How do we stop a 46 yr old woman from emailing, im-ing, posting my space chats to 17yr old boy?

Question

Our son is dating a girl who's MOTHER is constantly "chatting" with my son as well as most of his friends-male and female. She's called my son an "***" for doing things she didn't agree with, has posted on MY SPACE that he uses drugs. We plan on speaking with her, but legally don't see that we can do anything about her behavior or postings. Advice please.

Answer 1

What is she thinking. Your son is a CHILD!

I agree, talk to her. If you get nowhere with her, contact a lawyer. At the least it would be harrassment and slander.

Answer 2

First let me say, wow, look where technology has taken us.

Second, have you talked to your son about this and told him you aren't too comfortable with him having a friend ship with his girlfriend's mom via myspace and chats? I think that might be your only clear effort. Also, if this girl's mom is so into her high school daughter's social life, the girl has to either support it or hate it. It she supports it, maybe she's not the best fit for your son. The mother may not stop talking to every 17 year old, but at least she won't be talking to your son.

Contacting the mother and having an "adult" conversation with her is the only way to resolve the issue with her. I suggest it be face to face and that you really discuss the issues of her slandering your son.

I wish I could help out more, but it's a ridiculous situation. Women determined to be their teenage daughter's best friend rarely give that up.

Answer 3

Nothing legally? Sue her for slander, have her remove any derogatory commentary, and have her post a public apology (create a public video that has been looked at before hand by your lawyer, where she is expressing her public apology) (a thought only)--I would even seek to have it more public than on the internet...she should publicly apologize (without public jeers from you) and she should do community work. This is what you want your lawyer to seek to have a judge mandate. You have got to prove that all the things that she has accused your son of doing are, in fact, a lie...and make sure you make a COPY of everything that she has posted that would lead to the discredit of his reputation. She needs to be stopped.

Do not attempt to talk to her. Anything you say can be used against you.

Answer 4

I do see a legal issue here. Do you or can you get copies of her postings on MY SPACE? A 17 yr old boy is a minor....by her posting information about him, true or untrue, is at least some kind of defamation of character, you have the proof with her postings. You also may be able to press charges for endangering the welfare of a minor, or something similar if she is giving advice or telling him what to do. Maybe even an Internet stalking charge.
My advice to you would be to contact an attorney. They will usually talk to you on the phone for free about the issue(s) at hand.

Answer 5

Good LORD. Jump her sagging asss.

No, on the real though..maybe it would be a good idea for your son and her daughter to "take a break" while you work things out with her. It might be a good idea to go to counseling with all of you, you and your son, her and her daughter. This way you can talk things out and come to an agreement in a controlled environment.

That's a pretty reasonable thing to ask of her. Taking legal action will not help the relationship between your son and her daughter. If she refuses to speak civilly with you, well..unfortunately it might be better that your son moves on.

Answer 6

Hmmm... This doesn't seem right. You definatley have to speak with this woman, and fast before anything else can happen with her. You should stop your son speaking to her and warn the parents/guardins of the other kids involved.
When you speak to her stay carm and if things get out of hand leave and alert the police. Because i'm sure tis can come under harrasment...
I hope thing work out for you and your family
x x x

Answer 7

How about introducing your son to a life without Myspace...I hear it exists. Unfortunately, because of the vast resourse the internet has become there is little you can do. If your son has experienced any sort of harm from the woman and you know who she is, possibly consult an attorney to find out if any laws or civil wrongs have been committed.

Answer 8

First you should talk to her and let her know that you are aware of her behavior but be very tactful and maybe even ask her what are her intentions? She might have good and genuine intentions like just looking over her own children and watching their behavior?
Then, you should teach your son to make his account on myspace private. That way only his friends will be able to access it and alot of problems like this will go away. He is 17 so he might have friends older than 18 but there there is also an option to not allow anyone over 18 to contact him. That's just there and I thought you should know...Good luck

Answer 9

Hi, I just read your question. I would look into the laws in your area. The written word is much more powerful than the spoken one as evidence and this is both liable and slanderous to your son and family's reputation. I would tell her that if she does not remove the posts, that you would seek legal recourse. See if that doesn't change her tune. Good luck and let us know how you make out.
Best,
Karen

Answer 10

See a lawyer. Soon. If she's posting misinformation on MySpace, that could be construed as libel because it's in written form. If this harassment just because she wants to break them up? Or does she have some type of pathology that could lead to escalated behavior? Like I said - see a lawyer. Soon.