mail...She's an old childhood friend. Your having his baby for gosh sake. The picture thing I can understrand. I would have been mad about that too...people always remember things from their childhood. There just memories that all. That was his past and now your his furure. Im sure you guys have alot of momories that you both will later look back on.
2007-04-24 08:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you that you're over reacting on this.. but it seems like this email was on the innocent side. He's giving an update on the current situation in his AND YOURS lives, to an old friend. I could see you being mad, because it's another female, but you have to look at it this way.. he's with you, he married you, he is excited about the kids you and him have together..take it easy--he loves you, he's just reminiscing on the old days...besides everybody does that--I know you do it too..take care!
2007-04-24 08:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you may be over-reacting...Clearly this old friend was special in his life, regardless of the fact - the bone of contention here really - that she is a female. He isn't asking her for a date, tellin her she's a "babe" - it is friendly memory being reiterated that clearly, meant a great deal to him.
My dear, I think you should apologize to him if you said some things that you now feel might have been hasty.
We all are hurt from time to time by people in our significant other's past...But we must remember, they are mostly, IN THE PAST...If you love him, know you're loved by him - have a fairly decent relationship, be cautious about over-reacting as the jealous wife...okay?
I had to do this once with my "Mr. Wonderful" - eat crow...The way I handled it was, "I'm sorry, I was jealous of something that is history for you, and important to you...I know you love me, and I sure hope you know how much I love you..."
Been there Hon...
Goodluck...Just remember 3 words that never cost us a "dime" in a relationship: "please - I'm sorry - thank you" - so important, and so very under-rated.
Sincerely,
Grace
2007-04-24 08:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he misses the old days. Maybe it's just me but it kinda sounds like he misses her a little. I f i were i would have been a little upset b/c it seemed like he wasn't happy about u not working & him having to work alot & i personally would want my guy or hubby 2 talk it out w/ me. But over all u shoudnt worry to much ( unless the chick lives kinda close), or who knows maybe he just sees her as a friend.
2007-04-24 08:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Cakes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the first part of his letter, just asks how she is doing, and he says WE as in you and him, are doing great, nothing negative there.
the second part of the letter is only saying that you are carrying twins and that is why it is going to be rough because he is working so hard because he UNDERSTANDS how hard it is for you to work, and he is so excited that he is going to be a father again, to two little miracles.
The third part is him just talking about how he liked her and showed his affection for her, his first love by offering her gum, and writing on the wrapper that he liked her.
The fourth part of the letter he is just remembering the good ole' times, honey we all do that, we all remember when it was younger and we had no problems and it just seemed like our parents were the ones who had to worry.
Now that I am a parent and a wife, and getting older, I find myself remembering the good ole' days just to "escape" my hectic, crazy day!
If this poem bothers you, talk to him, but be prepared to answere any questions he has as to him wondering why and how you found that!
2007-04-24 09:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a letter that would worry me. Your husband just took a trip in what I like to call " The Way Back Machine". It sounds harmless and at no point does he sound flirty or suggestive.
2007-04-24 08:26:27 · answer #10 · answered by Christine R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋