My 21 yr old sister lost her mother a year ago, and has resorted to stripping and lives with a drug dealer. She has turned into a totally different person, and I dont know what to do, to help her. I know she is not happy, I have an open door policy that she can come stay with us anytime, she just cant seem to let go of this lifestyle. I think she wants to stop, but something is keeping her from being able to. I dont understand; I dont want to be judgemental; I am really worried about her- she is so skinny and covered in bruises, her boyfriend hits her, and she is so stoned all the time, I can barely have a conversation with her. She used to be a beautiful vibrant person, with goals and hobbies(horses, barrel racing, rodeoing) and now she cant even take care of her cat. What, if anything, can I do? I am not able to stand back, and watch her kill herself, so please dont tell me to.
2007-04-24 08:06:16 · 7 answers · asked by Erin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I at one time in my life had dealt with a Stripper as a similiar situation. There is two options based off what you are saying here.....First Option- continue too let her do her thing and eventually she will hit rock bottom and will go to jail and the state will correct her.
Second option: I have done this with a few of my friends go pick them up for a visit then drive over to rehab and submit them...They will hate you at first but then they will love you when there clean.
2007-04-24 08:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by George T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try and stage an intervention where a professional and your family confront your sister about how her lifestyle is affecting not only her, but the family as well. Unfortunately, if she doesn't want help you can talk till your blue in the face and it won't do any good. As the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. You could also find the numbers and addresses for women's shelters in your area and see if she will go stay there. She might not want to come to your house because she is embarrassed about her life.
2007-04-24 08:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by violet1656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can do an "intervention" style weekend and take her away from that lifestyle to something more "healthy". After being away, she may come to her senses. But if may be difficult for her to walk away from the "easy money" and the free drugs, etc. If she -really- wants to leave then you may have a good shot at saving her.
You're being a great friend, by the way! Don't give up!
2007-04-24 08:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs an intervention. and quick!! it might be best to call the cops and get her boyfriend busted for drugs, and maybe then you can get her treatment once her rock has been pulled out from under her. she needs help, and as her sister, you are obligated to help her. she obviously is not interested in helping herself if she lets him beat her and stays stoned on drugs all the time.
2007-04-24 08:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by Bobby L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd think hard about setting up an intervention. Talk to the legal authorities in your area about how to do this, and if it's legal there. Hopefully she doesn't have a kid with this loser, or her life will be bound up with him for years.
Good luck.
2007-04-24 08:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about her father or other siblings? Maybe you all could have an intervention and get her to go for treatment.
2007-04-24 08:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by p00756 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweeite, the only thing that u can do is PRAY!!!
God is going to work with her!
2007-04-24 08:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by twdy412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋