I've been with this guy for a little over a year, and he means everything to me. We broke up for about a month. While we were broken up we both tried to forget about each other, so i started to talk to someone else. That guy didnt mean anything to me. When I realized that I wanted my him back I stopped talking to that guy completely. ( I even had his number blocked). Now since weve been back togheter he says he doesnt trust me anymore. When I ask him why, he doesnt know. If anything I shouldnt trust him after what he did the first time we were togheter, but Im not even gonna bring it up because I love him so much. But what do I do about him not trusting me? It really hurts to know that he doesnt trust me!!!
2007-04-24 04:07:45 · 17 answers · asked by Heavenly Dezyre 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So it's okay for him, but not you.
I don't care that you love him, he is a loser. Leave him.
I know you won't, but it's what would be best. You will figure that out in time.
2007-04-24 04:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Songbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you probably already do...but always be there to listen about his insecurities. But you can begin to tell him how much you do love him, and the fact that you guys are back together should mean something. This is hard....because I too have been through something similiar....I was the one who got hurt....it took a while of my boyfriend proving to me in every way you can even begin to imagine, for the trust to come back. But it did end up with my, forgiving! Some people just can't move on...others can. I truly hope things work out for the both of you...............just be there for him. You cannot do it forever..but in time he will come around.
2007-04-24 11:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for someone who didn't want to bring "it" up, you did just that even if you didn't say just what "it" was. You have some very deep seated problems with whatever "it" was, and he is picking this up in you. This is why he doesn't trust you, you are not being honest with him. This isn't a "him" problem, it's a "you" one.
It's normal for men to not trust women, as women lie and cheat on men in huge amounts. The fact that you won't tell him what is bothering you is a "lie of omission" on your part. It's is what is keeping him from trusting you, and for good reason.
2007-04-24 11:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is doomed. No matter how much you love him and want to be with him, he don't feel the same. He don't trust you and he can't give you a reason why, sounds like he's playing head games. He knows how you feel about him and he's going to use that to mess with your head. You deserve better than that. Get rid of him and his games and find someone that will treat you like a queen and not a fool. Don't ever let a man treat you like crap.
2007-04-24 11:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by CLM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason as to why he doesnt trust you. Could it be he doesnt trust himself and your not going to bring up the fact that he did something in the past while you were together? maybe he is doing it again.
2007-04-24 12:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt trust you then he isnt the right person for you, I would suggest to get out of the relationship because trust is number one when it comes to relationships.
2007-04-24 11:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by Todd B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you love him, but I guess you really need to rethink the situation, because if he has no reason to not trust you, meaning you haven't done anything, then it is not your problem it is his. Either he needs to get over it or deal with it, but you shouldn't have to. Try to put this all in perspective and it might not hurt you as much. Main thing, THIS IS HIS PROBLEM, NOT YOURS!
2007-04-24 11:12:53 · answer #7 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is acting like a little whiney baby. You have not done one single thing to cause him to distrust you. He poor little fragile ego is hurt because you talked to another man. He just can't deal with the possibility that there might me another man on this earth that you find attractive.
If he needs pacified, stick a pacifier in his mouth and tell him to get over it.
2007-04-24 12:46:16 · answer #8 · answered by Sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dag you are in the same boat as me...you have to make him trust you by spending morew time with him and calling and answering the phone all the time, girl just sugar coat everything
2007-04-24 11:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not your problem it is his. Ive been cheated on before and it totally sounds like he may have gone a little further than talk to someone else while you were split up try to get him to fess up until he does tell him you dont want to be together.
2007-04-24 11:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by duncsgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't trust each other to be apart and on your own while you are together, how can you trust each other while one's on holiday? you don't know what he does but if you trust him, go girl, if he doesn't trust you, he may not like you as much, try re-building the trust between you by talking with other uys and seeing how much he reacts to it, if he trusts you with them, you know he lies when he tells you he doesn't trust you, you don't even have to flirt, just talk normally as if they were your friend
2007-04-24 11:13:52 · answer #11 · answered by ttbl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋