How do I deal with my clingy friend?

Question

My friend is the ultimate definition of "clingy". She calls me constantly at work, texts me at least 3 times a day, and wants to hang out every single day (no exaggeration). On the days we dont hang out, she calls or texts me to make plans to hang out the next day. I love her dearly, I really do I think thats why I haven't blown up yet (its been going on for the past 6 months), but I have a boyfriend and a job and I'm in school...basically I have a life! She had a really messy break up a few months back and I always wanted to make sure I am there for her because she doesn't have a lot of friends. She is still upset over the breakup because she was fwb with her ex for a few months as well (something i told her NOT to do). So she constantly whines about her ex and constantly wants advice, but she never ever ever listens! I don't know what else to do and I'm afraid anything I say will totally crush her (shes super sensitive). How can I get some space with out hurting her???

Answer 1

I have had friends like this before. The more time that goes by with you not saying anything is not going to make things get better. Tell her that you enjoy hanging out with her but you can't leave your life on the back burner. Tell her that somedays are no good for you due to lack of time, she should know that you work, go to school and have a boyfriend as well that all need you . Make sure she understands that you do want to be friends. Good luck to you

Answer 2

Well, I may also be brutally sincere repeatedly, and I'm no longer certain if I'd honestly inform my pal instantly up she's clingy, so I wager you're taking a more secure course. Haha. You simply placed extra space in among the 2 of you. Don't answer to all of her messages. Make up a lie and inform her you are busy, even supposing you are not to hang around. You simply speak much less. I imply surely do not entirely reject and forget about her, however do not be YES MAN.

Answer 3

Set her up with a new BF and that will occupy some of her time? If she really is a good friend, then you should be able to let her know that you need some separate time from her to have time for your job, BF and school work too. If she gets upset she will get over it, or start clinging to someone else. She deserves to be told she is being annoying? It's like telling her she has lipstick on her teeth, You are doing her a favor.
Tracylyn S

Answer 4

If you want space your going to have to hurt her feelings. People like her are only in tune to themselves and use sensitivity as a manipulation. Youre going to have to invite her over...just u and her...and explain things to her in detail so theres no misunderstandings but tell her you value her immensly. You might encourage her to join some organizations where she can meet new people to expand her friendships. One person cannot be all to one friend. Its too much.
You may hurt her but if she truly values you she wont let it ruin the friendship. Just be honest with her otherwise the friendship will never have any real depth.

Answer 5

Tell her how you feel, Tell her you love her but you need space, and you have things going on in her life that Are hard to split, And that you cant put everything aside for her...

I hope it works out..

~*Love*~
Bunny

Answer 6

introduce her to more people. Sounds like she doesnt have many other friends and is therefore desperate not to lose you. If she gets to know other people she will have less interest in you.

Answer 7

i think she has a damn good friend in you, maybe just try to understand her, and make her understand that youll give what you can..
wishing you well

Answer 8

my roommate is EXACTLY like this, sometimes i just wanna pop her in the face.
i understand..oh, i do.