I accidentally log in my fiance email adress on my computer and found that he is talking to this girl constantly , he works in alberta I live in Ontario... he is too busy for me at night and tired.. but I still love ... should I confront him because he gets mad easy... we have 3 children togother and has been togother for 12 years now.. Need help..
2007-04-24 06:49:36 · 8 answers · asked by ontario 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no need to talk..dump that jerk cos he won't change.
ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER
u can't change him
2007-04-24 06:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront him and see if he is honest with you or not. Ask him if he has been talking with someone else, who he has been talking with and for how long. But, before you do that - do your homework and find out as much as you can about this other girl and any details that you can get from the e-mail. Better yet, I say that you get on the internet and pretend that you are him and that might give you a good idea of where they stand with each other.
Just remember that you don't deserve to put up with any of that cr*p. I'm not sure if he is really worth it to you and/or what your relationship really is - but if he's talking with another women and then doesn't have enough time for you - well, he doesn't sound worth it.
Actually, I just re-read your question and maybe I shouldn't have wrote what I did - it sounds like you are some what affraid of him because if you confront him he might get mad. Like you are the one that has done something wrong here - he's the one that has done wrong and he should be affraid of you being mad.
You don't need any of it and tell yourself that you deserve MUCH better - for yourself and for you children.
Good luck to you!
2007-04-24 07:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you should do is ask him if you two can have a serious talking but be diplomatic no matter how hard it is to ask him. Avoid accusing tone. No nagging. Be sweet. Hold his hand, tell him how it happened. Besides, constant talking doesn't mean that he's cheating. You have shared 12 years and can just be wasted just because you don't communicate properly? But then, if ever it's more than talking, then ask him if he's happy with you and what he really WANT.
2007-04-24 07:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by julkritz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him now - tell him what you know and see if what he says is consistent. The person who's wrong has no reason to get mad, if he does, that's defensiveness.Give him an ultimatum but only if you can live with either consequence. I feel sad that this is happening. All the best.
2007-04-24 07:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by Bonna Feeday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're not married so there is no commitment. Think of the children, yourself and him, then after some considerable thought, make a decision. Good luck to you.
2007-04-24 07:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling I too vote for you do dump him as he won't stop and if you confront him it could only make it worse...
2007-04-24 07:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Myfaeia Arae Colath ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to your husband now and ASAP
2007-04-24 06:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by mysteryousmtz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a no brainer - dump the jerk
2007-04-24 07:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by jleigh70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋