Ive Wanted A Little Girl For Years But Im Been having Nightmares About Having A Still Born Baby
2007-04-24 08:10:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
hey im not gonna tell u not to, im just gonna tell u its real hard its not a bed of roses im 17 and been preg twice, u do know that u have a 50% chance of either havin a boy or girl, im preg right now and want a girl but i dont know what im havin yet its killin me, cus if i have a boy it will most likely have a cleft pallet which is on my bfs side of the family in all the boys so theres no escapeing it unless my genes over rule, so yeah well good luck and lemme know if wanna talk im always up for talkin to other preg teens,
cus i know what its like and i hate that grown ups say we cant do it,
jbsbabygirl
2007-04-24 08:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay well first off, I'd like to congratulate you on your engagement and child =D And naturally, my response would be that your too young, however due to your tenacity I can see advice such as that would be irrelevant. Also, I understand that you said you're financially stable, but it would be easier to give a better answer on how "stable". How much is your fiance/families making annually, where do you live, what is the average household income where you live, the price of your house, the tax rate where you live, etc). Every possible financial and fiscal variable would be useful. I'm simply assuming that you're household makes $100,000 a year with a provincial/state average of $60,000, and 14% tax (these quantities are based on where I live). Then I suppose having another baby, albeit a difficult task, would be mitigated based on how much money is being brought in, and the fact that you are constantly home. Since you are only 18, it would be very difficult since your brain just developed fully and is still finalising all tweaks. Sometimes, even though you can handle 1 child perfectly, another might push you over your personal threshold, in which case it is completely based on what you feel you can handle, just don't be too rash xD. So yeah, if you really wan't a child, good luck, and I wish you, your children, and your soon-to-be-husband the best of everything =D
2016-04-01 05:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to have a baby regardless then what is the point in even saying anything about it because either way you'll do what you want to....
You should wait though... when you are older and have grown up to be a man you'll be able to give taht baby a much better life than you'll be able to now... doesn't that sound so much more MATURE?? Also, are you sure that your girl wants a baby and thinks it's all okay?
It's not. Accidents are accepted a little more than someone who just ups and decides he's going to have a baby with his girl at 16 and 18...
Out of wedlock.
2007-04-24 08:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this is to "Daddyez" whatever your name is who is also 14...and said that "kids are fun"
You kids who think you want babies...are so frigging ignorant it blows my mind.
I am a mature, professional, intelligent woman of the ripe old age of 34 and I just had my first child....
SOMETIMES children can be fun....and children all bring joy...
but one thing that children ALWAYS are ...is work and all consuming.
I love my son...but there is no way in holyhell that I could have done it at 14 or 16 or 18 or even 25 for that matter!!!
ANYone who intentionally tries to have a child when they are still infact a child themselves...is biting off more than they can chew and should most definately wait.
Whens the last time you went a month with only about 4 hours of sleep a night? Never...you probably sleep 12 hours a day!
Not only are you asking for more stress than you can handle, but you're also asking...
For someone to take away all your freedom.
And your asking for someone to take all your spending money.
You're asking to never be able to go see a movie whenever you feel like it because you have to get a sitter first.
YOU don't even get to sit down and watch your favorite TV show because the baby gets bored and there just isn't any time.
You can't even sit down and have dinner without taking shifts!!!
You have no friggin clue what you're talking about...
you have no idea what your thinking about getting into...
I pity you if you do manage to get her pregnant...and what's worse...I pity the kid that would be the product of this madness...because his daddy and mommy would be babies themselves.
My advice to you...keep it in your pants.
2007-04-24 08:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you are gonna try regardless, why are you asking for advice? Kids are wonderful, but I am 26 and i have 3 and its not easy raising a child, nor is it cheap... If I were you I would wait. It's not all an easy road when you have kids of your own, and thats your life for the next 18 years.. you dont come first anymore, and you are 16... think about this
2007-04-24 08:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about what is best for the baby? How well can you provide for a child and its mother at only 16 years old. You have NO idea how challenging parenthood is even for those of us who were grown-up and financially stable.
If your girlfriend is already pregnant, then I applaud you for not wanting her to get an abortion, but seriously, if you are "trying" to get her pregnant, you are the most selfish and immature person I have ever heard of. You should not have a baby because YOU want to. You should only have children when you know you have something to offer the BABY. This world is not about you; don't make an innocent child suffer for your selfishness.
2007-04-24 08:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Aubrey and Braeden's Mommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this is your mind's way of telling you you may not be as ready as you think you are...it is wonderful you are commited to having a child, but it is a lot of work. I know you have probaly heard that before....the one thing I would say is make sure you love and respect your girl friend and are ready to spend the rest of your life with her...once you have a baby it changes everything, but it is the most wonderful thing too!!!! Good luck and don't worry too much about your dreams...I had a bunch of scary dreams like that when I was pregnant, but my daughter is fine!!!
P.S. It would be the best for you and your child if you finish school and are establised with a nice place for all of you live as a family
2007-04-24 08:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by trish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a baby yourself still but it seems like it would be a waste of time to talk to you seems like you have already made up your mind. I don't understand why you yound kids that have no money, job, places to live an education or anything feel the need to have kids. Stupid!
2007-04-24 08:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by skyler 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Um...I had my babies at 21 and 22(I'm now 25) and we barely get by! How are you going to take care of a baby? I think that's a really bad idea.
2007-04-24 08:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by submental25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm 19 and ihad a baby with my husband and i wish i would have waited a few years to be better prepared for my child and to give her a mother who isnt going through college at the same time!
2007-04-24 08:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋