Ok- The sex is great, but I have had the hardest time getting an orgasm. I've never had one and have been with my fionce for three years. Anyone have any pointers for this poor girl? lol...
2007-04-24 04:15:56 · 12 answers · asked by -Mrs. French- 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
My Girlfriend had the same problem and this is what she did
she wasn't successful at first, but it did work.
And then she was able to show me how to make her come.
I would suggest trying it own your own first.
Most women organism through the clitoris and not the vagina
Firstly buy a vibrator for clitoral stimulation only (the smalls one are usually the best)
Pick a day when you will be alone
Switch your phone off
relax in a nice bath
Rub some nice smelling cream all over your body
Get you vagina wet
and then use the vibrator on the lowest setting slow increasing speed until you organism.
Don't try and force an organism just enjoy the feeling and it will come.
Hope I was of help.
2007-04-24 04:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by nevserve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several possible reasons for inorgasmia.
1) He might not know how to get you there
2) You might not be mentally or physically comfortable enough to get there
3) It could be completely physiological
If he goes down on you, has patience, takes his time, receives and implements feedback and suggestions, etc... and you still can't get there... it's probably neither his fault nor yours.
If he doesn't last long enough during sex, have lots of it until he starts to last longer.
Can you give yourself an orgasm? Which way is the easiest to acheive it? Vaginal? Clitoral? G-spot? Find out by yourself first, and then show him how to replicate what you do to yourself.
You say "you've never had one"... so I'm assuming that means never ever? If that's the case, try harder. If you still can't, see a sex therapist. They can be really good at figuring out how to achieve the big O.
2007-04-24 04:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Buying is Voting 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert on this but i think the main fault could lay with you but dont worry, worrying does more harm than good, 26 is still young and you're just beginning to learn how your body works.Remember there are a lot of women that never climax some dont because of problems medically and some because they just cant totally let go, the latter seems like you because you've already mensioned that you have climaxed.. If you think about it most of the time when you do reach a climax is it because of something he's done or something that you've done.. I think there are a lot more women out there with this issue than you think.. The difference with men and women is men knows how to make themselves climax they know what stimulates them in body and mind, they know what feelings leads towards a climax, where as a lot of women dont and they leave it to there partners to search and find it for them, but the women who knows how there bodies tick they have a ball and they have no problems with showing you exactly what they want in order to reach that goal.. What i would suggest is try and let go of all your inhibitions and be daring enough to find out what makes yourself really really tick sexually regardless of how embarassing it may seem and just go for it and i'm sure it will start to flow more frequently.. honestly!
2016-05-17 21:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The advice I can give you is to do it yourself. I mean, if your man isn't doing it for you and you never had one, then you might need to do the deed and do it yourself. That way you know what you like. Also, what will sometimes help, have the guy do oral, that could help you too.
You are going to have to experiment, not all women can orgasm with just sex, some need a little more, like doing the deed while your finace does his thing. Basically, you are playing with yourself, while he does the act.
2007-04-24 04:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by George P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many many many women do NOT orgasm with intercourse. The first thing you need to do is explore your own body and find out what feels good for you and what makes you orgasm when you are alone. Once you know what makes you orgasm then you can tell or show your fiance so he can work on that. Also if you do not orgasm with intercourse he needs to finish you off manually or orally. Start with exploring your own body first though so YOU know what works and can show him.
2007-04-24 04:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes plenty of pointers. Ok first of all you have to relax.. you wont get anywhere if you're worrying about it. First thing i would recommend was for you to go on top and when your on him lean back slightly. Then make sure you are wet and start playing with you clit (or get him to do it!!) Works for me everytime, give it a shot. lol wow first time iv felt weird replying to one of these questions!
2007-04-24 04:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by pink07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong w/you. 80% of women can't have an orgasm while they are having sex. You should look for other ways to get one. Some foreplay before would help.
2007-04-24 04:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many woman just don't know how to achieve one. Its all in our heads. If you get a little for play before you start. Then breath and moan all your little heart desires and think about how much its all turning you on. Thats a good start to get your head into it. You should also try to masturbate before you have sex with him. Get your self started. Rub your clit its more intense there. Good luck. Sorry it all sounds so nasty. Good luck.
2007-04-24 06:05:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women have trouble having an orgasm through penetration alone. You may need to have more foreplay or clitoral stimulation during intercourse. You can stimulate yourself or he can do it for you and/or use toys. Have fun!
2007-04-24 04:22:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boy friend, both of you need counselling from Trappist.
2007-04-24 04:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by reikiindia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋