If I start to help others,does that mean I will be helping myself?

Answer 1

It will make others feel happy being helped by you and you will feel better about yourself and happier knowing that you are making others happy. Good feeling, i love helping others as well. Good on you, you seem very kind.:)))

Answer 2

YESS!! A big YES.

Every action gas an equal and opposite reaction. Even if you do not want to receive any return, you will be forced to do it when the time ripens. After all, there are no 'others'. All are realted to you, whether you feel it or not. Here's an explanation:

Sacrifice

There's nothing in life that can take place without sacrifice. Everything we achieve or receive can be traced as a result of some sacrifice. This we all understand, more or less. But only generalized understanding may mean superficial understanding in many cases. Understanding, unless it pervades all dimensions of the mind, emotions included, can't activate the mind strongly enough so as to help make choices.

Making choices is a precondition for making decisions, for decision making means limiting the number of choices with reference to certain standards. And this is where the concept of sacrifice becomes very relevant. In fact, making a choice involves making a sacrifice.

The concept of sacrifice, which doesn't necessarily involve a religious overtone, can be more effectively understood by comparing and contrasting it with the concepts of expenditure, loss, and wastage.

Expenditure can be defined as an investment waiting to be discovered as either a gain or a loss.

A loss is expenditure that has lost its promise. Wastage refers to the loss of resource due to inefficient management. While loss is investment identified as unpromising, wastage is the loss of resource in a way which was either not predicted or not meant to be an investment. In other words, loss is the decrease in the input and wastage is the decrease in the output. Among these three concepts, sacrifice can't be compared with any, though it can be contrasted with all of them. Sacrifice is neither expenditure nor loss, nor wastage - it's investment that never fails.

If you want to be a knowledgeable professor, you must sacrifice a lot of time, effort, pleasure, sleep, convenience, etc. If, likewise, you want to be a good leader, you'll need to sacrifice ease of life, rest, personal desires, narrow emotions, and so on. Those who believe in the Hereafter do, because they must, sacrifice much in this life. Those who are atheists sacrifice, at least in the eyes of believers in a Hereafter, something greater than anybody else does - that is, the life of eternal peace and enjoyment in the Hereafter. If you want to enjoy what you call chastity (whether you're a man or a woman being of no special concern), then you have to sacrifice the pleasure of free sex. On the contrary, if you want to enjoy free sex, then you must sacrifice chastity. In a word, there's sacrifice everywhere.

So if you want to have a long-term plan for success in life, then you have to sit with a piece of paper and a pencil to make a list of:

What you've already sacrificed without any motive - that is, wasted;

What you've sacrificed with definite purposes and what you've achieved;

What things you should have sacrificed but you haven't;

What things you shouldn't have sacrificed but you have;

What things you need to sacrifice in the future to achieve certain goals; and

If you make the required sacrifice, what important things or opportunities you may have to lose in the future.

Remember that you can consciously or unconsciously sacrifice the following:

Material resource
Time
Opportunity
Mental states
Freedom
Relationships
Fame
Power
Security, and above all
Life.

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http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbnInquiry.asp?z=y&EAN=9781581124842&itm=4
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Answer 3

Yes, is there something wrong with helping yourself? Absolutely not. You cannot help other's or understand their needs if you do not understand and fulfill your own needs. How would you no the value of a good book if you have not read it...and you give the book to someone to give them that value. Let's say the value of peace. You win by not having an enemy and you are rewarded with the happiness of a giver.

Answer 4

Ahh the good old Altruism debate!

I remember doing this in psychology and we ended up concluding it doesn't exist!

For example - you see a kitten drowning in a river - so you jump after it and save it! Selfless act? NO - if you didn't save the kitten you would have felt guilt so in effect you do it to make yourself feel better.

Everything we do we do for some reason or we get something out of it. Even donating to charity makes you feel good about yourself.
Volunteering may be to get experience- to give us something to do, to get status inthe community etc etc

The sad truth is we will only do things if it helps us in some way - even if it is a simple thing like making us feel good.
I guess the important thing is tough - that we did it.

Answer 5

Yes, it's amazing how much you get back when helping others. It makes us realize how fortunate we are, that there are many other people out there with worse problems than we have and it makes you feel good about yourself. It is definitely helping yourself and others at the same time.

Answer 6

I work in a charity shop which helps others & in turn helps me, as I have got something to put on my cv, it stops me been bored, I get to meet new people from all walks of life & gets me out of the house
I don't get paid but it's good I am doing something for the community & helping others less fortunate than me

Answer 7

One great irony in life is that you get good things by giving, not taking. BUT, the intent must be pure, not selfish, otherwise you will ruin the outcome.

Answer 8

yes i think so. helping others always benefits you. You feel better about yourself but you always get it back tenfold. It's just a nice thing to do regardless.

Answer 9

Yes it does. The experience will be good for you. To see the joy in the eyes of someone you've helped will be worth it.

Answer 10

I think you do feel a sense of satisfaction if you help someone in need, That's whats life's all about, giving help where needed if you can..........