to the people here asking about a vow that they took before God ( or before a judge)? How old are these people?
2007-04-24 06:29:09 · 9 answers · asked by jazz41 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-04-24 06:32:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
people should not live the rest of thier life unhappy because of vows. My husband was physically abusive and I moved on. The action was simple but the emotions behind it were not. Some people are never going to change and we only have one life we can spend it happy or unhappily with one person. THe real question should be why are people getting married to each other before learning about the other person and dating for a while(longer than a year). If people put more thought into who they decide to be with "MOVE ON" would not have to be the harsh reality that these "to quick to jump in" people will have to face.
2007-04-24 13:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by chicequa j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often it's in response to someone asking this question for the 19th time today:
"My husband of 14 years beats me 3 or 4 times a day with a lead pipe. I don't have my right eye any more and 7 of our 9 children are 'missing' after he took them camping. He drinks 5 bottles of whiskey at dinner every night, then shoves the bottles into every orifice I own. Should I stay with him? He says our marriage vows say 'for better or for worse.' And it's in the Bible, too. Do you think I should stay?"
How old are the people who come in here and don't pick up on that?
2007-04-24 16:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a perfect world, I would agree with you - but this world is not perfect and I am disagreeing with you. Would have a person stay in a relationship where love is not given or returned, in a relationship where someone is being hurt - even to the point of death? Are you suggesting subjecting children to an unhealthy home life.?
Vows are not to be taken lightly, but when mental, emotional, or physical harm is being done - Yes, MOVE ON is a very appropriate response to give.
2007-04-24 13:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I'm well past college age and I've used that answer. There are times when it is appropriate - if the person you took the vows with is no longer honoring those vows and is hurting you (emotionally or physically), it's time to move on.
No one should allow themselves to be treated like a door mat.
2007-04-24 13:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by MommaAng 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with you at all.
"Move on" is the best advice that often can be given. Some people are just not meant to be together and no amount of help or praying can change that fact. We are dealing with humans and they make mistakes often when picking a partner. To deny them the ability to correct that mistake is cruel to say the least. You would rather people be miserable the rest of their lives.
2007-04-24 13:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the advice is needed in reply to inane questions...if you hang around here, you'll see things like he cheats constantly and puts me down and I'm afraid...the only thing to do about that is to move out, move up, and move on.
I am 38.
Or, I've been dating my BF for years and I want to get married but he says he'll never marry me. What should I do?
2007-04-24 13:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to Move On. It's like bankruptcy. You have to know when to take your losses in stride and move ahead, put the past behind you.
2007-04-24 13:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by Like being a DINK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a common response I get when telling people how Boring Vancouver is.... the response is ultimately. if you don't like it then leave no move on...
2007-04-24 13:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by m h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋