What abortion procedure is better?

Question

I have taken 2 tests two days ago and they both are positive. I cant stand the thought of having an abortion (again) because the first was so mentally damaging to me. Its just that I feel like I have a few more things to accomplish before being a mother. I want to have a stable home...I'm not married yet and I was on my way into the military. I have a fiance who is also going into the military however i just dont feel comfortable trying to live off of his paycheck with a baby and just making it by is the last thing i want to put myself through, plus being a mom seems boring right now....As much as I hate to do it however it again is a situation where it must be done. I went to a clinic and she told me if I took the pill I could have blood clots up to the size of an orange (not cool) it costs just as much as the surgical which i had done before, and we're short on funds...im scared that if i wait too long to gather money for the surgical i might not be able to get it done (concience).

and to get rid of these comments I WAS on birth control so just answer my questions and leave your 5 cents at home.

Answer 1

i am here to tell tell abortions is murder. you shouldnt do it but agian its ur choice, but if u dont want it dotn kill it. there is plenty of ppl put there who would be glad to take that baby off ur hands, have it and give it away. leave it at the hospital. dont abort it. further more us condoms or birth control so u cant get pregnant. seeing you have already aborted one child you would have used pretection if you didnt want to gget pregnant.

Answer 2

There are different risks involved in both types of abortions, as I am sure you probably know having had one. I had one (hold back your gasps all of you pro lifers) and it was a medical abortion (the one with the pills). I did not have clots anywhere NEAR the size of an orange, but I was lying on my couch in severe pain for a full day. However, it's a lot less invasive than a surgical abortion, and usually cheaper. I am surprised that this clinic is telling you its the same price, that's not usually the case. Is there somewhere else you can go? Good luck with your decision.

ps.

for the piece of mind of a lot of the women on here who are emotionally disturbed by abortion, trying to conceive, and very hormonal while carrying a child (this is the pregnancy site) your question might be better answered somewhere else, possibly in the polls site? just a suggestion.

Answer 3

I will say that although I am sure that you have many valid reasons for not wanting to be a Mom right now, that "Being a Mom just seems boring right now" is probably not one of the best that you could have put out there. If you are unwilling at this point to make sacrifices for another person, especially a baby in your womb, well then you probably wouldn't be a good mom right now anyway.

Having said that, nobody can make this decision for you. Educate yourself a the planned parenthood website on what is best for you and take action as quickly as you can. Good luck and I hope that you are able to attain your goals before you find yourself pregnant again.

Answer 4

First off, I totally understand how you must be feeling right now, but I have to give you some hard love, hon. If you are not ready to have a child or ready for the responsibility, you should have been on birth control pills or some sort of contraception to prevent this from happening. i am sorry to say, but you kind of brought this on yourself.

There are other options besides abortion. There are hundreds and thousands of couples who cannot have children and would love to adopt a baby. Maybe you should consider adoption, that way you are admitting that you are not ready for the responsibility, and you would be able to help another couple who cannot have children, have children if you know what I mean. That way, you could still go into the military and move on with your life and when you are ready to have kids, you can.

Good luck, you have a big decision to make.

In response to your latest comment, keep in mind, birth control is never 100% effective, yes it is 98% effective, but that leaves 2% that can get pregnant on the pill. Maybe you need to practice abstinance until you are ready to have children.

My first baby was not planned, I was in college, I was not financially stable, unmarried. Not an ideal time to have a baby. BUT, I chose to have the child anyway, I didn't take the cowards way out and get an abortion just because a baby was not convenient at that particular point in time. I then got married and it took us five years, FIVE YEARS to get pregnant again. I was not on any sort of birth control for those five years either. My point is, the good lord only gives you what he thinks you can handle and every thing happens for a reason. Maybe you getting pregnant was his way of giving you another chance at being a parent. If you p-i-s-s it away, you may never get another chance. Sorry to be so blunt, but that's just the way it is. There are lots of people out there who would give their right arm to have a baby and can't and then there are people like you out there who have no problem getting pregnant, take the selfish way out and abort the child. Do us all a favor, have the baby, give it up for adoption. Go to your doctor and get an IUD device put in until you ready emotionally, maturity, and financially to have a baby. If you don't think that will ever happen, just get your tubes tied. You have opened up a can of worms here and you will get alot of hostile answers.

Answer 5

I just went through a chemical abortion 3 weeks ago. It wasn't pleasant but it was the right choice for me - I couldn't stand the thought of an invasive procedure. Here's my experience. About an hour after inserting the 5 pills I started cramping and diarrhea. Within 2 hours I was vomiting, bleeding heavy and had the chills. All of this lasted about 6 hours, and was extremely unpleasant but once morning arrived I felt perfectly fine - just exhausted from being up all night in pain. There were some blood clots but nothing very big. I had bleeding like a period for 11 days afterwards. I went back a week later and the doctor said everything looked fine. In a week I'll take another pregnancy test just to be sure. Best of luck to you whatever you decide. Please do not let others influence your beliefs about abortion. It was a very difficult decision for me too and very emotionally draining but every day I feel a little bit better.

Answer 6

I don't think anyone can really answer this question but you. You are probably about to get a lot of people going off on how if you didn't want one, you should be using protection, not having sex, etc...all things that are really a moot point right now. I am worried about you though...if the first one bothered you, I am afraid of what a second one will do, no matter how you choose to do it. If they are close in cost, than the price does not sound like the real issue to me, but maybe it is...The surgical procedure is obviously faster, and less graphic...but if you think you can handle the other way, than there's your answer...I really wish you the best...say a prayer or two maybe, for some guidance and if you believe in what you need to do, do not let anyone else tell you any differently. Best wishes to you....

Answer 7

I did it the pill way. It's just as physically (and mentally) exhausting, but i can't stand the thought of anethesia. The blood clots were NOT the size of an orange, but they were excessive. And the only time i went through pain is when i took it that night. I was up between 2-6am bawling and just walking around in a circle because the cramps were so intense. It does cost way more, but it's a matter of choice. You also have to go back to make sure the procedure was 100% effective, unlike surgical, but luckily 90% of the time it is. Good luck with whatever it is you choose to do, sweetie.

Answer 8

OK first of all you know what causes pregnancy I assume due to you already being prego once and ending that one so you really should have thought about the down falls of getting prego before having sex and my suggestion is put you military career on hold for a year and give the baby up for adoption and then carry on with you plan and when you feel that it is not boring the be a mom then maybe you will have grown up enough to have a baby.

Answer 9

Can you not get it done at Planned Parenthood? I don't mean to sound silly...but maybe a payment plan?? I'd definately get the surgical one done...as with the pill you never know if it has all come out, and you may need a d&c. You are opening yourself up here to a lot of pro-lifers...just remember its your body and your choice. Maybe look into a better birth control in the future. Good Luck with whatever you chose to do.

Answer 10

First of all, abortion is not a way of getting rid of unwanted children you don't want to concieve after opening your legs. Everytime you open your legs, you are accepting the responsibility and fact that you may take the chance of getting pregnant. And to hear that you already had 1 abortion and this will be your 2nd abortion, is just mind blowing. How irresponsible are you? You already took the life of 1 child, because of of your negligence and now you plan to take the life a 2nd child? Here's a suggestion get your tubes tyed if you are so against bringing a child into this world, that you laid down to make. Better yet, close your legs! And hearing you say, you don't want to be a mother because it might be boring?? It shows your extreme immaturity... I'm glad that you are so worried about your own health, but you do not think twice when you are opening your legs! In cocnclusion, grow up!.....And please do your future,innocent unborn fetus's a favor and keep your legs closed!

Answer 11

I am totally pro choice hun, but I am not for people using abortion as birth control. You need to smarten up with your sex life. Both methods have ups and downs, and I don't think one or the other would make your emotional distress less. If you felt guilty after the first one chances are you will feel just as guilty if not more after this one. Good Luck and no don't let people nag at you but you do need to change something so you don't keep ending up here.